feel im being under paid....
Poll Results: what should i be paid?
14% (3)7.70/hr (wich is minimum wage)
33% (7)10/hr (going rate for a nanny with no experience)
52% (11)15-20/hr (going rate for a nanny with 2+ years of experience)
I think you are getting taken advantage of. When I was 17 and nannying part time with three years of experience, I was making $9/hr (and they usually paid a little extra tip, too). I did live in a very high cost of living area in a high cost of living state (California) but your rate of compensation is no where NEAR appropriate.
Your family is looking to keep you on at this rate because they think you will stay! If you were not family, they would never be able to pay you this. They are looking to blame it on your fiance because they can. Not all family arrangements have to be like this - one of my cousins has been nannying for another cousin for 2 years, and she pays her $14/hr. Family DOES come first, but they are not treating YOU like family.
So it sounds like these are family members right? It sounds like you've been working with them for a long time and perhaps before you turn 18? Yes, you should be paid at least minimum wage. They don't appreciate you. I wouldn't even bother having a discussion about your salary.
What your husband does or makes or in all honesty, your living situation shouldn't matter. You should be paid for your work.
Find a new job and give them two weeks notice.
Good for you and good luck finding something else--it's tough out there. I wouldn't engage them in any more talk about it-you have made your decision and it's not fair for them to try and manipulate you. Repeat this:
over and over until they get tired of hearing it and respect your decision.
I would say the way they are treating you is beyond taking advantage. You have been more than generous in giving them notice.. It is none of their business why you want a raise. Perhaps you just want more money. Not their business. They should be paying no less than minimum wage and really even in my low cost of living area nannies usually get around $15 an hour plus bonuses. Of course that money is taxed but you also have access then to unemployment, workmans comp, and social security. They sound manipulative and are definitely taking advantage of you. Go get a real job or use your nanny skills to get a nanny job that pays well. Settle for nothing less than $10 an hour. heck you can make that sacking groceries. You deserve to get paid a real wage.
Wait, you're making $91 a week? That's ridiculous!! Truly.
A good nanny should make $1500 a month or more. Tell them you can no longer afford to word for less than minimum wage. They're taking major advantage of you. If they pull the family thing, you can say "yes, you should put family first. I can't believe you're OK with paying me less than $400 a month. How can anyone live on that?"