I need some help. I need a lot of help. I am burnt out on nursing my 29 month old daughter. I am at the end of rope at how demanding she is, how impatient she is, how moody she is all because of mama's milk. I know she is not ready to wean. If it is up to her she will wean after her 11 month old brother weans. She LIVES for milk. She wants milk all the time. If I'm nursing the baby, she wants milk, now. And if she doesn't get milk, now, she throws a fit. She can be the happiest toddler on the block. . .until I walk in the room, then it is milk, milk, milk, milk, milk. It is nonstop. It has always been nonstop. Whereas her brother will nurse for a couple of minutes and go about his business, she will nurse for an hour if I let her. Please, please, please don't try to convince me to let her wean on her own. This is drastically changing the way I feel about her. I have to sit and meditate while she nurses so thoughts of throwing her off my boob don't constantly run threw my head and make me even more angry and frustrated.
She wants to nurse in the morning. In order to avoid a melt down first thing in the morning, I let her. I usually have to tandem nurse in the morning because if she sees her brother nursing and she isn't there will be a huge meltdown. Great way to start the day. I walk into her room and it's "milk." Not mama, no hello, no acknowledgment other than milk. I want milk. Milk.
She will then want to nurse through out the entire day. We go out. We are distracted. We are contastly on the move in order for me to get some space from her milk demands. Still, at nap time, she nurses. After nap she wants to nurse, and nurse, and nurse. She then wants to nurse again all afternoon. We nurse before bedtime. By this time I am so over her demands, so over it, that I literally don't just hate nursing her, but fear I'm starting to hate her.
I have tried limiting her during the day to how many times she can have milk, setting timers, nursing only in certain locations, saying yes, at this time we can nurse. . .My super incredible, fun, smart daughter goes from being joyful and happy to whining and demanding then crying and yelling the moment I walk in the room. Her entire personality changes.
She has had full access to me since she was borne. Nothing changed when we brought her brother home. She was tandem nursing in the hospital.
Help, please. How do I wean a toddler this obsessed with milk when she's going to see her little brother nursing? It seems so cruel. I cannot reasonably keep this hidden from her. The children are with me (DH travels for work M-F) all the time. I've looked and looked and can't find anything that speaks directly to weaning a high needs toddler while nursing a baby. I don't think it is possible. Is it?