Originally Posted by PacificMar
I wonder if much of the wishing for a sibling comes from our society's romanticization of the sibling bond.
Sometimes, when I think of the MANY people I know who have a tumultuous (or no) relationship with their siblings, I feel like this is fabricated (/cynicism). Truthfully, I see many more people on MDC say they had great sibling relationships than I know IRL.
I think the imagination is a wonderful thing - I'm sure they imagine they would have been best buds with their siblings. But in the thread about kids asking for siblings, I remember one mama gently pointing out to her child, "But we don't get to pick our siblings - what if x [insert annoying child here] was your sibling, and you had to share your parents with them?" That's a good litmus test for TRULY wanting a sibling, I think.
eta - I think alot of people get hung up on having to have kids closer together (in hopes they'll play together) but I think it really depends on personality. I know in my extended family, kids of big age differences play together all the time - in some cases, I think it actually helps with jealousy/competition to space them farther apart. Just food for thought - you aren't locked in, necessarily, by shelving it for a while.