Short story: What can my 20yo nephew do with his life? Joining military is out. I need suggestions, please!
LONG story: I have a 20yo nephew by my brother (drug-brain-damaged induced schizophrenia in mental hospital) & a gal I'll call Mary (also severe mental illness). At age 8yo nephew got some matches & burnt down a building; he said voices in his head told him to do it & the authorities promptly gave him a schizophrenic diagnosis, too. Family view was horror, & that he just said that (about voices) to try to get out of being punished, and because hearing voices was normal condition among Mary's friends. He kept the schizo label until he was 17 when he finally went to a regular High School where he got straight A grades.
Nephew lives in California with Mary who does her best. Nephew has had very little exposure all his life to anyone who worked for a living. I think neither he nor Mary have good life skills.
I moved to other side of the planet before nephew was born so don't have much contact or influence. I don't know much about their lives, really. My kids take most of my energy, too. For almost 2 yrs I have financially supported nephew, though, out of a pot of money that has now dwindled to $8000, because I recognised job market was tough & especially awkward for someone with his record, and I hoped the financial support would let him get organised and into college. He also doesn't drive or have a car, he keeps somehow missing the deadlines to sign up for college courses or he just takes a few community college classes each semester. He's not screwing up his life, but he's not getting on with it, either.
I am thinking about cutting off the money, OR using it very differently. Like getting him a driving license & a car. But then he will have to find money to pay his own rent that much sooner.
If he didn't have the history of schizophrenia diagnosis I'd heavily pressure nephew to join the military, but I doubt very much he'd get in.
What could he do instead? He needs something or someone to help him grow up, finally.