Summer 2012 Love for the Preggo Bajingos: Having #1 in our 30s - Page 2

[andaluza]

Oh, Caly,  I am sure that CaCountry is right about those signs. It won't be long now! I will have to keep my eyes on my cat in the coming weeks. Baking is a great idea. I think I've convinced dh to start making some meals to freeze (his last day of summer school is tomorrow!). I need to keep him kind of busy so I can still have some productive time at home and get closer to finishing my projects.

Boots, I get temporary hand swelling when I go on my walks and it goes down considerably very soon after. I was thinking along the same lines as what Lily's doc said. But, our 10th anniversary wedding band is long off my finger, and the full size larger one is now tight in general, so I definitely have more fluid in general in my hands.

Nice diaper cover and great compliment, Erica. I had two comments about looking small or not looking pregnant (?!?) today from random people. I think they were clueless, though, really. Um, I've gained over 25 lbs and have a big round belly that moves, and you've never seen me before, so wtf?

2sweetsparrows: I think anemia is pretty common at that point in pregnancy because of the extra fluid in your body (or so the ob told me). I have extra iron prenatals as it is, but I started taking them when I wake up in the early morning (to avoid nausea) so I can still have milk products with breakfast. Are those inches or cm you are gaining? I thought the fundal measurement was in cm, but maybe you are talking about a different measurement?

Hope to hear some good news from you soon, CaCountry!!

Nothing too exciting here. I seem to be getting a bit of nausea, has this happened to anyone in 3rd tri? Boots, did you mention this? I'm not close to vomiting, but it's a feeling that I need to eat crackers or something to calm my stomach.

I think my parents have decided to drive down instead of flying after the baby comes. I guess this will give them a lot of flexibility. I hope they arrive speaking to each other, though!

[iixivboots]

Thanks for the info,  Lily!

Huge hugs hugs, Caly. There is just no way to know, like you told me. I get the "losing time" idea, but I think that there will be advantages to having rested when you do go into labor. I just wish that there was a better policy from employers so this wouldn't be such a stressful decision for women. You are taking an unpaid maternity leave, aren't you? The whole thing sucks, plain and simple. No decision you could've made would have improved it, in my opinion. I would hate to see you working, hot, miserable, and having people ask you every day when you were going to pop, too. There's no good solution.

It is NOT too late to change the visitor plans. I know it would be a little awkward but if it's going to help your feelings about after birth, I say go for it. I would say something like, "I (Or we, drag him into it :) am feeling overwhelmed because of the birth being delayed. We are so touched by your offer to help but is there any way you could reschedule your trip for later. We don't think we'll be ready for visitors at that point." I know this could be tricky if plane tickets are involved, etc, I mean, really, better yet, this would be a great thing for DH to deal with. You might not have to reschedule everyone but take the one you are feeling the most stressed about and see if anything can be done.

 Dude, I am angry at HB all the time. I do feel guilty about it but it's pretty much par for the course around here. He likes to wake up and kick me just as I'm trying to fall asleep. Then there was the whole stubborn ultrasound thing, and yesterday he was poking me hard in the cervix and I just was trying to get some tacos! I also am getting convinced he's been switching positions again and I don't think he's head down anymore...grrr. I hope this just means I hate being pregnant and not that I will be this impatient with my child...

I also think it's weird that your cat bit you, I think she's like "Come on, spacegirl!" I don't blame you for not wanting to think about induction. I find it tempting at 33 weeks...sigh.

So, last night's childbirth class was less awesome than the first. The nurse kept saying " a c-section is a great way to have a baby." WTF??? She told us the hospitals c-section rate is 1/4 for single births, only quoted as higher 31% because of multiples. She also just could not really speak to any questions about induction or epidurals raising c-section risk, which I think it's purposeful and I didn't like it.  I need to start talking to my doc about birth more.

Hi andaluza! I think we cross posted. I have nausea related to acid reflux, I get it badly if I don't take my meds. However, I did feel this HUGE hormone surge last week, that gave me that first trimester nausea feeling back and I was back to wearing my seabands (and sobbing, but that's another matter :)

[LilyTiger]

Originally Posted by bootsvalentine 

 Dude, I am angry at HB all the time. I do feel guilty about it but it's pretty much par for the course around here. He likes to wake up and kick me just as I'm trying to fall asleep. Then there was the whole stubborn ultrasound thing, and yesterday he was poking me hard in the cervix and I just was trying to get some tacos! I also am getting convinced he's been switching positions again and I don't think he's head down anymore...grrr. I hope this just means I hate being pregnant and not that I will be this impatient with my child...

All this pent up anger people are talking about is making me feel better. I think some of my anxiety this week stems from being really impatient with the dogs and occasionally wanting to throttle DH, which makes me think I'll be a terrible mother.  (I got angry at my bag today because it was too heavy and got stuck on something in the car.)  Then I have to remind myself that I'm 8 months pregnant, there's a 4 lb creature sitting on my cervix and smashing into my bladder, I can't sleep, I have a huge deadline for which publishers won't call me back, and there's dog hair all over the house.  Sooooo, I think a little anger under the circumstances is hardly uncalled for. 

We're going to an out-of-town wedding for DH's cousin tomorrow and DH's parents invited us over for dinner tonight and I just flat out said no.  I want to sit around packing and watching the X-Files, and to be honest I'll be getting plenty of in-law time this weekend.  Blah.  Hopefully I can keep the anger-monster at bay whilst dealing with lots of nieces/nephews and drunken in-laws.  Blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah......

[iixivboots]

Just something to cheer everyone up: I am sending huz to go buy me some Earth Mama Angel Baby Mama Bottom Balm for my horrible h-roids. If you are in a bad mood, just think how happy he's going to be buying that.

It's freaking 113! I'm not going out to get it!

edit: Update from FB chat where I sent him exact link to product and store finder in case it wasn't in the first store...

Huz: no problem, anything else?

hehehe, I have trained him so well.

[Ramzubo]

Originally Posted by bootsvalentine 

Just something to cheer everyone up: I am sending huz to go buy me some Earth Mama Angel Baby Mama Bottom Balm for my horrible h-roids. If you are in a bad mood, just think how happy he's going to be buying that.

It's freaking 113! I'm not going out to get it!

subbing becuase I just know these babies are going to pop out soon!

[iixivboots]

Butt cream procured! It must be love!

:)

So he was the only one in the store so of course the sales associate was all over him immediately. She was like "What can I help you find?"

And he's like "uh, it's a cream for pregnant ladies"

And so she takes him to the pregnant stuff and it's not there...

So she goes "What's it for?"

"Uh hemmorhoids."

"Oh so maybe it's with the aging stuff..." (Not there)

"No, it's definitely like pregnant earth mama something..."

"Oh we have Earth Mama Angel Baby over here..."

Edited by iixivboots - 6/27/12 at 6:32pm

[catheleni]

ha ha ha ha Boots!

funny stuff!

I have finally finished reading all the posts up until now.

Caly and Country girl,  I'm sure it will be soon!  I think it will be fine.  When the babies come, the wait will be a distant memory!

Everyone, though I'm only 26 weeks, I have a ton of impatience and a fair enough amount of anxiety free-floating around.  I think all of the worries are par for the course, but I know it doesn't feel good at the time when you're melting down.

I also worry about relatives driving me crazy (his), when I should take off, etc.  It's funny. 

I feel really out of the loop and then I read through the posts and you guys are echoing so much of what I've been thinking.

AFM., I'm on summer break, thank goodness, and we finally GOT MARRIED, which is happy!  The baby finally pushed us to plan it in 3 weeks, and it was nice and it really suits us!

Plus, IT'S A GIRL, yaaaaay!  There's a girl for our group!

Hope to be able to catch up more.   Hugs to all!

[iixivboots]

Ugh. 111 today and our power has been out for an hour. Keep not getting dressed thinking it will come back. My grandmother passed away yesterday. My mom was so sick they wanted to put her in the hospital. I barely got any sleep woke up to this lovely day.

HI Cath! Have been thinking about you. More later this forum sucks on my phone.

[stik]

Oh My Word, bootsvalentine, that sounds horrible!  Can you go somewhere?  Mall with playground, library, movie theater, McDonald's playland?  That kind of heat isn't good for anyone. 

Also, I'm so sorry for your loss. 

[Calycanth]

Oh Boots, I am so sorry about your grandmother.  I hope you find some way to stay cool today. Seriously, if the power stays off, get out of the house. Heat exhaustion is the last thing you need right now. Sending lots of love your way.

Catheleni, hooray! I was hoping we'd hear from you. So much good news! Congrats on your baby girl and your marriage! I hope the pregnancy is progressing smoothly and you're not too uncomfortable.

CountryGirl, I hope you're cuddling your baby girl as I type this! Those contractions sounded promising.

Andaluza, the nausea I've had in the third trimester seems to be a wonky hunger signal. I don't necessarily feel like eating, but if I go for too long without a snack, I feel sick. I started carrying granola bars in my purse for this very reason. As soon as I eat, I feel better.

LilyTiger, good luck dealing with the relatives this weekend. I think all pregnant women should get a pass on family events.

Thank you all so much for your support yesterday. It's nice to know I'm not the only one who's been feeling a little insane lately.

[ericaf]

Boots: I'm sorry about your Grandma... And sorry about the heat as well. Awful. I couldn't imagine. Hopefully a mall or even grocery store can give you some relief! I was also hysterically laughing at the thought of DH getting the hemmoroid cream. Lol. My hubs probably wouldn't even go. Hah!

Caly: I was also thinking all your symptoms/issues/concerns were maybe a sign of impending labor!

AFM: I had myself a meltdown yesterday over the thought of leaving my little girl home and going back to work. Partially for the obvious reasons, and partially because as you all know... I want to kill my MIL lately and she's the one who would be watching her when I went back to work. So I had a real heart to heart with my hubby, and he agreed that if we can work it out that maybe I just go back to work part time (although my work doesn't know this)... I completely think it's doable, and this makes me panic a lot less. I know something will work out...

[LivingSky]

Popping in to sub, and to say - Not only is late pregnancy a wonderful and common reason to be C R A N K Y, but this insane weather we've been having all over North America is REALLY not helping. I think it's put everyone a bit off!

[tank]

Caly I felt the SAME way at the end.  angry that elliot wouldn't just come out and I was overdue (OMFG the end of the world for me!!!) Mad that I had even thought about induction because I was so desprate.  Mad that I stopped working so early when really I had a lot of time left to work before he was born.  I cried everyday.  I was so angry at the world and thought I'd be pregnant forever.  That ended as soon as I saw my little guy.  But noone could tell me that it was going to be fine and I didn't need to be that upset about every single thing because I honestly didn't believe them!  End of pregnancy hormones and emotions can be crazy.  Hang in there and soon you will be wishing you can put spacegirl back up in there so you can just take a nap

[CA Country Girl]

False Alarm .  24 hours of contractions starting at 7 minutes apart and moving all the way to 3 (never very intense) and at a "labor check" this morning I was only 1.5 cm and 50% effaced.  They have ebbed a bit now and I am exhausted from lack of sleep.  I hope that it will start up again and I will get some real progression, because this so tiring and frustrating.

[iixivboots]

Aww, I love to see our bajingo mamas popping in. It's been so long since we all had a baby! (Ram was the last, right?) 

Cathelini, huge congrats on your marriage and your baby girl AND another school year finished :) I went back and filled in the girls from 2011 and it looks like with Caly, CACoGirl, and Erica, we might start evening out.

BUT andaluza and I are going to add to the sausage fest! And Lily could go either way!

Sparrows, I can't remember, do you know the sex of your little one?

Tank, I REALLY wanted someone to say that about those feelings go away, not just for dear Caly's sake but for mine in the future, I am having SO much anxiety about when to take leave, ugh.

Erica, I have a lot of days where I hate the thought of going back to work, too. (not to mention pumping). There is no way I can go back part time, but if I could I would try that! We agreed that we're just going to have to get through this first school year and then re-evaluate finances in the summer and see what our options are. But it's the thought of leaving the teeny baby that sucks the most for me (although one year olds are my favorite people :)

Thankfully the AC went back on while I was taking my "go out and face the world" shower in the dark. ;) So I ended up staying home after all. I have spent SO much time at home, in bed. It sucks, but I do NOT want to be out in the heat. I should be up doing more stuff around the house but oh well. Maybe when my hemmies get better. That Earth Mama Bottom Balm does feel nice! They also have a bottom spray which sounds good for post-partum.

Thanks for the thoughts about my grandma. I feel bad not being able to be there, but honestly I was more worried about my mom. This lady has MS, diabetes, hypertension, hypothyroidism, kidney problems, I'm probably forgetting some things. She usually does pretty well but just going in for a check up at the doctor she was vomiting so violently they wanted to call 911. She convinced them not to and instead they gave her zofran and called my dad to pick her up. Then she got home and found out her mother had died :(  I talked to her today and she sounds okay, but no idea why she was so sick yesterday. They'll be driving all day Saturday to the funeral so I hope she feels much better by then.

Straight to the cervix, Caly and CACoGirl!

[Calycanth]

I think I may be in labor. I'm pretty sure my water broke around 10 PM last night. No burst or gush, just a slow, steady trickle that saturated my maxi pads. I called my midwife around 1 AM, then went to bed, slept for a few hours, and woke up around 4:00 with mild contractions that are getting stronger now. I have an appointment with the midwives at 10:30 anyway, so we're going to go to that and see what they have to say. Will check in with y'all later.

[scowgirl]

I am a lurker (I was on the TTC thread for a bit, but never spoke up to introduce myself here and eventually it seemed silly to suddenly do so at 38 weeks  ). So I hope this is not inappropriate, but best of luck to you, Calycanth!

[ericaf]

CAcountry: Sorry about the false alarm... it's any day now though, really!! Sending you lots of positive thoughts and love!!

Go, Caly... go, Caly, go, Caly!!!!

Edited by ericaf - 6/29/12 at 7:37am

[Ramzubo]

Originally Posted by CA Country Girl 

False Alarm .  24 hours of contractions starting at 7 minutes apart and moving all the way to 3 (never very intense) and at a "labor check" this morning I was only 1.5 cm and 50% effaced.  They have ebbed a bit now and I am exhausted from lack of sleep.  I hope that it will start up again and I will get some real progression, because this so tiring and frustrating.

Ugg so sorry cacountry! Hope things ramp uo asap!

Yay Caly, good luck!!!!!!!

[CA Country Girl]

Yay Caly!

Hope the appointment goes well.  I got some sleep last night.  Having some contractions today.  Hopefully I am right behind you.