Susan, I hear your frustration! Losing chickens would be very hard for any child--I can only imagine!!!
Living together with three families hasn't always been easy either!! We have difficult moments sometimes, but my mom and I joke that just ironing out these difficulties is like earning a new degree. It isn't easy, but in the end you learn so much about yourself and about people in general and that kind of wisdom is something that you simply need to earn anyway. Being candid, I have found, is always better than hiding away and not knowing...talk to your neighbor and let her know. I have a feeling she probably feels the same way! A pot of coffee when no husbands are around is one of those things that works magic in its own way.
I think that women are the ones who create community--in general. If we give them single tasks, men will support it as they can...but it is up to women to weave together those threads. That means learning how to balance many things at one time is our life's work. In a nutshell, that's what we're all doing on this Mothering website. It is a community dedicated to the weaving of motherhood. It has gone on for years before us and will go on as long as we inhabit the planet. That impulse to hold our children forever, to walk with our husbands, to honor our parents, and to plant our feet firmly on the earth is a part of everything we do--and it's something that lives in women all over the world.
Part of the beauty of the modern world is our community. We can connect with one another from all over the world--our stories and our shared experiences can be brought together instantly from different sides of the world, from different communities, and through that connection that we all have as mothers. Wherever you lay your head at night, you will at least have your community close by. In the city, that community is very near. Maybe if you move to the country, you'll connect more through the internet. Whatever way you choose, I'm sure you'll be able to create your home wherever you land...after all, that's our job!!
Thanks for sharing!!