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[cat13]

I am determined to come to this group more and chat, because I miss you all! I just changed my signature to reflect my squirmy wormy baby. I had a nursing at keyboard picture on it before, but there is no way I can even have the laptop out when DS is around, let alone nurse him while typing, LOL!  Now that he's started walking, he thinks it's the coolest thing ever to walk up to me and nurse for a second, then walk away. Repeat.  

I'm really struggling with how physical he is.  I feel like we have been working on "gentle touches" since he was 4 months old, and he just does.not.get.it. I've stopped wearing my glasses because it gets me so angry when he swats them off my face. And my hair is only in a bun, but he still loves to grab the little hairs at my neck or by my ears. Hitting me in the face, grabbing my shirt, etc. And he is very strong, it's a really hard slap or hit. Usually it's when he's over excited and at that point he doesn't even notice when I put him down or try to say "gentle touches." What more do I do? Or is this just a phase? 

[HawaiianBlesing]

Is it just the boys or do all these babies have super human strength.  DS is so strong sometimes that he actually overpowers me.  When we are on the potty sitting backwards, he can pull the toilet seat cover out of my hand and push me off the toilet with his legs.  It's crazy! 

He's not much of a hair puller but every now and again he will pull the stray hairs on the back of my neck when I have him in a back carry or as of late he's taken to biting my back.  DS just started walking too but we haven't gotten to the point where he is super steady on his feet but we do get the on/off nursing as part of our daily happenings.  Drives me bonkers.  I just pack up the boob and end the session and move onto whatever is distracting him.  It doesn't last long because he's usually hungry and can refocus his attention to eating.

Rafe is lightening fast with whatever he gets in his hands and it immediately goes to his mouth.  He will grab DH's glasses occasionally but we try to get across that they are off limits.  "Not for Rafe, daddy's."  Gentle goes in one ear and out the other over here.  He is constantly poking babies in the eye or pulling their hair.  He does the same with the dog but we keep working on it.  I guess that's about all you can do.

I need to get over here more as well as I tend to spend the majority of my time on facebook.  I'd really like to just spend less time on the internet period.

[cakemama579]

Wow, your boys are so strong!  Millie is a gentle creature by nature, but she does have a tendency to pinch and also bite (esp when there is a new tooth-- she's up to 5 teeth now!).  If she bites me, and especially if she bites while nursing, I say "no Millie, no biting," and even if I don't say it in a stern way she'll start crying.  Then I start crying because I feel bad for making her cry. It's aweful!

And I'd just like to add, a big fat YAY to seeing some familiar faces back on here!!  We've missed you!!  Let's keep the chatter going!

What are you mamas doing with baby IRL?  I have a mommy and me music class starting soon with DD.  It works out great because her big brother will be taking an art class in the same building at the same time.  I'll drop him in one class, then head over to music with her.  Her class gets done earlier, giving me time to go grab a coffee or something before DS is finished.  Should be fun!  

Any of you belong to any mom groups or anything?  My sister has a 1 year old DD, and she is always finding moms and mom groups to join (she lives in the Philly area, about 2 hrs away from me so no chance of my being able to piggy back on her groups).  I do sort of wish I had more friends that had infants/toddlers-- most of my mom friends have older kids because I know them through having a 4 year old.

[cat13]

Millie does sound so sensitive, I'm sorry it makes her cry when you tell her not to bite. :(

Lately I feel like I just get by. Baby is fed, plays with toys, gets naps, gets kisses, go on walks, repeat. I am quitting my job in a few weeks and am excited to start a few more activities with him. I have been going to a LLL meeting once a month, and will most likely go to a second one when I quit. There's also a very informal parents FB page for my area and they often do a shout out like "going to xyz beach tomorrow at 10, see you all there" or "meeting at the zoo playground wed morning if you want to play" and I hope to go to some of those. That music class sounds fun, you'll have to update us on how it goes!

Have you gone to La Leche League? Most of the moms in our group have babies younger than 1 and it's strange to me to think I have one of the older nurslings in the group, except for the few moms who tandem nurse.
 

[Baby_Cakes]

Hi ladies!

I think Finnley is more of the gentle giant type.  He's more of a pincher and a scratcher than anything else.  It's really just a phase, Tina.  Once River starts to understand more, you'll have more success with the gentle hands type of directions.

Hmm..

I was just talking about this with an IRL friend, I don't do much.  I don't go anywhere.  Stroller walks, food shopping, Target, school drop off/pick up, and random play dates.  With my first I did it all.  Library, swim class, etc.  But this time around....Idk what it is.  I don't have the energy, and plus I don't have anyone to watch DD if I wanted to do a mommy and me type class.  Maybe in the fall when she is at school for full days (sniff sniff) I'll find some programs.  I think I'd get more out of it with a 1 year old than a crawly 10 month old anyway.  You know?  

I don't think I mentioned it but all DH's hard work payed off and he got a promotion to a senior title!  Compensation increased (as well as his need to travel even more) but the good news is that hopefully soon we can move to a bigger house!  We need to desperately!  I feel like life is in limbo until we find a place that suits our needs better.

[Beckily]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

Hi ladies!

I think Finnley is more of the gentle giant type.  He's more of a pincher and a scratcher than anything else.  It's really just a phase, Tina.  Once River starts to understand more, you'll have more success with the gentle hands type of directions.

Hmm..

I was just talking about this with an IRL friend, I don't do much.  I don't go anywhere.  Stroller walks, food shopping, Target, school drop off/pick up, and random play dates.  With my first I did it all.  Library, swim class, etc.  But this time around....Idk what it is.  I don't have the energy, and plus I don't have anyone to watch DD if I wanted to do a mommy and me type class.  Maybe in the fall when she is at school for full days (sniff sniff) I'll find some programs.  I think I'd get more out of it with a 1 year old than a crawly 10 month old anyway.  You know?  

I don't think I mentioned it but all DH's hard work payed off and he got a promotion to a senior title!  Compensation increased (as well as his need to travel even more) but the good news is that hopefully soon we can move to a bigger house!  We need to desperately!  I feel like life is in limbo until we find a place that suits our needs better.

Awesome!! That's so good (minus the traveling)

And Charlie and I don't do much, either. I'm cheap :)

[Emerging butterfly]

Ali V. is pretty gentle...but, she can get her point across when she wants to. We've all been bloodied by her nails at least once. (Especially poor Stephen, because she seems to think she can remove his face if she tries hard enough, and that sweet boy LETS her.) I've been thrilled over how gentle she is with Ferdinand though. That big pup adores her truly and I suspect she could do no wrong with him.