did any of you find that you needed to hire a doula or have someone else besides your partner there for the birth, because your partner didn't really understand how to be supportive during labor?
It is normally something I can cope with, the lack of empathy and emotional support. But whenever I am hurt or very sick or in labor/having contractions, it really stresses me out to have my partner just standing several feet away staring at me. I try to give him specific instructions and he just has no natural talent for being comforting. I think I will have to figure out someone I am comfortable with to be there with me. I would prefer it be my partner, but I think I need to stop wishing for something that can never happen.
I'm posting this after being up half the night with contractions. I'm only 30wks so I was pretty worried. They have stopped now, thankfully. I just hate feeling so alone going through this. I've tried to communicate this many times to him, hopefully you guys here will understand that he just does not get it. I don't think he has the ability to understand what I mean. I'm not mad at him, I know he can't help it, I'm more just very sad and feel very alone.