To make a long story short - married 12 years, together 20+ from college. 2 children in elementary school ages - my heart & soul. Put my career on hold to raise them working weekends & finished graduate school. STBXH has an alcohol & gambling problem. Tried to get him to counseling, meds for depression etc... his family even had to pay mortgageafter he lost it gambling.So I filed after he diverted the bank acct & stopped paying the mortgage again.
My pendente lite hearing came & went - his lawyer claming he has no money even though he is pocketing all the mortgage money -3 month so far, living here free, eating the food I buy for me & kids. Judge continued for 60 days. My legal fees are approaching $8000.00 already. We tried to come up with an agreement, but, he wants joint custody of kids, to keep his hidden money & to short sell the house. I work near home & his job is more than 1 hour away. He makes twice what I make.
How could any of this be fair????? By the time we go back to court in 2 months the house will be $25,000.00 in arears! The loan has already been modified:(
We can't agree on anything and I can't keep living like this - I am having trouble concentrating at work, not sleeping at night & I do not see any light at the end of the tunnel - any advice - please help:(
Edited by KJack - 7/1/12 at 1:00pm