My daughter (my only child) will be three years old in a month. She's not used to being around other young kids (just her cousins, who are all teens), so I'm trying to get her out and about at play areas and the like.
Today we were at a play area and there was a tree to climb into and slide out of. She kept wanting to, and other kids would push in front of her, and she'd back off. That I think she just has to learn to be more assertive and I tried to help her. But when one kid, probably 8 or 9 would turn and block the tunnel and say, "No!", it scared her off.
I don't know why most parents don't give a damn that their child is being a brat or a bully to a younger child, but this kid's mom did have her hands full... five kids and very pregnant, and I don't think she saw him doing this, because when one of her other kids jumped out and startled my daughter, she made him apologize for scaring her, and did so in a way I think was constructive. And I made sure my daughter was considerate of the tiny daughter she had, who was much smaller and younger.
So what do you do when some older kid is being a bully to your not even 3 year old, and the parent on hand doesn't notice? Later she tried telling her older kids to take turns and let my daughter go, but they ignored her, and she let them.
Finally, I got fed up and took my daughter away from the play area. I know this won't be the last time something like this happens. I know I need to teach my daughter to stand up for herself, but how do I handle this next time? Is it acceptable to say something to the kid? Should I have said something to the mom, when she was already trying and just (I think) kind of worn out and overwhelmed?
I was a very shy kid, it was very painful. My daughter is not in the least shy and she wants to be friends with everyone, and I am so afraid that's going to get squashed.