My son is a year and a half and 19 almost 20 lbs. He has been slipping in percentiles for months now, he is currently in the negatives but he was born in the 50 to 55th percentile (not entirely sure since we had him at home) and spent a lot of time in the 25th percentile. My self and my husband both slip in and out of being underweight. I am a vegitarian but my son and husband are not. Before I nursed him on demand and fed him on demand. I never pushed him to finish his plate, he hates high fat foods (the higher the fat the less he'll eat), and he loves fruits and vegetables. He almost pulls the plate out of my hand when I offer him peas and corn.
After our last visit to the ped she sent us to a dietitian. She seems very VERY conserned. My husband had to go by himself since I was in school. Whatever the dietitian said to him seemed to have scared him enough to think that I need to stop breastfeeding him. The dietitian said that it was because of my breastfeeding that he was underweight, that I should deprive him of his night time feedings so that he wakes up starving so that he can expand his stomach. I refuse to give up the night time feedings and my husband hasn't made me but I now find myself having to sneak away with my son to give him a few scant nursings. I hate this and I don't think it is healthy. He has never had much of an appetite and the milk starvings don't seem to be working. Its been a little more than a week and he looks smaller to me. My instincts tell me to nurse him, that and the vegetables are the only things he has an appetite for. The "pros" however are starting to gang up. We are low income so I cannot take him to see anyone else. He has an appointment with a gastroenterologist and I'm afraid what he'll do to him. My friends are supportive and seem unconcerned with his weight, even my bf's husband who works for child protective services.
What do I do? I can't stop worrying about him. He's not gaining weight and I even find myself trying to force feed him. I don't want myself to become that mother. I want to nurse him. I can't imagine how this is healthy.
Help! I don't know what to do!