I'm 12.5 weeks.
We told my parents ASAP (at 3.5 weeks!) But my mom is an MD and I always think of her as my "true" Primary Care Physician, so... I gotta tell her. We also told my brother (only sibling) when he got home from a vacation around 5.5 weeks, since he lives with us. And my BFF. But that was it for a long time.
We now feel comfortable, in theory, telling most everyone, and just told two of DH's siblings (and their spouses and kids)-- yesterday. They seemed pretty happy, but I thought they'd be more excited? Or something? This is essentially my first (one earlier m/c just prior to this PG where we hadn't told lots of people-- and hadn't told DH's family).
We were going to tell DH's parents first, so we had to swear DH's sibs to secrecy for a couple of days until we do. We ended up doing what we did because my SIL (DH's brother's wife) lost her father suddenly last week, so DH and I and another of DH's brothers traveled there for the funeral. Since we were all together and it didn't feel inappropriate (we waited until the last day we were there, to feel it out), we told them in person. Now we have to coordinate a Skype to Manila to tell my MIL/FIL and then call DH's remaining sibling. Next will be my grandmothers, then a select dozen other friends and family we want to tell in person/on the phone, then maybe we'll email and post to FB around 15 or 16 weeks. I think that'll work for us.
I've been wondering how people would react... We've been married 14 years (together 17), though folks close to us know that A) we weren't trying all that time (so it's not, like, a sensitive topic) and most folks know that B) we decided to start trying this year. It's definitely going to be a big shift, I guess, from thinking of us as two, to thinking of us as three. I didn't get the feeling that the slightly muted (as I perceived it) response from DH's sibs was d/t the death in the family-- especially from the brother that had no loss. But I don't know what I was expecting... Maybe that they'd ask more questions, rather than mostly turn back to the topic that had been up for discussion just prior to our announcement. They did seem fairly happy, I guess... Just don't know what I expected!
I thought it would feel more "official" when we started telling more than just my parents, et al., but I feel the same so far. The funniest thing was how almost immediately, they asked if I was finding out the sex and if I had names picked out and they got (mock) mad at me for saying, A) No, we are going to be surprised and B) we aren't telling anyone the names. I know it's a common sentiment, but I thought it was kind of hilarious that both my VERY PRACTICAL SIL and my GAY BIL were like, "OMG, what can we POSSIBLY buy you if we don't know the sex?!?!" Uhhhhh... Something not clothing? Something brown, green, yellow, white? A cool Star Wars onesie (to match my BIL's T-shirt)? I mean, really? Frilly cr@p, SIL? Rigid gender roles, BIL?
I guess I'll have to get used to it.