Thanks for the sentiments, Linda.
My experience working with schools is that nothing happens instantly. It all takes time to percolate, but that those letters from doctors DO make a difference -- schools loving having them for files.
I'm learning this as well! It took almost 2 years to get my DS a DX and I had a previous evaluation from the school that he was "not on the spectrum". It's like pulling teeth to get anything done! You have to be reeeeeeeaaalllly patient and strong and determined. I'm starting to become that person, although it's against my softspoken personality.
Or neither; the school district may be uninformed (it happens...a lot) and the doctor only has partial information (the school can accept a private evaluation in lieu of conducting their own evaluation--but generally don't.
Hmmmm. didn't think about that option. The Dev. Ped seemed convinced that they would do this - as if she's had it done before. I'm waiting for a return call from her and then maybe that will clear things up.
Your state DOE also has to offer parent training in special education services.
Good to hear about the parent training. The doctor also recommended this on the letter she wrote to the school. I will check out my state law regarding ESY and the 60 day evaluation period. At this point, no matter what I find out, I'm thinking it's going to be a fight to get my son the services he needs from the SD.
Though your school is entitled to conduct their own evaluation, you are entitled to an IEE (independent educational evaluation) if you do not agree with the school's conclusions. If you make your doctor's evaluation and recommendations part of your ds' educational record (by giving it to the school), it will be more difficult for the school to justify basing their conclusions on a "good day"; and even if they do you are still entitled to an IEE. Also, wrightslaw (in All About IEPs) says that having your (private) evaluator present at the IEP meeting can be more effective that just having their report; considering your ds' history of "performing" well in evaluations it may be a good idea to have your Dr. there. My ds' school accepted the conclusions of our private evaluation so having the Dr. there wasn't necessary for us.
If I feel they are not going to help us, I will go this route. Would you typically offer to pay the DR or Evaluator to attend this meeting?
Will read the books. My library does not have them, so I have to order them special from another library.
Fizgig- that dingy room would have made my mind up right then and there as well! I have a friend who is a SE teacher. I think from what she has told me, she does alot of scolding and "forcing" them to do things. She says "you have to make them do things they don't want to." I don't know much, but I would never force DS to wash his hair when he is screaming "It hurts". Or do anything that is an issue to him. She says "It doesn't really hurt, he just doesn't want to do it because it's uncomfortable." Whatever the reason, if they are forcing the students to comply with things, I wouldn't want him to come into contact with a teacher like that.
Well, I made the first appointment with the school district for DS. It's tomorrow at 3. It's just an appointment to get the evaluations started. I have to meet with the Chairperson of the school and we have to explain our concerns and I think she is going to figure out from there what types of evaluations he needs. Until recently I've never really came up with a list of "concerns". I never knew the difference between what was typical and what wasn't. But since preparing to see the Dev. Ped's - now I have a pretty good list to present to this chairperson. I'm making progress.
Oh - if anyone has any advice for this first meeting it would be so helpful!