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6/24 Weekly Thread

post #1 of 38
Thread Starter 

I *actually* remembered to start the thread, lol. Woot for small victories! Hope all is well mamas!!

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Kel - I am so grateful that you are able to support your daughter through this journey - eating disorders are VERY scary. It's wonderful to deal with it now, so many hugs coming your way to deal with the stress & trauma of it all!

 

Christy - stop throwing up ;)

 

esp - sorry you missed your race, but it sounds like it was for the best!

 

Purposeful - sounds like a beautiful blessing & gathering :) I actually love the placenta cake idea lol... though I can get that some would be a little grossed out!

 

and whoever started the penpal thread (sorry I can't remember) - thank you - I think this will be a lovely blessing for those of us who participate.

 

AFM - I have definitely entered the wonderful world of weird pregnancy dreams! A couple nights ago I dreamt that both DH & DP were keeping secrets from me, and it was this bizzarre tangle of blackmail & drama that would make a good Hollywood movie lol. Last night I had a dream that I went to the birth center (which IRL I will not be doing!) to hear the baby's heartbeat. the MW said "21." and walked away leaving me there - as in 21 BPM. I KNEW she was wrong - I called my mom, who came to get me (also funny as she lives in TX!), and told her to drive me to the hospital for an immediate US - where the baby's heart rate was 148, and everything was perfect :) I called the MW & fired her! Fortunately the MW in my dream was NOT my wonderful real life MW :)

 

I dream a LOT, and vividly - I have taken workshops, read books, even did a couple doctoral level courses on dream work (mostly Jungian, but other disciplines as well). I LOVE dreams - but man, they get vivid & crazy during PG!

 

(On another note, I'm happy that I have no crazy puking stories to tell anymore!)

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Edited by nosreves - 7/13/12 at 3:55am
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I just want to whine. Actually, I want to go and lie down and have a cry and go to sleep, but that's not going to happen ATM.  The worst thing is that it's not that there's something dramatically wrong - I'm just so tired of feeling awful.  And unpredictably awful.  I got up this morning, took my kids to IKEA to pick up curtains for my work, came home, and pretty well collapsed.  How am I supposed to make anything better if I can't get off the sofa?  I am so tired of being unable to multi-task.  I am so tired of being worn out just by being around my kids - DH is home, I'm not even trying to take care of them this afternoon, but the energy level is such that even going off into a different room to do something while they play with him feels like 'too much.'  I hate not being able to be my normal, overfunctioning self!  (Okay, I *am* making myself cry, so that's probably good . . . ha!)

 

IDK.  I think part of what's bothering me is realizing this morning for some reason how much I DO NOT want to live where we are living when the baby is born.  In reality, I don't see much of a chance of us being able to afford to live somewhere else.  But there are several things I hate about where we are living and I will hate them more postpartum and with a new baby.

 

Sorry.  But I guess I needed to vent. eyesroll.gif

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Haven't been around much, but subbing.

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I wish I knew more about dreams.  I'll have to do my research on what Jung said on the subject, I do admire him.

Mamabeakley-I'm so sorry for what you're going through.  I often find myself complaining that I am so tired of feeling yucky and can't wait to be back to myself.  That's going to happen for us soon, right? :)  In the meantime, do your best to cut yourself some slack.  It sounds like on the regular you are a super productive mama!  A few months of less motivation will be ok for you and your family.  Good for you for getting to the root of the problem.  I wish I could give you some helpful suggestions for becoming more comfortable with your location, but I have a feeling you have thought of them all already.  I hope you feel better soon.  hug2.gif

AFM-I can't tell if I'm being overly sensitive or what, but it seems like DH is annoyed with me quite a bit in the past couple of days.  It's really hurting my feelings.  Usually he is so sensitive to my feelings, that I can let it all out and he just rolls with it.  So it really is hard for me to tell if I'm being over-the-top hormonal or not.  Maybe I'm especially grumpy and he's trying not to rock the boat.  Hmm...any thoughts?

On a positive note, I just had an amazing veggie sandwich that really hit the spot.  It's not a noble prize winning moment, but a good sandwich can really make my day!

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Sego--Hey, I'd quit puking if I could...actually did not puke today, though had my fair share of nausea.  I hope this is gone in the next couple weeks like yours is!  I am 13 weeks today, if it ends at 14 weeks that means not too much longer.

 

My DH just about drove me insane today.  Horrible weather meant the weather channel was basically on all day, and I was stuck in the house with the kids.  Puzzles, board games, reading, kids BEGGING me to watch a movie while DH basically said he needed to have it on the weather channel.  I couldn't take it, I was going insane.  

 

I also had a serious lack of sleep last night which is probably not helping my mood!

 

I have had some great epic style pregnancy dreams over the years...the kind you write a screenplay out of.  I should just keep a notebook next to the bed for when that happens so I can do an outline LOL.  Usually I'm woken up by a kid and those memories just drift away the few hours after I wake up.  

 

OK, the big question here...how to tell the kids?  I'm pretty concerned how my two older kids are going to react!  Sigh.  They're that 'tween age', I think the two younger will be OK.

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Edited by nhklh - 11/14/13 at 5:18am
post #9 of 38
Thread Starter 

Mamabeakley-*Hugs* This too shall pass mama. You are amazing and strong and it'll get better soon!

Phatchristy- I am so sorry you are still having  tough time with morning sickness :(  And boo for bad weather!

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mamabeakley - have that cry - they help SO much. I watched sappy crap on TV the other day for hours (well, in between switching laundry, playing with my 6 yo, eating, etc) just for the purpose of crying. I think we get sensitive to these kinds of things - environment, etc - while pregnant because we know that we need to create the best possible spaces for our babies - emotionally, physically, etc. It's like we get these extra cool radars to alert us to so much that would ordinarily slip by unnoticed.

 

esp - ditto to the above - sorry your DH has been snippy. I know my DP was feeling really rejected/neglected by me, and I was pretty much like, yeah, so what, deal with it, I need to go puke again - but I also know he was very grateful to get some love & tenderness from me yesterday :) A little bit goes a long way.

 

nosreves - yes I've read lots of Fromm. esp - Jung's work re: dreams is essentially the philosophy that dreams are how we begin to process what we cannot yet process in waking life - characters in dreams being parts of ourselves.Very cool stuff :)

 

AFM - have an appt Thursday to hear baby's heartbeat, etc with the MW - and she doesn't have anyone due to give birth for a few weeks so I have been promised this one won't get cancelled, thank goodness! I hate this 'dead zone' of pregnancy where I don;t really feel all that preggo except my clothes can't fit, and there is no consistent moving baby to remind me that everything is OK!

post #11 of 38
Thread Starter 

eek I hate when I space and forget to mention mamas...sorry!

 

esp-just wanted to send you all around hugs, while my scenario is a bit different (my DH has been brilliantly amazing this time around, not that he isn't always great, but wow) and I have been feeling sooo sad because I feel like the worst mama ever when I get overwhelmed cooking quinoa, or start to cry because I am puking when something is on the stove and thus it burns-and then dinner is late. Our family meals are such a huge part of our lives and source of joy and fun and so it has been super sad that I have been feeling so easily overwhelmed, then I feel histrionic because I am crying on his lap because I feel like I am failing my babes...so yeah, um, BOOOOO for hormones, but YAY because they help our little buttons grow.

 

Sego-I really hope you have an amazing appt. on Thursday!!

post #12 of 38

First day back at work after a nice little vacation and I'm having the hardest time getting started on actual "work"! Really wishing I could just putz around on blogs and MDC all day. :) 

 

sego, so excited you get to hear a little heartbeat on Thursday! 

 

ESP, your veggie sandwich is inspiring me to eat one for lunch, yum! My cravings are getting much harder to ignore, so it's nice when they're healthy, lol.

 

14 weeks today! Still feeling like time is flying by (and yet 6 weeks till we find out the gender, what a long time)!

post #13 of 38

Glad everyone's hanging in there with the ups and downs. 2nd tri's supposed to me mostly ups, which I keep reminding the universe.

 

How are the lurking mamas doing? With 170 folks in this DDC, I'd love to hear from someone who's been mostly quiet. Anything exciting going on? Anything we can support you in?

 

After waiting 2 *months* to see someone at the military clinic, the off-base midwifery practice I'm with now called today and we scheduled an appointment for 2 *days* from now. That was a nice surprise. The intake packet included all this language that made me swoon (I'm an American living in the UK)...stuff about homebirth and mothers being in control of their birth, even guidelines for alcohol consumption; a topic we covered here recently. This is the standard government-issue model of healthcare over here!!! We could learn a few things back home. I feel a bit like a birth anthropologist, observing a I participate in the process.

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Hi ladies. Good to hear what you are all up to and glad I am not the only one who is having a hard time with hormones. It feels like everything is a million times more dramatic than it was pre-pregnancy. I am usually pretty even-keeled and I am completely embarrassed by how easily irritated I am these days. 

 

I had a midwife appointment yesterday. My blood pressure has been consistently pretty high during my visits and my midwives are concerned and telling me I need to be really proactive about getting it lowered.  Of course, I am stressing about it, which is pretty counterproductive. I have never had high blood pressure before, and we are all concerned that it appeared so early in pregnancy. I started taking passion flower tincture yesterday and am trying to incorporate some foods into my diet that are supposed to help with it (watermelon, cucumber). I know I could really benefit from increasing my exercise - first trimester fatigue really derailed my exercise regime, and I think I am going to force myself to join the local Y. I have also made plans to start taking a prental yoga class with a friend once a week to see if that helps reduce stress. I am also wondering if my blood pressure doesn't become elevated a bit when I have my prenatal appointments due to this persistent low-grade anxiety I have when I go in that something is going to be wrong. I might go to a local drug store this week and take my blood pressure on one of those machines to see how it is when I am in a different setting. Anyone have any experience with high blood pressure issues?

 

In better news, I have started to feel the baby move this past week. At first I thought I was crazy because I wasn't expecting to feel anything this early (I am 15 weeks yesterday), but it is definitely this kid tickling me from the inside. I am also really excited to be getting a shipment of cloth diapers in the mail in the next couple of days!

 

Hope everyone is having a blissful day!

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Hi, everybody!  I'm at a birth (as a doula) and got kicked out of the room while an epidural is being placed.  This birth is a good reminder of exactly what I hope I never have to deal with . . ..  Well, I wouldn't.  I'm a very different person than this mama.  But I can support her :-)

 

So I'm doing better - thanks for the virtual hugs.  I'll be 15 weeks tomorrow and I think I am either having twins or malnourished.  redface.gif  Most of my feeling awful at this point is either plain fatigue or linked to digestive issues.  And I can't stop eating.  I feel like in my previous pregnancies I was able to slow down some - like go 3 or 4 hours between meals instead of 2 by this point in the pg.  But it's pretty solid every 2 hours or everything is horrible, and it HAS to include concentrated or complimentary protein, and I'm having diarrhea every day.  So I'm not sure if I'm eating a lot because I'm not absorbing it or what.  Bah.  But I have been mentally much better the past couple of days.

 

Kateadelle - if you can, try to go swimming!  Being in the water is great for blood pressure issues.  And taking your pressure yourself is a great way to figure out if it's white coat hypertension or something more serious.

 

Darkblue - I am so not good at mentioning everyone who's posted on a thread.  I just try to reply to SOME of you, instead of talking all about me all the time (except when I am having  a whinefest.  Then I am allowed to focus on ME ME ME ROTFLMAO.gif.)

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Yay, hooray for swimming! I've been in for a little dip in the pool twice/day for the last two days. We made it to Florida (after a 4-day drive from Minneapolis), all went surprisingly well until the last day when we had to drive through tropical storm Debby.

 

Got to the beach, but it was super windy and too choppy to swim. But still so lovely to see the ocean. We're here for a month, so we're kind of settling in and getting the lay of the land. I have sometimes forgotten that I'm pregnant, there have been so many other things to think about. But seeing myself in a bikini is a definite reminder :)  Only 13 weeks, but I look pregnant and have "soft belly".

 

Haven't been posting a lot because husband is working remotely so he takes up all the computer time lately, but still keeping up on everyone's status when I can. Hope you are all having a lovely evening!

post #17 of 38
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Originally Posted by cieloazul View Post

Glad everyone's hanging in there with the ups and downs. 2nd tri's supposed to me mostly ups, which I keep reminding the universe.

 

How are the lurking mamas doing? With 170 folks in this DDC, I'd love to hear from someone who's been mostly quiet. Anything exciting going on? Anything we can support you in?

 

After waiting 2 *months* to see someone at the military clinic, the off-base midwifery practice I'm with now called today and we scheduled an appointment for 2 *days* from now. That was a nice surprise. The intake packet included all this language that made me swoon (I'm an American living in the UK)...stuff about homebirth and mothers being in control of their birth, even guidelines for alcohol consumption; a topic we covered here recently. This is the standard government-issue model of healthcare over here!!! We could learn a few things back home. I feel a bit like a birth anthropologist, observing a I participate in the process.

Nice!! I'm excited for you! 

 

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Originally Posted by phatchristy View Post

I have had some great epic style pregnancy dreams over the years...the kind you write a screenplay out of.  I should just keep a notebook next to the bed for when that happens so I can do an outline LOL.  Usually I'm woken up by a kid and those memories just drift away the few hours after I wake up.  

 

I totally started writing mine down because they are just too weird. A ton of them have this old high school boyfriend in them, but he looks like he did back then, not the old guy that he looks like now! Just really weird dreams. 

 

Mamabeakley- I so know what you mean! I am not able to do nearly as much as I was doing just a few weeks ago without getting exhausted. I keep doing too much, or when I think I'm going to take it easy on myself, I get tired from doing that, too!  Also, yep- my tiredness is totally related to food as well. Today at my MW visit, she pretty much dubbed it that my body is using everything it can to grow this baby, and when I consume crap- ie: coffee, sweets, processed foods; my body still needs more food so I'm all tired and achy!  I hate eating that much! It makes me tired :)  

Also, I'm on call for a birth any day now! This will be a homebirth though, so I'm super excited about it! 

 

Katieadelle- yay for baby movements! Isn't it wonderful!! And yeah, I would check out your bp at an off time to see what it really is. Wouldn't hurt. 

 

DH felt this baby move tonight!! It was so great! Other than that, I've been trying to eat and make everything count but man! I'm getting so tired of food :/ At least it's summer fruit season, right?! 

Also, I've been in full on nesting mode already. I've taken up three rooms of carpet, and have only left the last room because there wasn't enough room in the garbage. Talk about crazy lady over here. It's no wonder I've been a bit tired!  Waiting on a mama to have her baby this week and am getting pretty excited about it! Can't wait to share with you all! 

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SO great that you doulas are attending births pregnant :) It makes me smile. Doing my birth research while pregnant has been wonderful - just adds a whole other dimension. I REALLY hope i can get out to do interviews soon; I need more responses on my online survey first, and that part has been much more slow-going than I anticipated. If I don;t get interviews done before baby comes, it's going to put me another year out on the doctoral degree. Which of course means another year of tuition, which means another year of student loans. No fun.

 

Mamabeakley - so glad you are doing better. There are so many ups and downs.

 

purposeful, i totally KWUM about the nesting - I moved dressers around today (well I helped lol), got my whole bedroom cleaned, put away all of the baby stuff in the baby dresser (that took all of 5 minutes, I really need baby clothes!), totally reorganized my bookshelves... it feels good to have such a nice neat clean room! Now if I could get another room in the house to look 1/2 as good...

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Still dealing with verigo, but my 1st ppt is finally today- it has been changed twice for different reasons..

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cieloazul, love hearing about your UK antenatal experience! Definitely report back with lots of details--obviously I'm a little biased, but it's pretty interesting! :) Hopefully it will help me know more what to expect. 

 

lovemyzoo, hope the appointment goes well!! How many weeks are you?

 

sunseeker, double yay for swimming! I'm really hoping to go to the beach this weekend. What part of Florida are you staying in? We're in North Central, so today is the first day in what feels like forever that it hasn't really rained. Still no sign of the sun though...

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