Absolutely love yourself regardless of your child's sex. Fake it til you make it, but keep it away from the babies I grew up with an anorexic mom and, though I've never been myself, I still have disordered views about my body.
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This. My mother was bulimic. She still might be, though she swears she's better now. I grew up being treated differently than my brothers, fed different foods, told I wouldn't be loved if I were 'fat'. Just the other day on the phone she asked about my weight gain and I was honest with her and she kinda 'went off' about it. I've never had an eating disorder myself, but when you have a mother with one it's a strange, complicated mix of 'I don't want to be like her, I want to love and accept myself' and 'in order for my mother to accept me and be proud of me I must be thin'. Talk about inner turmoil! I have struggled with this complex issue for years, been very vocal about it with my partner, and am conscious of the kind of mother I want to be for my daughter-if-I-have-one. My son is confident, loving, beautiful, and believes he is a handsome, cool, smart kid because I made it my goal to tell him EVERY day how great he is. Because of my own relationship with mom, I know mother-daughter relationships can be significantly more fraught with issues and tension and I am readying myself for the challenge and the blessing. I want to raise my children without shame, to see themselves reflected in my eyes as the perfect beings they are, and to eat for nourishment and for pleasure, but to listen to their bodies wisdom. Our culture may be a hostile place for women's bodies, but our homes can be a haven.
Yes, also love those last comments!!!
On the weight note, anyone having trouble gaining weight?
I'm gluten-dairy free, and we have a farm, and I eat super healthy and really haven't changed my diet much. I do find it difficult to eat extra, and am trying to throw nuts and pumpkin seeds and hemp seed (for protein) into my salad and such, but have been experiencing a lot of digestive bloating after I eat. Still eating, and very healthy. That said, by 11 weeks I'd only gained 2 lbs (though I felt for sure I'd gained 10!) and now I"m at 16 weeks tomorrow, and have stayed the same, not gaining anything. My doctors aren't too concerned, as I'm not throwing up, losing fluids, and am eating healthy... but I'm trying to incorporate more protein into my diet nonetheless.
Anyone else have this problem?
I'm gluten free, too! I don't know exactly what I weighed before I got pregnant, but I was shocked to be only 110 pounds when I went to the doctor last week. I usually settle around 120 when I'm not pregnant. My doctor was not too concerned, but I have tried to increase the nut butters and all that. I think without gluten, I'm just not snacking as much. I got really sick about a year ago (thus the gluten free diet), and lost a lot of weight. I was definitely carrying around some residual baby weight from my first pregnancy. Anyway, I'm not too sure if I actually have a gluten intolerance (did not test positive for celiac), but I'm also afraid to experiment with eating it while I'm pregnant.
Yup, I've heard allergies/intolerances can go away in pregnancy, but I'm too nervous to try it out as the gluten/dairy caused me so many chronic health problems over the years!! I've added chicken into my diet, and fish, but same thing, not so much for snacking. Craving fresh fruits and vegs, my chocolate addiction has seriously gone down, and now just trying to work more protein into the diet since my weight gain is so little. So hard-boiled eggs, pumpkin seeds, walnuts, and hemp seed added to my salad, chicken, fish products, peanut butter... I think I'm doing okay on the protein, but wouldn't mind gaining a bit more :)
Has a tiny lol Ms Rabbit - think after i had DD2 one of my LEGS weighed 113! ;P
I will weigh tomorrow. Oddly i look thinner if anything (the size 16 (UK) maternity jeans i got from Gap are falling off me) but i'm expecting a gain because i discovered this week that if the confection i have contains dried fruit or nuts it does NOT make me sick and sadly i have rather over indulged in raisin cake and whole nut chocolate....
I'm still fluctuating a pound or two around my starting weight. My nausea and vomiting are starting to fade, but I'm also almost out of Zofran, so we'll see how the next week or so goes.
Last pregnancy my neuro had me on cyproheptadine in an attempt to control my daily migraines. I had been on it a few months and I remember one night sitting on the couch with my laptop, a container of vanilla ice cream balanced on my belly, and finding out that it was also used as an appetite stimulant. That was one of several reasons I gained a ton of weight last time (and am still carrying it around). I'm determined to NOT find myself eating ice cream out of the container this time.
Interesting to see how many were in the process of losing weight before getting pregnant. I had lost 30lbs over the past six months and was feeling good. So one of my first thoughts (after "yay!") was that I would gain those 30lbs back. But that's not necessarily true. I am still continuing my healthier eating habits and exercise, so I've only gained 4lbs now at almost 14 weeks. I feel good about that. My goal is to keep the weight gain under 20lbs, but I'm not going to be too hard on myself if I go over. It's still frustrating when I go to buy maternity clothes though, since there's not much selection in the plus-sizes. :-/
I am only eating junk this pregnancy. Well, not really. I would love to have the energy to make real food, but right now we're living mostly on takeout (which is very limited here in our small town) and frozen meals and things like fruit. And soda is the only thing I can keep down. It's ironic because when I'm NOT pregnant I do eat very healthy. I'm just happy to be eating at all, with the hyperemesis that's being kept at bay by all the meds I'm taking. This is the first pregnancy when I can and do eat! I lost about 12 lbs in the first tri but I've gained that back now, so it's about equal. (I was also a bit on the heavier side for me when I started out, 139 instead of my usual 128-132 range. But... I'll worry about that all later.
That said... the only thing growing about me is my butt. It's ridiculous. Reminds me of how I kept saying when I was pg with DD that I was sure that she was growing in the wrong place, because my butt grew bigger every day but my stomach was small. Go figure. I did get my pre-preg figure back after her but that was a few years ago... hope it will be possible again.
And gosh I hope I can start eating healthy again SOON! I am so sick of the processed crap I've been ingesting. Ick, ick, ick.
Interesting to see other gluten-free mamas here! I figured out that I was gluten intolerant 2 years ago and my migraines and fibromyalgia symptoms went away (luckily I tested neg for celiac). I'm convinced now that the inflammation in my body from gluten intolerance during my last pregnancy 6 yrs ago contributed to pre-eclampsia, I was craving wheat based carbs and had terrible migraines and high enough BP that I had an emergency c-section at 27 weeks. So I don't think I will experiment this time to see if my threshold for gluten has changed.
I've just been eating whatever sounds good. The first month it was salads (hah!), garlic on everything and spicy foods, and strawberry ice cream seemed to settle my stomach. Lately I can't get enough Thai food and curry, tangy and spicy foods. I ate a lot of Thai curry last time and my otherwise very picky eater will take teriyaki sauce and coconut curry over ketchup any day, I don't think it's a coincidence because she is not at all an adventurous eater. I've decided that if I eat what my body is craving (luckily it's not junk food most of the time) then I will be ok, and I'm not going to worry about my weight. When DD was 2 I took all refined sugar out of my diet and dropped 30 lbs in 4 months, so I know how my body responds, and if I need to then I will do the same thing after this child is born. I gained about 10 lbs in the year before I got pregnant because I became more liberal with sugar and started this pregnancy at 148 lbs, I think I was at 155 at my last OB visit. My focus is a healthy term baby, I'll deal with the rest later!
I'm convinced now that the inflammation in my body from gluten intolerance during my last pregnancy 6 yrs ago contributed to pre-eclampsia, I was craving wheat based carbs and had terrible migraines and high enough BP that I had an emergency c-section at 27 weeks. So I don't think I will experiment this time to see if my threshold for gluten has changed.
Me neither. Sometimes I feel like I might be superstitious about it, but it's just not worth the risk. I was so sick over the past year and had a miscarriage, which I now think might have been caused by some kind of inflammation.
I'm on the fence right now about dairy. I've been eating cheese and yogurt like crazy for the last week or so, but I think eating too much of it gives me a stuffy nose. There's way too much information out there on food...it seems like everybody has some kind of "science" behind their paleo, whole foods, vegetarian, vegan, dairy-free, gluten-free, grain-free, cave-man...whatever diet they like to eat!
I did the elimination diet from this website a couple of months before I got pregnant. At that point, I did cut out all sugar for about a month. And ella'smommy, I noticed a big difference just from that....I didn't lose much weight, but I really "leaned up". http://wholelifenutrition.net/elimination-diet **The detox part of this is not recommended during pregnancy, but she does write a little bit about a post-partum diet for breastfeeding. I had a VERY colicky baby, so I'm thinking of watching what I eat a little more closely right after birth.
LOL Kawa, my DH usually manages to gain with me but isn't this time around ;)
I'm nervous about weight gain this go-round because I gained a lot with my last baby and had a hard time getting off. Lots of body image issues that were very challenging to me. I'm eating better this time around and I'm way more active so I'm hoping that will help. I'm 14 weeks now and I'm right around a 10lb weight gain that came on pretty much right off the bat, but I've been weighing once a week and I've stayed at that 10lbs for the past few weeks. I'm really trying to just focus on eating well and not on the scale. It's tough though.
This is my hubby all the way....well........ except he's not....well....quite as tall and lanky...... BUT he overlooks my beluga whaleness at the end so he's definitely great in my book.