Hubby and I are planning for another baby soon. LO is two now and we would like to get started on finding a new OB/MF asap. Our last experience was a horror. Basically bullied into getting a c-section because my OB failed to tell me he was going on vacation to the Hamptons the weekend of my due date. (Which he knew about in advance. I heard him plan my c-section with my "midwife" outside the exam room door. But I tried to have faith in nature.I should have confronted and changed OBs then.)
Long story short = PROM, overly invasive midwife (too many vaginal exams), bad hospital staff/policies that refused to let me walk around and had me tied down to monitors, labor almost 24 hours, 9cm dilated with his head down and showing, bullied into a c-section and found out weeks later that a natural vaginal birth would have been possible if everyone didn't want to go home on a Sunday night.
SO... I am looking for any OB in the Bergen or Hudson county area that is truly VBAC friendly. My previous OB claimed to be VBAC friendly but it turns out that he only tries his hardest with his Orthodox patients since it is a religious issue. Anyone else and they are just put down the conveyor belt of "sections" as he called it.
I have heard some good things about Avalon Midwives and Lonnie Morris but am really skeptical about midwifery. It seems to be more of a business that has taken hold of the "fad" of natural birth.
I also know that NJ has one of the worst vbac rates ever.
So, if you have had a VBAC.. please.. tell me your story and recommend an OB. PLEASE!
After having such a traumatic experience.. I would really like to avoid having my son taken away from me for almost half a day right after giving birth, have him in my arms less than 30 minutes and then have him carted off the the nicu for "precautionary" reasons. When there isn't anything wrong with him in the end and I have ended up with an unnecessary c-section that would have been prevented if my MW wasn't so eager to check me every 45 minutes.
If I sound bitter... it probably is because I still have really unresolved issues with my whole pregnancy and delivery. I feel tricked and have lost faith in health care as something to trust. Anyway... any help would be appreciated.
I do not know if I can go through such an ordeal again.