my friend is going through a really rough time. We are a group of four women, all had their third child and three of them are perfectly healthy, but the last woman gave birth to a very, very sick baby.
they did not know before birth, it was a normal delivery, but the baby boy did not breath, was rescucitated and ventilated. After a couple of weeks they found out that he has chondroplasia punctata and very likly broke his neck at the delivery, causing him severe breathing problems. He is not tetraplegic though, he does move - a bit.
They will get him home next week, he will need to stay on a ventilator. A nurse is coming for 16 hours a day, they can choose which times.
How can I help the mother? She is quite quiet and shy, not aksing for anything, sometimes she does accept help as in taking her kids in and stuff (but this is done by one of the other women, since she lives really close to the hospital)
I am wondering for example the baptism of my dd2, i would like to invite her but i don`t want to cause pain for her. we at´re not that close, because she is so quiet and calm and i am so not. it is difficult for me to know what people think if they don't openly tell me, if ykwm.