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How old were you when you had your first?

post #1 of 29
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I'm just curious. This is our first baby, and I'm 26 and will be 27 when the baby is born, which I consider on the younger side (my mom was 42 whe'n she had me!), but not absurdly young by any means. My husband is also 4 years older, we both have masters degrees and good jobs, we just recently bought a house, etc...we have our lives in order, which I think is more important than age anyway. :) BUT I look a lot younger than I am. Now that I am showing, I am really self conscious of this fact and feel that people are probably looking at me thinking, "Gosh, that poor pregnant teenager." Just about a month ago, a solicitor knocked on the door and asked if my mom was home. !!! I know I shouldn't care what strangers might think and it's probably all in my head, but I can't help but be a little affected by it. Anyone been in these shoes before? Any words of wisdom?

post #2 of 29
No words of wisdom I'm afraid. I was 34 when I had our first. I tend to look a big younger than my age but no-one was mistaking me for a teenager by then :-)

I'll be 36, but within a couple of weeks of my 37th birthday when this baby is born.
post #3 of 29

I'll be 33 when my first arrives. I'm usually told I look young for my age (mid-20s), but for now I revel in it as I'm at the age where I'm starting to care about things like that, lol.

post #4 of 29

I'm 30 and this is my first pregnancy. But my stepdaughter is 11--a lot of the when I say that people assume that my partner is a lot older than me, but he's actually my age. He and her mom were 19 when she was born, and I was almost 19 (although I didn't know them at the time). People sometimes assume I'm her mom and therefore assume I was a teen parent. There is a lot of social stigma there. Just take comfort in the fact that you know you've made the right decisions for you. It really doesn't matter what strangers think. If someone gets to know you better, they'll learn how old you really are and all that other stuff.

post #5 of 29
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Originally Posted by babychak View Post

I'm just curious. This is our first baby, and I'm 26 and will be 27 when the baby is born, which I consider on the younger side (my mom was 42 whe'n she had me!), but not absurdly young by any means. My husband is also 4 years older, we both have masters degrees and good jobs, we just recently bought a house, etc...we have our lives in order, which I think is more important than age anyway. :) BUT I look a lot younger than I am. Now that I am showing, I am really self conscious of this fact and feel that people are probably looking at me thinking, "Gosh, that poor pregnant teenager." Just about a month ago, a solicitor knocked on the door and asked if my mom was home. !!! I know I shouldn't care what strangers might think and it's probably all in my head, but I can't help but be a little affected by it. Anyone been in these shoes before? Any words of wisdom?

 

I can empathize. I was 30 when I had my first, but don't look it. I'm a HS guidance counselor and used to get asked for my hall pass from the security guards. {{Sigh}}. My mom looks young for her age too, and says I'll appreciate it later!

post #6 of 29

I was 26, about to turn 27 when I had my first. I am 29 this time around. I have been the youngest in the groups of mothers I have been a part of, though it is common to be finished having kids by the time you're 30 where I grew up.

post #7 of 29

i was 27 when ds was born.  I felt young and I think it affected my confidance as a women and mother at the beginning.  You have your shit together sister, remember that.

post #8 of 29

I was 29 when I had my first and 30 when I had my second.  I too, looked young, but no one ever said anything rude about it.  I look back at pictures of those pregnancies and think 'wow, I look 13' it's crazy.  Although, 6 months before I got pregnant I was working in a kindergarten that was in the basement of a middle school.  One time I was walking through the hall and got stopped by a teacher to ask where my hall pass was!!  I was 27 or 28 at the time!  In his defense I was wearing overalls, but still- a middle schooler??

 

Now I'm 35 and having my third.  I look 35... having children ages you.  At least mine did.

post #9 of 29
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Originally Posted by kateaton View Post

Now I'm 35 and having my third.  I look 35... having children ages you.  At least mine did.

 

Oh, so true! I really have no idea how old I look (haven't had any feedback lately)... But I *feel* like having children definitely aged me - in a good way though. nothing to grieve :)

 

I was 29 when I had my first and will be 33 having my third. Considering my 'life plan' had me starting with kids with 32... I am way ahead LOL

post #10 of 29

I was 34, just about to turn 35 in a few weeks when I had #1.

I'm 40 now and am having #4.

 

YES kids age you.  I got all my grey hair after my first was born, like overnight. 

I won't even get into the freckles (age spots) I got on my face from being pregnant in the summertime.

And the varicose veins?  I used to be so fresh and youthful... sigh

post #11 of 29

I was just shy of 35 when I had my first; now 39 with #2. 

post #12 of 29

This is my first, and I am 22. I think a lot of people think I am younger than I am, too.

post #13 of 29

I was 31 with my first, 33 with my 2nd and now 43 with my 3rd (will be 44 by birth time).  I think I'm about at the same fitness as I was ten years ago, but I do look older.  

post #14 of 29

I was 2 months shy of my 30th birthday when I had my first, 32 with my second, 2 months shy of my 35th birthday with my 3rd and now I will be about a month shy of 38 when I have this little bundle of joy.  I feel a little older, but I think it is mostly because I have more little people to take care of in a house that is too small for our family.

post #15 of 29

I was just barely 21 when I had my first (got married at 18...). Then had a looong break before having my second at 28. Just turned 30 and this will be my third, and last.

post #16 of 29
I was 20.5 with dd, will be 24 with this one (2nd). I look really, really young for my age (and I'm also a young mama) and probably looked 15-16 when I was pregnant with my first; I was also going to school so I would show up at my university classes with my big ole belly:) I bet every stranger thought I was a teen mom! Ha! -and I guess I almost was!

Sometimes people have thought dd is my little sister or something but I don't care, it's non of their business anyway. And now that I'm really showing I have probably gotten stares when I'm out, holding my almost 4 yo and with my prego belly. Oh and dd also looks much younger, prob the size of a 2 yo! SO is almost 35 but also looks like 8 years younger! We're just a young looking family wink1.gif
post #17 of 29

I was 33 when I had my first. This will be our third and I will be 36 when I have this little one.  I still look pretty young and get carded when I buy beer or wine which feels good winky.gif.  I'm hoping, since this is our last, to get back into shape and stay that way.  That always makes me feel a lot younger!
 

post #18 of 29

31 with my first, and I'll be 33 when this little one arrives.  I feel like I've aged a lot in the past 17 months!  there's something to be said for beauty sleep.  (which I get very little of!  lol)
 

post #19 of 29
30 with my first and I turned 33 on saturday. When I was a kid I thought 30 was way old and I'd have all my kids by now but obviously now I feel differently. smile.gif
post #20 of 29

I was 29 with my first and will be 31 when this LO arrives. We planned on having lots of kids (3-4) and then DS came and I realized I could only handle 2 so I'll be done having babies earlier than we planned! orngbiggrin.gif

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