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post #21 of 94

For some reason I think this one will come in the middle of the night, too! Maybe because with my only natural birth that was the case. I think I'll have my Mom around to be with the kids... and we can just play it by ear. I would love for them to be there once the new baby emerges, though! That would be really cool.

post #22 of 94
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Originally Posted by etsdtm99 View Post

 

My midwife told me that, and then my 3rd baby was born at 1pm .. smack in the middle of the day lol

Ha!  of course!!  That will probably be the case with me, too, now that I've jinxed it.

That may be a good thing, though, since February is really cold here and I tend to be very cold while in labor up until the pushing.  So, middle of the night freezing labor doesn't sound too appealing. 

post #23 of 94
Thread Starter 

I still haven't decided on a midwife!!!  We're not gonna be working with the same one we did last pregnancy as midwifery is not her primary "job" anymore, she hasn't done any other births since mine (32 months ago), and she actually didn't make it to mine either, hubby caught the baby and she came about a half hr later...It was just the two of us and while it was super amazing I'm not ready to do it again lol.

I found this awesome midwife, we had a consultation and i was so hopeful cause i loved her over the phone, i was sure that she was THE ONE, and then she comes and tells me she's completely against water births, labor on the tub maybe (not even a pool), she says water births are just a mainstream fashion but it can hurt babies and more....  She said she being doing births for over 20 years and done only 10 births in water with moms that refused to come out (wth) and she felt like she was having a stroke.  So, yeah , having someone fighting me to come out of the water when babe is crowning is not something that i want to deal with, maybe I'll want to come out myself, who knows, but still I'm not up for fighting my midwife over it kwim??

So, we have three more consultations this week, and hopefully i can find someone that we both love!!

post #24 of 94

All of mine came right in the middle of the day. I guess I am the exception. Although my body does wait until the middle of the night to go into labor.

post #25 of 94

This is my first and I'm planning a home birth. I grew up around midwives but my husband has a very conventional family and really had no clue about it. I got him to sit down and watch the Business of Being Born and he was an instant convert. Phew! I was really worried he'd not be on board.

 

We're in a larger apartment right now and I think we can fit a birth pool in here. I have to take a few measurements. My Doula also has a birthing stool at my disposal but I've never seen one before and have no idea if that's going to appeal to me. Would love to hear what props other women thought we helpful at their previous births. 

 

I can't think about placentas without getting queazy right now. I'll come back to that question. ;) 

post #26 of 94

Thats a good idea, My DP is supportive of whatever crazy ideas i normally have lol, but watching the business of being born is a great idea!

 

I would adore a homebirth, the ob/gyn before I was released from hospital told me to book my c-section next time I get pregnant...i was just  20 yrs old at the time!

 

I really dont know whats going to happen this time for me, I dont even care if its at a friends house, anywhere but the hospital.

Everything you see in the business of being born happened to me....even my c-section occured at 8:45am.....he came in just after 7am and said we need to do an emergency c-section.....you mean...your shift is over, and you want to go home

 

2 cervical gel treatments, a foley catheter, 9 hours of oxytocin, I was 4-5cm before my c-section after 36 hours from start to finish, the odds are not in my favour for a natural birth...but I only had pain relief for the last 3 hours of that....Mentally, I can do it....physically is the issue

 

Basically, my pelvis did not expand, my LO could not fit through my pelvis and therefore could not push on my cervix to dilate it, i was just 2 weeks past my due date on the exact day he was born   

post #27 of 94

Planning 3rd homebirth. I have had one in bed and one in the water. Will probably get another tub because I always transition in the water.  We are cohousing with my husbands parents, so the "wheres" and "hows" are up in the air. I think I will just see how I'm feeling toward the end of the pregnancy. In the past I've given my placenta to medical research, not sure what we want to do this time.

 

I am concerned because I heard a rumor that my beloved midwife is no longer doing homebirths. Must call her asap and find out if I'm looking for someone new!

 

Mostly I am trying to focus on this moment of this pregnancy. I've spent a lot of energy on previous births, to the point where I felt I didn't enjoy the pregnancy enough, or prepare myself for the new person coming to us enough. It was birthing obsession for me. So this time I'm trying to chill a little and know that there is plenty of time to get everything together for the birth.

post #28 of 94

Hello ladies!  I am hoping for a homebirth this time around.  I am about 5w5d along, due at the end of february.  I will find out if the nearby birth center will be able to do a homebirth with us next week.  I hope so!

post #29 of 94

Joining you all.

 

All four of mine have been easy home births. I expect this one to be at home as well, wondering about maybe doing a UC.

post #30 of 94

We are planning our second home birth with the same midwife.

 

I'm not sure what to do with the placenta this time around. I still have the placenta from our youngest in the freezer. I had hoped to plant a nice tree with it but that didn't work out very well. Eventually we will get our own place again and I imagine I will still have it. LOL. I'm not sure if I want to freeze this one also or if I should encapsulate it. If the encapsulating thing really does what so many claim, I think I could use all the help I could get because I go so back and forth between being extremely excited for the baby and feeling guilt for being happy. So I just don't know what I'll do with it.

post #31 of 94

We're planning a homebirth also- our first homebirth, but 6th birth.  The other 5 have been in 5 different hospitals with 5 different doctors on 3 continents. :)  I'm looking forward to just being at home this go-round.  I've settled on a midwife group, I think, but haven't actually contacted them.  It is possible that I won't "click" with them, but I kind of doubt it.  I've had friends use this group, so I'm fairly certain I'll end up using them.  Anyway, I'm excited to just be able to rest and do things however I want to do them rather than kowtowing to a doc or nurse at every turn.

 

Oh, and as for the placenta, I'm hoping to have some tree saplings to plant; perhaps I'll bury it near the base of one of the trees. 

post #32 of 94

We're planning our 3rd homebirth, but this would be our second actually. I'm hoping to encapsulate the placena if we have the finances and praying for a healthy birth. I'd love to have a water birth.

post #33 of 94

Having mine at home too. Met my midwife and her assistant yesterday, she trained my last midwife and is very similar, but a bit less timid (still laid back though). I'll probably bury the placenta again. DS1 volunteered today to cut the cord so if he's awake he can help do that. No waterbirth for me, not interested, but I make use of my bath and shower in labor. No way I'd give birth on the bed though, pushing is way more active a thing for me and I need a firm floor under me. I was kneeling on my rug when I had DS2, that worked fine. I'm thinking of practicing hypnobabies this time to try and ease some of the intensity of the move into active labor and the move into pushing, maybe it'll help me avoid pushing against an anterior lip like with the other 2. I still have my exercise ball I sat on all through my last labor, I didn't want to budge from that, being almost anywhere else hurt. I will have to make sure to lean forward sometimes though even if I don't like it, to make sure things open up evenly. I need to figure out who will come watch my kids during this one, they'll want attention and to be fed and such while DH and I are busy. The friend who came when DS2 was born has a full time job now and she couldn't be on call to help most likely, though I'll ask her, maybe with this much notice she could work something out.

post #34 of 94
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Originally Posted by odinsmama View Post

I am okay with kids at the birth, so I let mine choose. When we were waiting for ds2 to arrive, and ds1 wanted to be there for the birth, I showed him a bunch of birth videos on YouTube, sometimes with the volume off if the mama was swearing a lot, and explained to him that it hurts and there will be some blood but mama will be okay.
I have a friend who apprenticed with a midwife and she said almost all babies who have older siblings wait to be born until the middle of the night. Not always the cae, of course.
I'll have my mom there to wrangle the kids and I know she'll do a load of laundry for me and make sure we're all fed. DH is such great support, I haven't ever felt the need for a doula. We read the Bradley books together and he fit into his role perfectly. Midwife and her assistant were practically invisible to me, in my own little world. And that's it. I'll have a backup helper in case my mom is sick, someone who will take charge of other peoples' needs, mainly the kids.

With all three of my homebirths, I didn't go into labor until my kids were sound asleep!  It's like my body just "knows" not to have the baby until they're all tucked away safe and sound.  With each birth, my mom has gone to wake them up at the last minute so they could see the birth of their sibling.  Not sure I would do so well with them all standing around watching everything else.  I'm not really one of those quiet peaceful birthers.  lol

post #35 of 94

This will be our fourth home birth/water birth with the same midwives.  Our midwives are the BEST, seriously LOVE them to death!  I cannot imagine giving birth without them now!  

post #36 of 94

Im excited to join this group as my plans are to HBAC! I am a ways from a hospital and really do NOT want to end up there. I went through much truma with my last birth ending it a totally uneeded c-section. I am not allowing this to happen again and plan to water birth right in my living room. I am beyond excited! I just know all will go great!

post #37 of 94
I'm a student midwife planning a homebirth (apartment-birth) with my first, in early February. And incredibly, incredibly excited to have a midwife that I know really well as 'my' midwife.
post #38 of 94

I'm due on February 9th. I'm doing a homebirth with my midwife. Not totally sure about the placenta, I think I might have it turned into capsules.

post #39 of 94

Well here's a possible challenge, DH may be getting a job in another area, if he does we'll try and sell the house and follow him there, but so far I can't find any midwives there. I could UC if I had to but DH and I aren't too sure we want that, I'm sure we could handle it be we'd prefer the assurance of someone with more experience around. There are lots of various Anabaptists around there (SW PA) maybe there is a DEM around without any web presence. I just sent off an email to the secretary of a Mennonite church there, albeit a rather contemporary one, in hopes someone from there could point me in the right direction.

post #40 of 94
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Originally Posted by JamieCatheryn View Post

Well here's a possible challenge, DH may be getting a job in another area, if he does we'll try and sell the house and follow him there, but so far I can't find any midwives there. I could UC if I had to but DH and I aren't too sure we want that, I'm sure we could handle it be we'd prefer the assurance of someone with more experience around. There are lots of various Anabaptists around there (SW PA) maybe there is a DEM around without any web presence. I just sent off an email to the secretary of a Mennonite church there, albeit a rather contemporary one, in hopes someone from there could point me in the right direction.

Have you checked the "Finding Your Tribe" section to see if anyone in that area knows of any midwives??

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