Placement Question: Siblings together vs. grandparent placement?
We adopted twin girls a few years ago (toddlers) and we just found out that they have a baby brother (bio sibling) in foster system. The reunification is not panning out with birth parents (drug issues again) and we've inquired to adopt since goal is going to adoption and we already have an approved homestudy etc. However - a grandparent has stepped in to do homestudy for placement. We think it would be so sad if siblings weren't living together and this is a closed adoption situation due to termination of rights etc.
In a situation like this, do the adoptive parents with 2 bio siblings overide a grandparent placement or is it the other way around? It seems like we were being considered and now all of a sudden feel like we're not getting updates or calls. What can we do?