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post #1 of 26
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Who else is still nursing? How is it going for you? Will you tandem nurse or wean?

DS is 20 months old and nursing about 2 - 4 times a day. I still have milk at 13 weeks, which is great as I wasn't making any for my DD at this stage of pregnancy when still nursing her. I've had very little nipple and breast too which has also been a surprise.
I'm not really making plans to wean or tandem nurse. I had my heart set on tandem nursing when pregnant with DS, but the crazy pain and major aversion to nursing made me decide to wean her at 21 weeks pregnant. So just going to see how we go as we progress.

post #2 of 26

i am still nursing my DD who will be 3 in 1 month exactly and I am 15 weeks along now. The first trimester was really hard on me and nursing took its toll. DD is an avid nurser and still nurses countless times in a 24 hour period most days. Moving into the 2nd tri I have seen a lot of let up in my aversion to nursing {and other things, too}, which is nice. I don't try to have expectations here--Personally, I would have no problem if she decided to be done with BFing all together, but I don't see that happening really and that is OK, too. I feel like I would like her to nightwean  now, but really as of right now I am tolerating it fine. I know that everything is subject to change {and FAST change} during pregnancy and am hopeful that when changes need to be made that I will be able to navigate them with her sensitive nature in mind, but also know that my boundaries have become VERY different now with pregnancy--almost irrational at times {like she can NOT kick my belly--even in her sleep--I freak out!}. 

I still have milk and don't think I will lose it. I guess, my thoughts are that I am open to tandem nursing and hoping that we can all find a way for it to work peacefully. I wouldn't mind the nipple stimulation during labor to help things and alos I wouldn't mind the help of an older nursling when my milk comes in because last time it was INTENSE and way too much!

That all being said, DH and I are prepared for the reality that I will have to abruptly wean her for my own sanity or comfort and have talked to her able that, too. So.....one day at a time, right?!
 

post #3 of 26

i'm nursing my 23 month old dd about 5 to 6 times per 24 hours. i've got crazy nipple pain, but i'm 14 weeks and hoping it will lessen soon. i didn't fully night wean, but have got her down to only one middle of the night feeding. so now that i'm getting enough sleep i'm open to nursing her throughout pregnancy and then tandem if she wants/it works. she's pretty posessive of my boobs and gets mad if dh touches them, so i'm a bit worried if she'll be able to share with the baby. i haven't lost my supply, and she isn't acting like the taste has changed at all. some days when my nipples hurt and i'm hormonal i wish she'd wean, but mostly i'm really cherishing these last few months where it's just the two of us.

post #4 of 26
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Originally Posted by mamaharrison View Post

 


That all being said, DH and I are prepared for the reality that I will have to abruptly wean her for my own sanity or comfort and have talked to her able that, too. So.....one day at a time, right?!
 

That should say for the reality that i *MAY* have to wean her quickly not WILL.

post #5 of 26
My 2.5 year old was done at about 10 weeks. I had a hand in reducing the frequency and duration we were nursing, and then he just stopped asking. My milk was gone at about 7 weeks and I had really strong aversions. For the last few weeks I felt like I needed to punch something every single second he was latched on. I had thought tandem nursing was a possibility for us, but was fine either way. To be honest, I'm glad now that we are done. We are learning new ways to snuggle and be close and I'm enjoying that subtle shift in our relationship. Huge props to all of you who are still nursing!
post #6 of 26

DD2 is 32 months old and is almost done! I'm pretty excited about that, as I've been nursing straight for over five years and cannot wait for a break, even a little one. Over Memorial day weekend, my husband was a huge help in weaning her down to the once a day routine that we have now. Every time she would ask to nurse, he would steer her towards doing something else, and by the end of that long weekend, we were only nursing right when we woke up. She only nurses for about 30 seconds to a minute when she wakes up and only on one side, but I cannot stand it. I am so uncomfortable this time around and if she's really sleepy, it just hurts the entire time. She has a really strong toddler latch and was/is really aggressive. She's starting to forget to nurse in the morning about once a week now, so I'm seeing complete weaning before too long. I nursed her sister right through DD2's pregnancy without a problem, though, by choice she was only nursing a few times a week near the end. I then tandem nursed for about 6 months after that. I doubt we'll be tandeming this time around. 

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Edited by nhklh - 11/14/13 at 5:15am
post #8 of 26

We just weaned about 5 days ago (15 weeks pg). DS is 33 months. We were just doing before naps and before bed but it really hurt and while I have LOVED our nursing relationship, I was done and there was very little milk.

I think it was a pretty gradual weaning (thank god I had night weaned right before I got pregnant). He will still ask before bed and we have the same conversation EVERY time:

 

DS: Nursies??

Me: No, momma's milk is all gone.

DS: Oh, why is your milk all gone?
Me: You tell me why it is all gone.

DS: Because I am such a big boy now.

Then he smiles and snuggles up next to me with his favorite book and pillow and quickly falls asleep. 

 

I know he would have gladly continued nursing but I am really happy to have some of my body back at least for a few months. And on a side note, my sex drive has come back full force since weaning him! That was always one of my favorite parts of pregnancy and I am glad to have it back!!

post #9 of 26

DD (35 months) hadn't nursed for about a week but did ask to have "pretend boo boos" yesterday at the end of a long and hot day.  By this she means she knows there's no milk but still wants to latch on!  I let her, but sang Twinkle Twinkle with "ouchie" interspersed with the lyrics (because it's quite painful for me) which she thought was hilarious.  But I know she's very close to all the way done.  Which I am fine with, having tandemed with my oldest two and not having had it go well for me at all (it's not good when you want to get up and run away every time either kid wants to nurse.) I just want her to be fine with it, too, so I am not making a big deal out of it at all, waiting for her to feel like she's done.

post #10 of 26

Not nursing this time, but did with both pregnancy 2 & 3. I tandem nursed DS 1&2 for a bit (DS1 was 27 months when DS2 was born, he had pretty much stopped a few weeks before the birth but was thrilled with all the new milk lol. With DS2, right after his 4th b-day he went to nurse one day, got no milk, and said, "Well, I guess the baby is getting it all now!" and never asked to nurse again. It was the gentlest weaning I could have imagined!

 

I spent 10 years total of my life pregnant and/or nursing. The 20 month break was really good for my body (before getting pg with this one).
 

post #11 of 26

I'm not nursing currently but I nursed through my 2nd pregnancy.  Mostly I experienced a brief pain upon latching then nothing.  I was glad I didn't wean because we lost that baby at 22 wks and it somehow helped with the grief a bit (does that sound weird?), also I didn't have to deal with the added sorrow of having full breasts but no baby to feed.  We weaned very easily just a few months later when DD1 was 2 yrs 10 months. She was done and so was I, no stress at all.  Obviously, I tandem nursed my twins but that's part of the package deal ;-)

 

It was my experience with all my kids that I really "knew" when I was done, I din't have to worry about whether to wean or not to wean. I loved, loved nursing and then one day got this weird sort of creepy-crawly feeling and I knew I had had enough!  Did anyone else experience the same thing?

 

Lizzie

post #12 of 26

DD is 18 months and still going 4-6 times a day. Most of my kids weaned at 10-12 weeks into my ppreg. My last nursed till 23 weeks,oddly at 24 weeks I went into labor?? I will nurse as long as she wants and tandom if she doesn't wean

post #13 of 26
Ladies, for some reason I have always thought or most likely heard somewhere that you don't ovulate while breast feeding, since you all are breast feeding and pregnant I assume that myth is debunked smile.gif It's relieving to know that you can get pregnant while breast feeding I want to start trying for our second child six months after the birth of our first, but plan to breast feed as long as I can. Glad to know I don't have to stop at 6 months!!! smile.gif
post #14 of 26

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Edited by nhklh - 11/14/13 at 3:54am
post #15 of 26

My son is 22 months and I am 16 weeks pregnant.  My milk is pretty much gone, but that doesn't dissuade my son.  I have recently started limiting nursing, due to my discomfort and aversion (never realized that was such a common feeling to reading this post--so grateful it isn't just me!).  Now we only do nursies three our four times a day.  I used to nurse whenever he wanted, if we were home, but now I just tell him when we will again:  "not now, we will have nursies at naptime (or bedtime)."  I feel guilty, but it really was driving me crazy.  If he wants to pick back up when babe is born than I will be fine with that.  It is just too painful right now to do frequently.  

post #16 of 26
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Originally Posted by tetiana View Post

Ladies, for some reason I have always thought or most likely heard somewhere that you don't ovulate while breast feeding, since you all are breast feeding and pregnant I assume that myth is debunked smile.gif It's relieving to know that you can get pregnant while breast feeding I want to start trying for our second child six months after the birth of our first, but plan to breast feed as long as I can. Glad to know I don't have to stop at 6 months!!! smile.gif

 

I got pregnant with this LO days after night weaning. I do think nursing can help the odds of not getting pregnant, but in no way is bc! I never thought I would feel this way, but I am happy to report that I am about a week into having DD weaned!! It's amazing!! After nursing for over five years straight, through one entire pregnancy and up to now, I'm so ready for a break! Oh man! For a while I was a bit sad/worried that I hadn't nursed her as long as her sister. But I got over that and pretty much know that nursing for 32 months is amazing and I'm amazing for doing it. DD is old enough to understand that she was hurting me when we were nursing, so that helped us both in completely stopping. I may take her on a date this weekend to celebrate what a big girl she is and our nursing relationship. She'd love that!
post #17 of 26
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Originally Posted by tetiana View Post

Ladies, for some reason I have always thought or most likely heard somewhere that you don't ovulate while breast feeding, since you all are breast feeding and pregnant I assume that myth is debunked smile.gif It's relieving to know that you can get pregnant while breast feeding I want to start trying for our second child six months after the birth of our first, but plan to breast feed as long as I can. Glad to know I don't have to stop at 6 months!!! smile.gif

Every woman is different, but I wouldn't count on being fertile 6 months after your babe is born if you are bfing. I personally didn't have my cycle return until DD was 22 months old and many more of my friends went to about this time period, too, than did not. You can't know what your body is going to do at this point so it really is not realistic to try to plan for it, IMO.
Why so soon?! 6 months pp you are still recovering from your first pregnancy and if you do get pregnant while nursing LLL states that upwards of 60% of mamas do lose their milk by the end of the second trimester meaning you would still be looking at potentially needing some sort of milk substitute for you 1st child. Being pregnant with a little one is not easy and having kiddos that close together is hard on your body all around. Both of my friends who were pregnant at 6 months pp were miserable. I know it can be done, but I guess I just don't see why anyone would chose it--its really not ideal for mama or babies that soon. This is one of the reasons that most women are anovulatory {don't ovulate} during breastfeeding--it is a safe check for mama and babies to not over burden them when their needs are still so high. 

post #18 of 26
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Originally Posted by mamaharrison View Post

Every woman is different, but I wouldn't count on being fertile 6 months after your babe is born if you are bfing. I personally didn't have my cycle return until DD was 22 months old and many more of my friends went to about this time period, too, than did not. You can't know what your body is going to do at this point so it really is not realistic to try to plan for it, IMO.

Most people I know don't get their period back for a year or so, but I did get mine back 5 months to the day after DD was born, meaning I could have ovulated at 4 1/2 months. I was exclusively breastfeeding on demand, and she wasn't getting any other food.

 

I just like to throw that out in case people really need a reliable form of birth control.

post #19 of 26

My DD is now saying, "oh, yeah, I weaned already!"  She got a 'weaning present' which when she says it sounds like the much less appropriate 'weenie present' Sheepish.gif - a 'girly' cover for her car seat, which was a hand-me down from her big brother and done originally in grey and black stripes.  She loves purple corduroy and velour pink flowers a lot better!

 

Also, it's a good idea to remember that when your cycle comes back can vary from child to child.  I got mine back at 17 months, 9 months, and 12 months.  DS1 was a very avid nurser, DS2 was not (and in fact grew really slowly for a while because eating of any kind was so much less interesting to him than EVERYTHING ELSE), and DD was sort of more 'average'.  So I know I don't know what to expect!  I may look into an IUD after this baby - I am ready to be done at 4 kids and while I knew I couldn't accept the IUD risks until I was done, I think I could afterwards.  I love fertility awareness but there are aspects to it that are hard on DH especially!

post #20 of 26
@ tetiana - Everyone's return to fertility is different. My period returned at 11 months but it still took us almost another year and a half to conceive. We had planned a spacing of 18m - 2 years, but in the end it will be 3 years almost exactly. Now that I've had an 18 month old and then a 2 year-old, I'm really glad I didn't have a newborn at the same time. Family spacing is such an individual choice, though, and sometimes, like for us, you think you're going to be able to chose and you can't. It was a big surprise after conceiving our son rather quickly. On the flip side, a woman that goes to my LLL group got pregnant at 3 months pp with no warning period and lost her milk supply almost right away. She was devastated to not be able to continue nursing her first baby, but now the older one gets pumped BM again.
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