Just wondering if anyone else is back at work yet, and if so, how are you managing everything?? I feel like I'm falling apart at the seams here sometimes. I'm exhausted and DH and I never seem to stop...ever. I don't know that it's really any different from staying home with the kids, since keeping kids isn't exactly a day off. anyway, just rambling and wondering if anyone has any advise on how to make life go a bit more smoothly...
anyone else back at work?
I couldn't read and not give you a hug. I am not back, I have a year maternity leave. I can't even imagine trying to go back so soon, you are amazing that you are keeping it all together at all. Do you know anyone who could help you in some way, to give you a break? Maybe a neighbour who would be willing to do laundry, a friend who loves grocery shopping, a mom who likes to cook you meals etc? Something that would help lighten your daily load, without taking away family time.
thanks for the hugs deliac! I'm mostly doing ok, i guess, but it's overwhelming! I did ask a neighbor of mine to help with my dd, who seems to always need a friend to play with, and dh and i finally broke down and hired someone to clean the house, so those have helped, but i still feel like all i do is either work, or get ready for work... but i really do appreciate the hugs :) hopefully life will calm down soon!
So no advice, but I'll be in your boat soon!
having trouble getting a straight answer on this one, but when i'm pumping at work during a break do i have to pump for a prescribed amount of time or until a certain amount is expressed? i have a quick letdown and a strong flow, so i pump crazy amounts super fast (senior superlative for best pumper?) so i'm wondering if i can cheat a little and take shorter breaks.
Arby - when I was pumping for my DD I was the same way (super supply, fast flow, quick & hard letdown) and I did just that. I only pumped until I had enough or until I was empty and never kept going. It worked out fine for me. It really depends on the person. I think if you have an awesome supply like that you can get away with much more. By only a couple months out, I was only pumping 3x per day and then I switched to just pumping on my way to and from work and I still always had more than enough.
I'm going back next week - my supply is fine but doesn't seem as super pumped up as it was last time so we'll see how the pumping goes this time.
So, how do I convince my provider that he's fine. I really love the way she cares for the children in her home, much better than others we interviewed. Butim scared she will get impatient with the number of feedings he needs. What would you do?
people tend to respect doctors more than mothers, so i would use that to your advantage...something like:
yep, dr. xxx says hes perfectly normal and that BM isnt designed to keep babies full for extended periods of time. he says as long as i can pump it, odin should drink it.
you could also offer to purchase a few more bottles if that would make it easier so she didnt have to wash them as often...good luck mama. hopefully she will be patient!
My mom wouldn't go for the organics at all, but I'm using the doctor excuse to insist that Odin have nothing but BMilk until 6 months old. Mom keeps wanting to introduce rice cereal or something else, and is backed up by all her friends. I keep insisting that APA and my doctor say solids at 6mo, and start with veggies. Sigh.
I talked with Nora, the daycare lady, yesterday. I told her I was worried Odinw as taking too much of her time and she might not want to keep him in her care. She said "no no no no!" And explained she jst wanted to tell me everything and make sure it was okay. She has had BFed babies before, and I'm guessing they reverse cycled. Odin certainly isn't reverse cycling, despite spending a good amount of the night in bed.
What would you do? Nothing? Between his 2 mo and 4 mo Ped visits he went from 50th percentile to 75th in weight, but stayed at 50 for height...
Rosie - that IS a lot, but then, I know Grady wouldn't take the milk if he didn't want it. But then again, he has a paci so if he is wanting to suck but not get milk, he can have that. Does Odin take one? Grady will seriously clamp him mouth shut if you try to give him a bottle when he isn't truly hungry.
Grady seems to take anywhere from 8-12 oz while I am gone, 8-4:30ish.
I am pumping and nursing due to a latch problem with Savian. If I nurse exclusively, it is too hard on him and he gets too tired out to. The lactation consultant said to try to feed no more than 3.5-4 oz at each bottle feeding to mimic a breastfeeding session. If he is used to larger meals it may be harder to transition at first but that he would only be taking in that much at the breast so you need to do the same with the bottle. If you give larger meals he may go too long between meals.