So, I have been wondering if anyone else struggles with this or if anyone has thoughts about this. I have been with my partner for 6 years. Originally when we got together we were both honest about what we wanted and supported each other as such.
But as time has went on what he said he wanted he has done nothing about. And what I wanted is just not possible any longer with the way things are now being with him.
I try to bring it up but he gets upset every single time I say it's obvious we both are unhappy but we love each other what can we do to make things better. He gets upset and says everything is fine the way it is. I tell him if we both aren't honest there isn't anyway for us to move forward.
I am more of a free spirit, I prefer to be alone, and I enjoy travel. He on the other hand does not seem to like anything or want anything in life. He says he wants to be able to tour with his band and travel etc, but he does not do it, he has not even made music in years.
He is obviously very unhappy and has been for our entire relationship. The problem with this is that, while I am here in his misery what I want is not happening. It seem incredibly impossible, I can't do anything. How can we talk about us if he won't even be honest about what he wants? I mean what do you do when the person your with is just stuck in place in a rut, and every time you try to grow your forced to drag them with you, which is totally impossible and doomed for failure.
I personally have come to see that you cannot go further than the person next to you. What are you guys thoughts?