I'm not sure about statistics but I started out at a normal weight, gained at least 45lbs last time and had a fairly easy (<6hr) labor at home with no complications even though baby came out with her hand by her face. Baby girl was only 7lb14 oz and I lost all the weight by 9 months. This time I'm at 29 weeks and have already gained 32lbs so I'm pretty much on track to gain 45-50 lbs again. It isn't fun to gain so much weight especially during the heat but I know it is just what my body does as I am eating healthy and staying active with pregnancy workout dvds, walking and chasing a toddler. I do have to make sure I stay away from certain books and apps that talk about the weight I "should" be gaining because it starts to get to me though.
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thank you for that link and your comments, ladies! All I can think is that I am perhaps consuming greater quantities of good food than I actually need. I can stick to the normal brewer diet requirements to make sure of that. But at least the fear and stress of gaining is not there anymore. That is more what was psyching me out. So thank you!
I have my 3D/4D ultrasound tomorrow, misse!
With my DD I gained 40 lbs + (I stopped weighing myself at 38 weeks, but DD wasn't born until 41w3d.) I'm short and started off at about 130 lbs so it was a fairly significant amount of weight. DD was all of 6 lbs 14 oz, and while we had a few unexpected complications leading to an induction, none of them had anything to do with weight.
I will admit I was sort of hoping to gain less this time, but I'm well on my way to at least that much. It's a bit frustrating because I was really getting back in shape before getting pregnant, but I figure if that's what my body needs, that's what it'll do and I'm not going to worry about it. I luckily have a midwife who doesn't worry about it, so it's not an issue.
I suspect Crystal_B is completely right in that gaining extra weight causes considerable care provider bias. The stats may also be skewed because certain conditions such as GD and preeclampsia can lead to increased weight gain (whether due to actual weight gain or swelling) and also increase the likelyhood of a c-section. In those cases, there is a correlation between increased weight and increased risk of c-sections, but no causation.
Carlin -- I love your voice of reason on so many things! Keep it up :) You have a wonderful, gentle way of phrasing things and it's just perfect for so many things (especially when it comes to pregnancy freak-outs...). You said everything I wanted to -- and much better ;)
Yesterday was a Very. Bad. Day. for me :/ For the last week it's been over 100*, and the last two days (and the forecast for the coming week) show the lowest high temperature to be 95*. We have no AC. And, it's frickin H.O.T. in our house. It's starting to really wear on me (it's so hard to sleep at night when it's hot... even at midnight last night it was still 79* :( ). Yesterday dh took the Suburban (we're a one-vehicle family) to work, so that left the girls and I at home, which usually isn't a problem except we were out of everything food-wise. No milk, no bread, no yogurt, no bananas, no butter,no eggs, and really, hardly any fruits/veggies at all. Oh... and the biggie (for me anyway)?!?... NO COFFEE. I felt like yesterday was just one trainwreck after another and it resulted in numerous breakdowns on my part. By the time dh got home at 10:30p.m., I had somewhat pulled myself together, but he could tell I was just "off" .. and when he asked me... gah... I turned into a blubbering, sobbing mess. Bless his heart for just reaching out and hugging me and telling me everything would be okay. I might have been a crappy mom for a day, but the girls know I still love them, and... yeah... everything would be okay (gah... tearing up even thinking of it).
Thank goodness today is a new day. It's supposed to be another hot one (97*), but ... it's still a new day and I'm determined to make it a better one.
Judybean--I love your attitude. I love starting a new day fresh. You are such a trooper with 4 children!
Carlin and Crystal-- very well put. Of course it makes sense. Anything else that might be a liability quickly changes minimal worry to full-fledged surgery. Pre-e and GD have other symptoms, so if you do not exhibit those signs, I guess there is no need to worry.
I had my 3-d/4-d ultrasound today. And we confirmed it is definitely a boy! He was smiling and sticking his tongue out. His smile is just like my DH. It was uncanny. He is definitely his little boy. :) I'm so happy.
Aww, thanks Judybean! It's so easy to be taken the wrong way on forums that I really do try to be as gentle as possible, but I often feel like I'm so clumsy with words lately. It's nice to hear that I'm at least not insulting people left right and center!
I'm sorry you had a bad day yesterday. I suspect you are a better mom than you give yourself credit for even on your bad days!
Ascher and Anya, what beautiful babies you have! Isn't it amazing how complete they look already? It really drives home that it's only a few more weeks until the first of us will have our babes in our arms!
AFM, I was woken up by my first leg cramp of this pregnancy this morning. I guess I should be glad that they waited this long this time but it's still one of the least pleasant ways to wake up I've ever experienced. My whole calf is still really sore, and as it's on the same leg as the hip that's really bothering me, I'm not feeling overly mobile today. DD has been on a total tear all morning too and I really need to get her out of the house to work off some energy before one of us loses it!
Can I say how glad I am for this group? It's so great to have somewhere to vent or just share with people who understand exactly what we are all going through. I love that, although we all seem to have a fairly similar perspective on some aspects of pregnancy and birth, there is such a diversity of points of view and experiences to draw on. It definitely makes for a rich, inclusive and nurturing environment!
Hey all! Everything is going good over here. I'm 29 weeks today. Saw my midwives yesterday and she finally decided to bite the bullet and go along with me and my decisions regarding testing and stuff. I refused my GTT last visit, and this time she was absolutely on board with me doing a 2-week report of my blood sugar levels. Going to start that as soon as I get paid.. mmrph.... Oh, and she also gave me a ton of Floradix samples, my iron was at 12 I think. So I'll be doing that. I've also been hitting the greens hardcore lately, so hopefully that helps. She's finally off my back about my weight gain. I gained zero weight these past two weeks.. I think I was at 120 at the beginning of this pregnancy, and I'm currently at 134. That's only 14lbs, I'm happy with it, and I guess she is too.
I'm still not sure I want to birth with them. I'll see how comfortable I am as the weeks go on, and even if I do, it's really to appease my husband. I'm just not feelin' the managed birth thing.
WCM - I'm interviewing new care providers and I am surprisingly not stressed out about it (today! ha!) Would you look for a HB midwife? Or UC?
Sorry to hear about everyone and the heat. I'd share SOME of our rain and overcast for SOME sun. Just enough, you know?
I bought some yarn today, yeah... i'm not supposed to be spending any money on things, and i probably won't after this, BUT... they were on sale! when else can i get wool for 3$/skein? really? I also got some cotton, fuchsia and lime green. I like that color combo. I don't normally knit with cotton, but i figured i'd try something new.
Finished a sling for a friend, it's a gift for her SIL. I convinced my son (5.5y) to hop in really quick. OMG, he fit, it was comfortable, and secure. I'd be fine carrying him around like that for a while. Amazing! :)
My sling is on it's way to being done. I need to decide between a gathered shoulder or a pleated shoulder, and i'm just going to put some trim on it for a little bit of sparkle. It's a gorgeous turquoise silk... YUM!
I'm feeling fine. Lots of movement lately. Leg cramps, i've NEVER gotten them before this pregnancy. But, especially in the morning, really only in the morning, if i stretch with my toes pointed... OMG is it painful, so i'm now trained to stretch with my feet/toes flexed. I woke up one am with a leg cramp, it hurt the rest of the day.
The 3D US. it really hits home that there is a really human baby in there. not just an abstract baby, you know? It is cool to see them, thank you for the posts!
misse--I have mine saturday! Good luck!
motomom--that book by Ina May was the 2nd book I read. The first was BFW. Both are amazing.
I think everything started to click this week because my BFW class began pain-coping techniques and we do this by holding an entire handful of ice for the length of a contraction and practicing the techniques. It's harder than it sounds. I think that's when it finally hit me that this is really going to happen, and if the ice is only a tiny sample of what is coming, it's going to be hard work!
If it helps, I find the ice to be far far different from labor. I would much rather have been having one contraction than holding ice for 60-90 seconds. It's not a bad technique for conceptualizing the relaxation methods, but ice works a whole different part of your nervous system in a much different way AND you don't have the hormones of labor. So, I find labor to be far more work, but less painful than the ice. Also, during the ice practice in class, distraction worked best for me, but that only works during early labor for me.
What has worked for me has been submission to the process. Since I know (at least I did after the first) that this will eventually end, it's really about doing whatever I need to to just wait through it until it's time to give birth. I use a combination of BFW (for the emotional) and hypnobirthing (for the psychological) along with basic body awareness to get through it. I have people around me to keep me mindful of not fighting labor and have been able to have relaxed, aware labors that were hard and a ton of work, but not consistently painful.
Of course, I needn't get cocky about it. I'm no advertisement for euphoric birth. lol I'm loud and grumpy. I just know it will end, but I can't do anything to make that happen faster, and that makes all the difference for me -personally.
I feel the same about the ice thing.. contractions, in my mind, are work, and they work to get a baby born. Ice freezing the tissue in my hand is pretty much akin to torture in my mind
For me, I think body awareness is key. I kind of surrender to the whole process. I had 9 hours of unmedicated labor with DD1 and weeks and weeks of intense prodromal labor with DD2.. it's hard to surrender yourself to prodromal labor since it doesn't seem to be *doing* anything, but I think *during* actual labor it helps a great deal.
I just checked since today is the last day in my pay period... after today I only need 69 hours for FMLA coverage!!! Yay!! I will hit that by the end of the next pay period for sure. SO happy about that. Ahh :)
That made me laugh...loud and grumpy. I'm more of the quiet laborer, at least I think so. I was humming quite a bit last time but no screaming or anything like that. I remember the nurse coming in all chipper and I was just shaking my head like mad. I was in laborland and I didn't want her to break my concentration. She shut up once she saw me..no happy talk there lady...must remember to put that in the birth plan too. I gotta make notes LOL. No counting to 10 and no smalltalk when I'm laboring.
I have to take my time for the rainbow relaxation, actually sit through it, not fall asleep to it, even though I love falling asleep to it.
@Carlin: Yay for FMLA, you've been working hard, you work in the tourist industry, right?
Just chiming in to say katt, if you're regretting that yarn buy, I would totally take it off your hands for $3 a skein. That's a steal!
In my world, no leg cramps or achiness this week. I really think it was just sitting on planes and airport furniture (thank goodness!), although I'm starting to have a little trouble sleeping. No physical ailments, I'm not really uncomfortable, just having trouble going to and staying asleep. Fortunately, I work every other day most of the week, which gives me every other morning to sleep in if I can. And my stomach is definitely running out of space - DH was offended when I didn't finish off the pancakes he made yesterday - it took a lot to convince him that I couldn't eat them all and expect to feel comfortable for the next few hours!
I've been sort of slinking around just reading your stories and thoughts about birthing last week. I feel a little bit like I can't say anything until I experience it... I've read and read but I still feel like I am a complete rookie and will be until my son's born.
I've been going up and down in confidence about becoming a mother. Up until this past week, I've really been sure about everything. But all of a sudden, I feel like I am hit with all the reasons I "should" be nervous about this. I feel like I'm faking becoming a mother, even though it's obviously happening. I am very young (I just turned 21), my man left me, I'm sharing an apartment with my single 28 year old sister and am on food stamps. The only thing that doesn't make me a "traditional rebel story" is the fact that I graduated college already and have a career. It all started with this dumb movie that I flipped on the other day... It was all about this silly teenager who got pregnant and everything went wrong basically. Everyone felt badly for her, etc etc...
It's a little weird to me, because I never had anyone look at me badly for being pregnant when I first found out.. but now that my man left, I can see the judging looks of everyone when they see my young face with ringless finger... It's really hurtful especially as a foreigner. I feel like I won't know what to do when I have a baby and I keep having nightmares about him coming early and not being ready emotionally. UGH. I feel like such a pansy for even mentioning this, but these forums seem like the only place I can talk about it!
I was really feeling badly the other day and found that the only thing that gave me confidence was when I looked at the US pictures of my son... For some reason, just seeing him makes me feel like I know what I'm doing. I just can't wait until he's here... and I'm so sick of not being able to "get ready" for him by setting up his crib/etc.
On a more physical note, I still am feeling "normal". I have gained about... 12 pounds? I was 108 and now am 120lbs. Sometimes I wake up and don't remember I'm pregnant at all until I look down. and see my big bulge. The only thing that's weird is this (TMI warning) this liquidy discharge that's happening more and more since maybe...24 weeks to now (28 weeks). It's definitely different from the regular discharge that I've had since the beg of the pregnancy- much waterier...and it's def not pee as when it happens when I'm on the toliet it looks similar in the water as smoke does to the air. I'm HOPING that it's not amniotic fluid, but what will happen if it is? Does anyone know? I'm mentioning it to my midwife this week at the appointment.