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[Hillary77]

http://jezebel.com/5921451/i-dont-care-about-your-stupid-vulva-its-all-vagina-to-me

Hee hee!! A popular discussion I guess.

[BroodyWoodsgal]

Originally Posted by Hillary77 

http://jezebel.com/5921451/i-dont-care-about-your-stupid-vulva-its-all-vagina-to-me

Hee hee!! A popular discussion I guess.

Dying of happiness....what a freaking hilarious blog post. Hahahha.

[philomom]

Originally Posted by Hillary77 

http://jezebel.com/5921451/i-dont-care-about-your-stupid-vulva-its-all-vagina-to-me

Hee hee!! A popular discussion I guess.

Too bad its closed to comments. I would have had a few choices things to say to her about continuing the mis-naming of female genitalia. She really isn't doing anyone any favors.

[Adaline'sMama]

My 2 year old says vulva. I think its easy to say, correct, and not abrasive at all.

[Katie8681]

Mulva?

[P.J.]

Originally Posted by Katie8681 

Mulva?

That was a really funny Seinfeld episode!

[CherryBombMama]

I just read this whole thing! This was a great read :)

(We say vulva with the kids.)

[1stTimeMama4-4-10]

Wow, didn't know this was going to be so controversial! Only read the first page.  DD, who is 26 months, says girl parts and butt. I see no need to introduce the words vagina, rectum, anus, vulva, penis, scrotum, or uterus.  She's still mostly baby, and so I am sticking with simple concepts.  She will know the anatomically correct names as she gets older but for now, I don't really see the need. I guess I am in the minority!

[philomom]

Originally Posted by 1stTimeMama4-4-10 

Wow, didn't know this was going to be so controversial! Only read the first page.  DD, who is 26 months, says girl parts and butt. I see no need to introduce the words vagina, rectum, anus, vulva, penis, scrotum, or uterus.  She's still mostly baby, and so I am sticking with simple concepts.  She will know the anatomically correct names as she gets older but for now, I don't really see the need. I guess I am in the minority!

The standard thinking now is to teach kids all the right names. If the unthinkable were to happen... your children, both girls and boys would have the language to tell a trusted adult what was touched. ..... not just say... "so and so touched my bottom" .

[Imakcerka]

Originally Posted by philomom 


The standard thinking now is to teach kids all the right names. If the unthinkable were to happen... your children, both girls and boys would have the language to tell a trusted adult what was touched. ..... not just say... "so and so touched my bottom" .

Stop trying to make sense!

[BroodyWoodsgal]

Originally Posted by philomom 


The standard thinking now is to teach kids all the right names. If the unthinkable were to happen... your children, both girls and boys would have the language to tell a trusted adult what was touched. ..... not just say... "so and so touched my bottom" .

Yeah I kind of see this concept as being somewhat relevant...but I think a kid who says "soandso touched my bottom" and a kid who says "so and so touched my vulva" have about the same chances of getting the help they need...because it all comes down to the parents.

My kid tells me "soandso touched my bottom" I'm not going to be like "Oh, okay...well, if you'd said vulva I would be alarmed...but your bottom, eh, no biggie" - especially not if I know my kid says "bottom" for "vulva". You know?

Actually, now that I really think of it...I cannot imagine that it would make any difference at all what the kid calls it. In this day and age, if a kid says "soandso touched my _________" most adults ears are paying close attention by the time the kid gets to the word "my"...you know? If the word following "my" is in any way a private region or sounds like it could be a euphemism for "vulva"/"vagina" it's not going to be ignored by any sane mandated reporter or parent. If a kid seems uncomfortable and is telling you that someone touched them...you're going to ask follow up questions, you know? It's not going to be like "Oh, he touched your muff-muff? Well I don't know what that is, but is sounds fairly ridiculous and nonsensical! Go play, little girl!" You know?

 

[tillymonster]

We call it hooha. Yoni is one I've used as well. Not too cutsie and really is obvious what we are talking about.

[tropicana]

i think the terms are important for when they talk to a police officer or child protective services or whomever would interview them in the event that they were molested. 

we all "touch their bottoms" all the time when we pick them up to boost them up to the top of a slide or whatever innocent touching goes on. WITH CLOTHES ON, of course.

very very few people should ever touch their unclothed vulva per se or their vagina or their penis per se. that should only be mom or dad or whomever trusted caregiver guardian, AND only in select circumstances such as putting ointment on a rash, especially as the child gets to preschool age. 

that is the difference...

[gemasita]

Wow, this is *some* thread!  It has me laughing out loud!

I was trying to think of a word to use for my 17-month-old son when he sees me use the bathroom and points between my legs.  I don't like vagina because that is the internal part, not what he is pointing at.  FWIW, I like the term the poster on the first page suggested:  crotch.  It's pretty general until he gets older and needs to know more specific parts.  Glad I read this thread because I couldn't think of a word on my own.

[SweetSilver]

Originally Posted by gemasita 

 FWIW, I like the term the poster on the first page suggested:  crotch.  It's pretty general until he gets older and needs to know more specific parts.  Glad I read this thread because I couldn't think of a word on my own.

Yeah, we grew up with "crotch" and my mother still spoke it like the word was being choked out of her.

[zinemama]

Originally Posted by tillymonster 

We call it hooha. Yoni is one I've used as well. Not too cutsie and really is obvious what we are talking about.

I've only heard grown women joking around with friends call it a hooha, which I've always considered kind of vulgar. I had no idea parents seriously taught their kids this term.

[Imakcerka]

Originally Posted by zinemama 


I've only heard grown women joking around with friends call it a hooha, which I've always considered kind of vulgar. I had no idea parents seriously taught their kids this term.

You can find wipes called Hooah's.  But you'd find them on base/post/port.  You take em with you when you're out in the field to wipe your parts.  I always thought they were hilarious!

[zinemama]

Originally Posted by Imakcerka 


You can find wipes called Hooah's.  But you'd find them on base/post/port.  You take em with you when you're out in the field to wipe your parts.  I always thought they were hilarious!

Isn't 'hooah" some military manly-man thing that they say?

[Imakcerka]

I was in the military... I don't think it's all manly.  But whatevs

[crystal_buffaloe]

We were already saying vulva/vagina with my 25 month old, but then I read this today:

And, here’s another good reason to add to the PANTHEON of reasons to teach your children the anatomically correct names for their genitalia:

There isn’t a child molester on earth who’s going to talk to your daughter about her vagina. Really. But if she suddenly starts calling it a cupcake, you can ask her who taught her that.

So I'm going to step it up and tell the grandparents they need to be saying vulva/vagina, too.

Link to the full article: http://www.checklistmommy.com/2012/02/09/tricky-people-are-the-new-strangers/