My DSD's (stepdaughter) sister "Betty" is pretty close to us even though DH is not her biological father. She has spent a lot of time with us over the years, and things have been in a downward spiral in her life for the past two years. She has been hospitalized for depression several times and went through a period where she cut herself a lot. She has tried to commit suicide twice. Things seemed to be looking up last fall - she was taking her meds talking about college and medical school and seemed to be on a healthy path.
Suddenly, everything reversed. She dropped out of school and ran away from home. Started smoking pot (I'm not anti-pot, I just felt that she was a little young + already on meds that affect her emotional/mental state). She met a boy, moved in with him and his mom, stepdad, grandma. She was sleeping in her boyfriend's room. At this point, DH and I invite her over for dinner because her mom knew that she was somewhere in a certain city but little else. I meet the boyfriend (who is a 17 yo budding piercer and practicing all over her) briefly, then in the car I find out about the sleeping arrangements. I ask about birth control, find out they are using condoms, and we make a date to take her to my midwife to get on the pill.
Then my mom goes into kidney and liver failure. I wind up spending the next month going back and forth from WI to sit in the ICU, etc. I have to cancel the appointment because I am in WI. Mind you, I am also trying to finish year one of pharmacy school at this time. During one point where I am back, through FB and other internet searching, I realize that the BF's stepdad raped a 13 yo girl ten years ago. DH tells DSD's mom, she send the cops to fetch a belligerent Betty. Betty refuses to go home with DSD's mom (who is in the process of moving into her parents' house from her alcoholic BF's house). Betty winds up living with her older (half) sister who smokes a lot of pot and not much else. And lives within walking distance of the BF. DSD's mom gets a restraining order against the BF's parents, who were trying to get guardianship of Betty (who comes with a $1500 social security payment to the parent/guardian). Betty snaps her phone in half to avoid her mom's phone calls.
So I have no way to contact her, my mom to deal with, finals to take, etc. I'm pissed that DSD's mom did not make Betty come home. So I give up. I never rescheduled the appointment.
This week, there were a bunch of signs on FB that Betty was pregnant (or another one of DSD's mom's daughters), and I just *knew*. DSD's mom wouldn't return DH's calls and when he went to pick up DSD today, she said that she wasn't ready to talk about it. he messaged Betty directly. She is pregnant and keeping the baby.
I feel like crap and I don't know what to do. I hope DSD's mom isn't blaming me for this :(