Ladies, I need some help here. I have read (most of) TCOYF and read the FDA information on pretty much every birth control out there that is breastfeeding-safe, but I still am not sure what to do. And I'm starting to panic, because BC is really necessary at this point!
The bottom line is, I hate, hate, hate drugs. I hate them. I don't like to take them, even painkillers, unless completely necessary. I have had a lot of mental health problems (eating disorders & anxiety) and a lot of nutritional/gut problems (probably caused by that) and I just don't like anything, really, that changes the way my body works. I also recently gave up coffee for this reason. I'm trying to "tune in" and listen to my body, so to speak, and I do not at all like the way drugs alter things subtly.
When DS was born, I chose Mirena for 2 simple reasons: 1) I was very young and very broke and very scared of having another baby anytime soon and 2) I was very poorly informed. I had it removed when he was 18 months so that we could TTC (February '10). I haven't used any BC since that time. DD was born Jan '11, my cycle returned Jan '12, and since then I've been charting and praying we don't get pregnant. I did get pregnant in February, and MC around 7 weeks. Since then, I've had a hard time gathering my wits and my emotions and my time trying to get this sorted. I'm so overwhelmed by not being able to make this decision, and really not wanting to be pregnant again, that I've flat out told DH we're abstinent until I figure this out!
I am doing a thorough job charting but I just feel like my body is completely unpredictable right now. My cycle is short, really, really short, my ovulation day and days spent actually bleeding keeps changing and I just feel like I can't keep up.
At first, I was leaning toward Paragard because it's 1) an IUD and highly reliable for preventing pregnancy, 2) long-term and 3) compatible with breastfeeding. Then I started reading and I swear everyone out there has got a Paragard horror story! Has anyone used it and been glad they did?
Anyone? A recommendation in this situation? A birth control you have used for awhile and are happy with? Help, please! TIA.