We are supposed to move house at the end of next week. It's a local move. My baby is about four months old now. My mother-in-law has offered to take her to her house on moving day so we can just focus on the move and keep the baby in a calmer environment. I love my MIL and she's generous with offers to help but "help" usually means taking the baby to her house (about 30-45 minutes away from us, depending on traffic) for the day. This has been a source of some tension. She's an excellent caregiver and I welcome help with the baby. I just would rather it not always be across town and for 6-8 hours at a time. The baby is still so little. I guess that's its own question...how to deal tactfully with that?
My first impulse was that in a situation like this I'd prefer to have someone help by coming to us to watch the baby. My MIL is not keen on this idea. She thinks it's not good for the baby to be around during the move and my husband agrees. I find pumping pretty stressful and don't respond super well to the pump so unless I have to work or REALLY need a break or a date night I'd usually rather just nurse. Having to go pump and deal with milk storage, bottles, etc. every 3 hours on moving day if she's away from me also seems complicated. I think I can manage the move in a way that doesn't stress the baby out unnecessarily. Am I being unreasonable?