My sister & I are at odds over this. We have very different opinions so I thought I would run it by you guys to get some other opinions.
My kids dont nap 25mo & 3y10m. They probably could use one (especially the little one) but the problem I have is when they do nap they are up until between 10pm & midnight. They then wake normal time so are very short on sleep & so is Mama. It always messes us up for about 2 days when they do nap & it is terrible. With out naps the little one is asleep between 6:30 & 7 & the older one between 7:30 & 8.
The issue my sister & I have is...I wont go out with the kids later in the afternoon. I run the risk of them falling asleep in the car then. So we do everything in the morning. as long as we are home by12:30 or 1. We are usually all awake & happy. I have no problem with this. I feel that these children only have me to keep their lives in order. It is my responsibility to make sure they have the best sleep they can get & to me it is not worth a play date to then have a tired house for two days. We go to early park/playdates 2 - 3x a week.
Now my sister tells me all the time that I need to 'live a little', have fun, etc... That my kids cant run my life. She has a 2y4mo. She doesnt really have a schedule for him as far as I know. she is out with him all the time & he naps ramdomly (early/late) - whenever. So his night time sleep is whenever too. She was just complaining the other day to me because her son wouldnt go to sleep until 1am (because of a late nap in the car) & woke normal time, etc... I tell her my opinion - that kids thrive spending some time at home, having routine, set sleep schedules (nap & bed), etc. She said she cant do that & that she has to have a life too & so should I. I then told he as her son ages she may find he behaves better with some regularity at home & she cant see it ever happening.
So it came up again today because she invited us over for fathers day at 3pm. Not good for us... any thoughts???