My ds has recently been hurting one of his friends (a girl of the same age). I tried closely supervising, but I let my guard down just enough, and he hurt her that time too, so I just decided to avoid them playing together for the time being.
Background- they only see each other when her mom (a friend of mine) and I pick up/drop off our older kids for school. School is out tomorrow. I made this decision 2 days ago.
I've gotten a few comments from friends that have implied that I shouldn't just avoid the situation. Like they think I should keep taking him to play with her, and try to teach him not to hurt her.
But it just makes sense to avoid it, right? School is almost out, I do NOT want her dd to get hurt again, I don't want to put ds in a situation where he is going to hurt somebody, he has been sick and feeling cruddy and still is, and I don't want the stress of being judged and having ds be judged for it. (I've already been told that someone was worried about him, that it was a *majorly big deal* and needed to be dealt with now before the little girl was psychologically damaged by it, and "I'm not saying he can't play if you don't spank him, but something has to change".)
In my mind, we just avoid it for a couple days, we have summer to work on helping him express himself without hurting people (I have an older son, too), and when they get back together, they are both older and have more skills, and we deal with things from there. Right? Is my perspective way off, there?
Edited by DevaMajka - 6/27/12 at 12:03pm