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post #21 of 35
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Originally Posted by Youngfrankenstein View Post

We saw a back up dr with my dd's check up before kindy.  She is skinny!  The dr said we should switch to 2% milk.  It was nutty.  I don't "believe in" eating and drinking low fat dairy.  But it was such an odd, out of the blue thing.

I can't believe that whole milk and dairy in a normal diet is making everyone fat.

Yeah! He wanted me to skip to SKIM milk. That seems basically like sugar water to me - all the healthy part of the milk has been taken out. I'm not giving my kid skim milk regardless of what he thinks.
post #22 of 35
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Originally Posted by mamazee View Post


Yeah! He wanted me to skip to SKIM milk. That seems basically like sugar water to me - all the healthy part of the milk has been taken out. I'm not giving my kid skim milk regardless of what he thinks.

 

Gag. You couldn't have forced that down my throat when I was 2. I grew up on 2% then switched to whole when I was on my own. My dad and I both practically always lived on dairy products, and the ONLY time I've ever gained a substantial amount of weight was when I was drinking one to two chocolate shakes everyday the first two months that I was lactating (and that was only b/c otherwise I wasn't getting enough calories in w/my ex not helping at all and DD would not let me put her down so I could eat). I gained 40 lbs. But ONE milkshake is the equivalent of 3 big bowls of ice cream, so THAT'S what it took for me to gain. And didn't lose one pound until I quit breastfeeding, then it all just fell off little by little, and here I am at 32 yrs old and 115 lbs or so. You would think the doctor would look at ME and think, nope, doesn't look like a family of overeaters. 

 

Funniest thing was when she mentioned cheese and yogurt, and I said DD gets lots of both and we don't even necessarily drink milk everyday. It just depends what's on the menu, and she said DD SHOULD be drinking milk with every meal, and have water in between, then maybe a glass of juice somewhere in the middle. 

 

I'm just thinking...huh? If it ain't broke...

 

DD loves milk, though. So do I. Between DD not being vaxed and being exposed daily to polio, measles, tetanus, and diptheria, I don't think it's the whole milk that's going to kill her.

 

Think I will make lasagna for dinner tonight and see if CPS shows up to investigate. And just maybe we'll only visit the playground twice today. I might even put a movie on with dinner. 

post #23 of 35

Seems like he wasnt concerned with her TOTAL weight, but concerned with the DIFFERENCE of her weight from previous checkup to 2 year checkup. How many pounds did she gain between 18 month and 24 month checkup? The way you said it in the initial post sounds like -that- was what he was concerned about, not her over all weight. I could be wrong but that's how you phrased it.
 

post #24 of 35

Wow is that NOT a fat baby.  Rowan is just over 29 lbs and 33" at 15 months, 98th for both height and weight and our ped hasn't said a word about it...

post #25 of 35
Yep, my DD turned two in March and she is 23 lbs, 32 inches, with a head circumference of 47''. No whole milk for wic. Stupid policies.
post #26 of 35
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Originally Posted by graciegal View Post

Seems like he wasnt concerned with her TOTAL weight, but concerned with the DIFFERENCE of her weight from previous checkup to 2 year checkup. How many pounds did she gain between 18 month and 24 month checkup? The way you said it in the initial post sounds like -that- was what he was concerned about, not her over all weight. I could be wrong but that's how you phrased it.
 

 

DD's doctor has only seen DD one time prior and hasn't yet gotten her records from previous doctor. Last time we went in was just a few weeks ago, DD was sick and hadn't been eating much, so she would have weighed less, but they didn't measure her height that time, I don't think. Just weighed her, took her temp, looked in her ears, eyes, nose, and mouth. Her last wellness visit was over 6 mos ago b/c we've been waiting for insurance/doctor/network issues to be sorted out, and that was a doctor whose records this doctor doesn't have access to. But again, the doctor at THIS visit was looking at the percentage numbers, which were written in the wrong spots.

 

In reality, DD is 25% for HEIGHT and 10% for WEIGHT, therefore rather on the thin side for her height.

 

The numbers were written wrong on the sheet the doctor filled out and handed to me, and I didn't realize that until a PP pointed it out. But even if that were not the case, this doctor not having any info on my daughter prior to this wellness visit and a quick check when she was sick 3 wks ago, it is silly for her to think twice about allowing her to continue drinking whole milk. If she were 5lbs heavier, she would still be in normal range for her height. 

 

Anyway, the doctor will see a shocking reversal in numbers next time we go in, 6 mos from now, which will hopefully cause the doctor to notice the previous error so that I don't have to point it out. 

post #27 of 35

Honestly I wouldn't wait until next time.  I'd call the office and be complaining they told me a child who was in the 10% percentile for weight was labeled as overweight.  

post #28 of 35
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I'd rather not. I just started taking DD there, and felt like I overreacted when I took her in the first time while she was sick (by the time we went in, she was doing so much better). Just going to let it go for now. The doc did sign off on the whole milk WIC form for DD, and in the long run, she'll see DD is not getting fat in the slightest, so it's a moot point. I initially posted because I was just so shocked when I left her office after that conversation since I've always thought of DD as on the petite/thin side and have never entertained the idea that someone else might, however mistakenly, think she was anything but that. 

post #29 of 35
So she's very thin, but used to be even thinner yet? They should be glad she gained weight. I swear, you can't win. If your kid is too thin, they want you to make htem gain weight, unless it happens outside of their direction, in which case apparently it makes them overweight.
post #30 of 35
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Originally Posted by bananabee View Post

Just came home from a doctor appt...my DD's 2 yr check up. She weighed in at 22 lbs 15 oz, she is 32 1/2 inches tall, and her head circumference is 48cm. 

 

Mind you, this was right after lunch and drinking about 8 oz of water, diaper was off, and right before we left, she pooped in the potty (yippee!!). So, c'mon! She easily could have lost a pound and a half before walking out the door. Now I wish I had asked them to re-weigh her. 

 

The doctor wrote her numbers down for me, with percentiles, told me she was concerned about her weight gain, and almost refused to sign the WIC paper that allows DD to keep getting whole milk after she turned 2. 

 

Fyi, I am 115 lbs, and have never been heavy except while breastfeeding AND drinking milkshakes every day. I lose weight unless I consciously eat to gain. She is a high energy child, very active, good sleeper, and not a big eater unless she REALLY likes something AND she's very hungry. So odd. 

 

Anyway, for height, she is in the 10%, weight 25%, and head circ 75%. She just turned 2. Even if her weight is accurate, it sounds to me like she's probably due for a height growth spurt any day now. We go back in 6 mos, so we shall see. I'll make an earlier appt then and she'll probably be too skinny based on her height and they'll want me to butte everything she eats. 

 

What do you mamas think?

 

Also, her iron today was 11.6, and at 1 yr old it was just under 11, but the WIC office sent that info to her previous doctor, and he had a COW that I was "still" breastfeeding and she was not eating a ton of solids. He stressed that low iron could affect her intelligence and me breastfeeding her was having a negative impact on her appetite (nevermind that we didn't have air conditioning and it was 100 degrees much of that summer...so not like I was going to be cooking), but was reluctant to give her an iron supplement. That, and other things like the fact he refused to test her lead levels even though we had only lived in homes built in the 1930s, AND the fact her iron had been slightly low...

 

Mind-boggling considering he tested my best friend's two children at 1 yr and they lived in a nice new house, ate meat, fish, tons of beans, lots of veggies, etc. But when I asked him to test DD based on my concerns, he brushed me aside saying "Did she eat any old paint recently?" Then when I thought she had strep, he treated her for thrush, then told me if it didn't go away, she probably had DIPTHERIA!! 

So we switched doctors at HIS request (not that I would ever have gone back there). And finally, after a year of having wacky insurance issues, we finally got established with a new doctor, and I think she's good, but I get the feeling she thinks I'm a little nuts already...wanting to keep a TWO YEAR OLD on whole milk instead of 2%. Yeah, crazy. Not wanting to vax my TWO YEAR OLD who has barely been sick ever, but who has more than likely inherited my autoimmune issues, one of which is narcolepsy, and now there is actual research going on since the last couple of years have shown surges in the occurrence of narcolepsy in children 4 yrs old to 19 yrs old Scandinavia who received the Pandremix swine flu vaccine...which is causing a real tizzy in the autoimmune world of research. When I shared that with the doctor, she basically said that it sounded made up. I've been told in the past that I surprise people with how much smarter I am than they thought at first impression, so maybe that is part of the issue. 

 

When I said I wanted to wait on vaxing until more research came out because narcolepsy has a devastating effect on a person's life, she said "Well, so does polio." I hate it when doctors are so sure of themselves. Is she going to go look up what I talked about? Nope. She'll go to bed tonight thinking to herself, "No wonder that crazy single narcoleptic mom is divorced." 

*sigh*


UGH! Doctors....

 

I have stopped going until I can get a big enough backbone to tell them off. My 16 month old is 33 inches and 25 lbs. if that makes you feel any better. She will always be on whole milk because that is just what we have/get. We haven't tested her for lead, our house was built in '26 and we have been remodeling, but guess what, I am NOT letting them put me on a 'watch' list for CPS. Her last dr. visit was at 9 months and she ended up getting her 2nd flu shot, which they assured me was her first. Well guess what, she got the flu anyway.

 

Well, anyway, DH just pulled into the driveway and DD is waking up, but I totally feel for ya.

post #31 of 35
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Originally Posted by Just1More View Post

Did you mean to type 22lbs?  Because that sounds underweight to me, by a lot.  My ds weighed that by about 6m old, and all of mine have by a year...

 

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Originally Posted by Honey693 View Post

That's crazy.  DD2 is 21lbs at 18 months and her doctor was worried about her being underweight and told me to keep both my kids (3.5 and 1.5) on full fat everything for awhile longer.  Your doctor just sounds awful.  Can you file a complaint with someone?  From what you're saying it honestly sounds like he's being negligent just b/c he doesn't like the fact that you're nursing.


This is what I was thinking. I just started ADDING cream to DD's whole milk because I can see some ribs when she is shirtless.

post #32 of 35
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Originally Posted by jrose_lee View Post

My ds is about 22 lbs and he's only 5 months old.  It was the same with my older two boys as well.  Babies/Toddlers are meant to be chubby.  They slim out quick around three years old.  Sounds like you're doing great, mama!  Healthy fats are great for kids. 


Yeah, Now that I think about it our neighbors 9 month old is 20 lbs. I think she said. I know its not far from my 16 months old weight.

 

Oops, I'm over replying agian...bad habit!

post #33 of 35
At one doctor's visit with my older son, he was around 45% for height but higher for weight (50-60%). He was over two years old. My doctor did mention to watch what he was eating. I just smiled and nodded. He certainly didn't look chunky. The next time he went (a different doctor due to moving) he had evened out. I figure he had been putting weight before a growth spurt. My feeling is that being uneven once it isn't a big call for concern. If it is appointment after appointment then maybe there is something to consider diet-wise.
post #34 of 35

Doctors have so little nutrition training--maybe once class back in med school-- and too many unfortunately don't realize their vast knowledge gaps and are comfortable spouting off nonsense. Toddlers need fat, end of story. Kids who are chubby because they consume tons of sugar and empty calories are a problem, but it's not the chubbiness that's the issue. (and your lovely daughter isn't even chubby, so who knows what this doc is thinking!)

post #35 of 35
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Originally Posted by evabea View Post

Doctors have so little nutrition training--maybe once class back in med school-- and too many unfortunately don't realize their vast knowledge gaps and are comfortable spouting off nonsense. Toddlers need fat, end of story. Kids who are chubby because they consume tons of sugar and empty calories are a problem, but it's not the chubbiness that's the issue. (and your lovely daughter isn't even chubby, so who knows what this doc is thinking!)

 

Very true. Here's a more recent pic of DD and her BFF that has been labeled "failure to thrive", and they are the same height & weight: DSC01366.JPG

 

They were having a blast in some big mud puddles on our playground. Haha. We couldn't ask for more spunky active normal THRIVING kids, IMO. 

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