I'm not really sure where to put this--please let me know if it should be posted elsewhere.
I just found out that my brother-in-law and his wife are coming for a month-long visit with their three children next week. They will be staying at my mother-in-law's house (a five-minute walk from our house). We get along well with this family in general, but they are very different from us, very mainstream. The way we raise our respective children is our own business of course, but here is my conundrum:
MIL babysits my DD 1 1/2 days a week (I work full-time out of financial necessity). A huge part of me wants to suspend this babysitting while the cousins are here. They watch a lot of TV, while DD (20 mo.) is totally TV-free. They eat a lot of junk and when they are here they are spoiled by all of the relatives with even worse stuff--tons of sweets--while we restrict DD's sugar and don't eat junk or sweets. The list goes on--you get the idea. If this was going to happen for a week, maybe even two, perhaps I would have to accept that DD would be exposed to things I don't approve of, but a month? I see the potential for lasting effects.
However, I'm not out to hurt feelings or be the nasty daughter-in-law and I'm looking for a way to limit the negative impact on my DD without seeming to judge their parenting as somehow inferior to mine. Honestly, PLEASE don't take this as a super judgmental, anti-mainstream post; I truly don't want to offend ANYONE (including my in-laws) but I have a right to parent the way I want (just as they do) and I'm not comfortable with DD having so much exposure to TV, junk food, etc.
Is there ANY way I can do this without causing drama?
Thanks for reading and I just feel compelled to say again that I'm not judging anyone else, just trying to raise my daughter the way I feel is best for us.