My 7yo hates one of our baby sitters. Idk why. She doesn't know why. She says her body just tells her to hate him. My 9 yo has no problem with him, and can't come up with any theories about what might be wrong. She has been upset with other sitters, but not to this degree. This kid is a great kid, he's experienced and has been an occasional sitter with us for years. He volunteers at his church to help with the kids, got an award for a credit he earned as a student TA at the local elementary school and wants to be an elementary teacher. Dd is prone to misplacing her anger and being pretty irrational about everything when she's mad (for instance, once she was angry that I wasn't going to drive her to school and so she hated the shirt I was wearing at the time and insisted I not wear it), my best guess is that she's actually pissed off that we're leaving her at home and taking it out on this kid. I'm surprised hes willing to put up with it really, i doubt I would if I were a sitter - she can be pretty miserable when she sets her mind to it. At any rate, we've pretty much stopped using him at all lately because of her feelings, which sucks as we're rural and babysitters are literally few and far between.
But, some friends of ours are having a party that hubby and I really want to go to. We haven't been out together in months, and he's away on buisness most of the summer. We've been trying to get together with this circle of friends for months, but things just haven't been working out. All our other sitters are busy, parents out of town etc. My last shot is this kid, but i know if I use him there will be massive fallout from dd. She will punish him and be miserable to us for at least that day, and likely the next. I feel like I'm being held hostage or something. One part of me says that I want my kids to be able to trust their gut, and I should respect that if they don't want to be around someone. If it was my older dd, I wouldn't question, I'd just stop using that sitter. The other part of me says that there is no reason I shouldn't be able to leave my kids with the competent sitter of my choice and take a much needed time out with hubby. I totally resent her leveling control over this, it doesn't feel like she's uncomfortable with him as much as she's trying to make us stay unless she is placated with the sitter of her choice (who has now outgrown babysitting and has a real job).
Anyone have similar experiences?