What state is his filing in?
Some states require parenting counseling if you have a child in order to proceed with a divorce. He may be trying to waive that requirement, since the child isn't a product of the marriage.
My ex has been claiming my daughter for almost 8 years now to get the increased money. His rights are terminated, but he is still getting money for her. He has not paid a dime or seen her since she was nearing 3. She'll be 11 this fall.
I reported and reported and reported and it never went anywhere.
My guess, he's keeping the marriage so he gets more money.
I think youll see that family law lawyers, for the most part can get very expensive. The ones I know of usually charge 4 grand a case if its contested and they need to represent you. Family lawyers dont work on a contingency fee like personal injury lawyers do. You also have the option of representing yourself but youd need to file all paperwork as if you were an attorney. They wont feel bad for you for not knowing.
The options I think you have are:
Hope all that rambling was kind of helpful
Here's the probo page of the MO Bar http://www.mobar.org/probono.htm
I'll let you know that in most divorce cases, your settlement will be more than youll spend on an attorney. Also, I think it could very well benefit you depending on how long you were married. Usually you can be entitled to things child support, alimony, a portion of his retirement benefits etc but that all depends on state law and how long you were married
Here is some info about military divorce that might be of help: http://www.weinbergerlawgroup.com/blog/newjersey-law-divorce-separation/five-common-questions-about-military-divorce/ About the pay...Just think of this way, the longer you are married, the bigger the chunk of his retirement you can lay claim to. Touche!