This article was hashed out on a friend's FB page recently.
I agree with what someone else said earlier in the thread, about what is considered spoiled. I remember a Times cover story not so long ago about "Only Child Myths". I'm an only child raising an only child, and I can't count how many times I have heard someone say (to either my mom when I was growing up, or to me about my daughter), "Why, she's so well-behaved for an only child!" I hate the assumption that only children are spoiled and selfish.
Which really has nothing to do with this article, except I think that "spoiled" has become such a hot button issue, but there is clearly no consensus on what it means exactly to be spoiled, only how it can be sensationalized in the media. And frankly, I'm tired of it. We're all terrible parents. We hover. We don't pay enough attention to our kids. We pay too much attention to them. We're overcommitted. We do too much, or not enough. Those are the messages constantly hurled at parents these days.
I used to read these kinds of things all the time. Mommy Wars, tiger parenting, spoiled American kids...you name it. But I got to a point where I just realized, I'm beating myself up over nothing. My 4 year old DD is happy, helpful, friendly, well-adjusted. Yes, we have our bad moments, but don't we all? That does not make me a bad parent. So I just keep on keeping on, doing what works best for us and ignoring the naysayers and criticism from strangers (which strangely, always seems to happen in a grocery store or Target!).
I read this article within days of it being published. And I will probably read the next sensationalized story. But now I take it with a grain of salt.