Recently a possibilty came up for me to move to a nice house situation that is appealing. The one downside is that the land borders a train track- the house is about a 2 acre distance of a field away from the track- (maybe even 3 acre)- seperated by a field. But you have to drive over a bridge that goes over the track (the track is under the bridge- the bridge is not ground level- the train is some what lower down a bank from the drivway).
Sp you have to cross the bridge over the train and the train runs at the edge of the property.
Today dh and I went (with 2 yr old ds) to check it out- we mostly had him in the stroller but strangely had him walking when we were crossing the bridge- and he ran towards the side- which is a very open fenced side- and said train-! (there was no train coming at the time but he saw the tracks) and dh grabbed him- but I got so scared.
other than that the place is appealing to me in many ways which I don't want to discuss.
So I am wondering about the idea of danger/safety in choosing a home- in some ways it feels like a ridiculous situation to put myself in in terms of I am very protective of ds- and do I want him growing up with the train so close and all the danger it presents?
My dh actually grew up on a busy rd and he said his parents just taught him not to go in the road and it was fine. We would put up a very secure fence on the bridge, and probably a fence along the whole property bordering the train but stil it is a danger.
So the question is- is having a train a 2 acre distance from a house a deal braker because it is so dangerous with a young child (who I would watch all the time but even so) or is it simply something that a family can learn to adapt to- and worth it for a really otherwise great home?
I tend to be very cautious and protective and want to set up as safe a haven as possible to raise my family. But is this a reasonable danger or a stupid thing to consider? what do you think?