I'm looking for some sound advice from experienced moms.
We have a little boy who's going to be 2 years old in 2 weeks and I've enjoyed our breastfeeding relationship immensely. He was breastfed on demand day and night until he was 20 months old and we had a family bed. When he was 20 months old we learned he had Early Childhood Cavities (7) and a tight upper frenum. The tight upper frenum was playing a big role in the decay, any type of food or liquid cannot wash away and the s.mutans bacteria feeds on it. Knowing his nursing habits ( all night buffet ) we opted to night wean until we could have laser revision done. So, for three months daddy and little guy have been sleeping together and it's been quite a beautiful thing to watch that bond strengthen. It's lovely seeing him reach for his father now when he's upset about something. And he finally started sleeping through the night!
We still nurse on demand during the day and issue has become nap time. I have no intention of weaning him, the thought alone makes me cringe. But, nap times are becoming a challenge. It's really the only time I get to myself to clean, bathe, post here ( haha) and it's not uncommon for him to wake 3 times during a 1.5-2 nap. It takes a good 20 minutes to nurse him down and a good 15-20 minutes to nurse him back asleep each time he wakes. Not counting how many times I take my nipple form his mouth and he slurp it back in. I feel guilty even typing it, but I've been frustrated with it for a while and am becoming resentful and even angry about it. It's like night and day how I feel nursing him throughout the day and nursing him during naps. During the day, we cuddle, I tell him I love him, tickle, talk, I sing. When he starts waking up in the middle of the naps I can't wait to get it done and get back to what chore I'm doing. Also, because of his decay, his molars are shorter and when he's laying down, it's very painful to nurse him, he's literally grinding on my nipple.
I feel guilty even considering nap-weaning him, but I feel like I'm at a crossroads between me being a good mom or a cranky irritable mom. Just looking for some insight. I love him so much and don't want to create trauma in our relationship.