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post #21 of 82
Wow, I can't imagine not noticing the BH ctx lol! My uterus loves to really pre condition itself, so I get tons starting from really early on. Lately it feels like the baby is just going to fly right out at any moment because they are so strong! They stop me in my tracks, not from pain but because my entire abdomen is immobile!
post #22 of 82

I get tons of BH too.  It's actually a warning sign for me when I'm having too many that it's time for more fluids and rest.  

 

I have to wrap my head around the fact that we're going to have to buy carseats for three kids when we get home.  I haven't used carseats in 4 1/2 years.  Livin' on the edge here in China ;).  

post #23 of 82

Ninetales and Penny, I hadn't felt any BH either, I mentioned it to my MW and she told me I'd been having them and that she just saw them when she was examining me.  Once she pointed them out, then I could pinpoint some other times I'd had them, and it was usually when I was pushing myself: for example, a long walk, building the raised bed garden, helping my mom unpack. But still, they are barely noticeable. 

 

I just discovered that I have a bunch of points on an old CC that I keep mainly just as a backup, and it will cover the cost of our car seat and our Boba 3G SSC.  What a pleasant surprise!

post #24 of 82

I'm full term in 3 weeks according to my midwife and doctor.  Cue freaking out.  I am still terrified of labor.  Unreasonably panic filled  freaking out.  Considering this is my third this is really stupid.

post #25 of 82
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I'm full term in 3 weeks according to my midwife and doctor.  Cue freaking out.  I am still terrified of labor.  Unreasonably panic filled  freaking out.  Considering this is my third this is really stupid.

Yeah. me too. I'm on #2, and labor last time was brutal. So i'm a bit freaked, but my doula is like human xanax. Seriously 20 minutes in her prescense and i'm as relaxed as i am after a full body swedish massage. 

post #26 of 82
Thread Starter 

Just dropping in.. I found a college student who is going to come 3 times a week in the afternoons to help with the twins and DS1.. joy.gifand on top of that, I made a ton of progress on all my projects the last 2 days.. feeling a big sense of relief!
 

post #27 of 82

Hi ladies! I've been reading along but didn't have a lot of time to write. It's amazing to think that some of us will be giving birth in the next few weeks for sure!  

 

Those in the US: any plans for the 4th? We are usually out of the country by now, so it will be interesting to go to the neighborhood parade and hope for the best with the random fireworks and gunfire that this part of the country is known for...praying.gif A few years ago I heard a bullet fall to our roof from people who shoot their guns in the air to celebrate New Year.

 

Tchotchkes, I hope your son's clinginess calms down a bit.

 

Sol, sounds like things are going really well! So glad to hear that.

 

 Tizzy, what do you do about posterior? I am almost certain he is head down, but also pretty sure he is posterior, given where I hear his hb on the fetoscope.

 

Veritas, The celebration dinner sounds like it will be great. Sorry about the mom issues. I've had some difficulties with my mom over the years, but just recently, since around my shower, she's been much better and I'm hoping it lasts.

 

Boots, sorry about the dd issues. I would just ask the dr. frankly about what happens if you go over, given the discrepancies. I have always heard that the earliest u/s are the most accurate for dating. Did your doc change your date based on a later scan? Mine has stayed the same since my 8w sonogram, despite the baby measuring bigger on the 15 and 19w scans at the perinatologist.

 

Midstream, I think that being mentally prepared is very important. I have no way of knowing if I'm mentally prepared...I think I feel in control of things and calm, which is important to me (see the bombshell below...I was pleased at how calm and controlled I was when it happened).

 

Lily, glad the trip went well. Wow, that's amazing to have possibly only 3 weeks left. I really don't want my baby to come early. I know I will rue those words if he's late, but I need time to get work done. 

 

Sally, wonderful to hear that you are so prepared! Sounds so hard to have a 3 year old.

 

Chianti, so glad to hear that you are settled in Oregon. How was the appt?

 

Poppy, I wish I had your energy! I feel more tired every week that passes, but I'm still managaing to get work done and need to keep it up through the birth.

 

Newmum, so exciting to hear about the changes you are experiencing as you get closer!

 

LeAnn, I hope the packing and move go quickly and painlessly.

 

Liz, sorry about the illness and hair. Have you been using the same shampoo/conditioner for a while? Sometimes you just need to switch. I like Lush's shampoo bars, which I alternate with a Nature's gate shampoo. Last year my hair was terrible (aftereffects of stress) and dull, but finally it's its shiny self again (though the water and humidity here make it frizzy when elsewhere it is stick straight). 

 

 

Ninetales, Penny, and Veritas, put me into the group uncertain about BH. I really have no idea. I notice occasionally that my uterus is hard, but there is no distinct feeling to it starting or stopping. It usually happens at the end of the day. There was one occasion that I thought I was having bh, but that's been it. I've read descriptions online and none of it resonates with my experience. I just got my RRL tea in the mail and I've read that people definitely feel bh after taking it, so I may brew a cup and see what happens.

 

Ithappened, that is great news about the help. I think you will be so glad to have set that up.

 

AFM, just had a bombshell dropped on my today (34w) by my ob...she's not going to deliver any more of her patients and is stopping the ob practice.  I.e. not continuing even with her currently pregnant patients. I had a weird feeling for the past month or so that something was going on, since she said she was switching hospitals and I would deliver at a new one (not the one where I took my birth classes or is her stated affiliation), but I went along with it. I had kind of wanted to switch early on at 11 weeks when she didn't recommend the NT scan because of my ama, but I stood by her because she had been there to help me regulate my hormones and get pregnant and was supportive of my natural birth preferences. Hindsight...I should have switched then. Anyway, she has set me up with an ob that delivers at the hospital where we had our classes and hospital tour (where I know a lot of people who have given birth and had good experiences) and where she had been affiliated for 7 years. I will be seeing the new doc next week and I really hope that I have a good feeling about her. The secretary at my (now former) ob office likes this ob, and I trust her opinion (I could have also gone with another doc at the other hospital). Please cross your fingers for me! They said that if I was unhappy they would continue to help me find a good fit, but I think time is of the essence.

 

In better news, we got our packages from my family/friend home shower and now have more baby clothes and gift cards to help us make our final preparations and purchases.

post #28 of 82

ithappened - YAYYYY!!!!  biggrinbounce.gif

 

honey and tchotchkes - I would imagine that I'd have reservations too about going back into labor once I've been through it before - esp. if it was difficult last time.... I totally credit my zen-ness to first-time ignorance, really... and also to not having room in my brain for worry after all the anxiety I have regarding postpartum life.... tchotchkes, you're MW sounds perfect - lucky you!!!

 

lizbiz - I hope your DS (and family) feels better soon!  Not fun, not good timing.... you sound like such a good sport through it all though!

post #29 of 82

Quick update from doc appointment today (that I thought was next week.... whoops!).  HR 135 and measuring 36 cm.  Baby's head is so far down my doc can't even move it, which explains the delightful "cervix lightning" I've been having as I try to walk.  GBS test done, so hopefully I'll find out about that at the end of the week or beginning of next week.

 

Hope everyone has a great 4th!

post #30 of 82
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Originally Posted by ithappened View Post

Just dropping in.. I found a college student who is going to come 3 times a week in the afternoons to help with the twins and DS1.. joy.gifand on top of that, I made a ton of progress on all my projects the last 2 days.. feeling a big sense of relief!
 


OMG! Yayy!! That has to be such a relief for you. I'm so glad that you'll have some help. :)

 

Ninetales - Thanks for your advice! One other question. How do you think the My Ride w Surround will fit a newborn? We aren't using a bucket seat, so the fit initially is one of my main concerns. I don't want her little chin resting on her chest/to have to buy an infant seat last minute because we fail the carseat test. :/ That's whay I have been leaning toward the Combi, I read that even premature babes fit well. Otherwise the longevity of the My Ride is appealing if I know that the seat will be safe for the LO early on as well.

post #31 of 82

Ithappened, add me to the list of people who are so happy to hear you are going to have some help and support! It must be good to feel like you're getting somewhere on your projects, too. I can't believe those twinsies are 7 lbs!

 

andaluza, I am so sorry to hear about your OB's sudden departure. I will be thinking positive thoughts for you. I know how stressful it is to not have a care provider and it must be worse this late. BUT from my own experience I would not compromise until you find someone you are really comfortable with and you will be good.

 

Ah, Lily, is it weird I'm excited for you that your baby is so far down? :) Ready to come meet everyone! Sorry it's not so comfortable though.


Thanks everyone about your input about my due date uncertainty. I had a doc appointment today and I had to give her my maternity leave paperwork and discuss that, plus was just so generally freaked out they told me I'd be on weekly appointments from now on, and then they were going to do the GBS swab but decided to wait another week, plus I hadn't had much sleep, so once again I didn't discuss it with her. Plus the early due date they have is the first day I REALLY don't want to be back at work (starting new school year with kids) so I definitely wanted them to put that on the paperwork. BUT I still think that my real due date is the same as Andaluza's, not Lily's! So next week I am going to bring it up, talk about my concerns about induction, c-sections, etc. You heard it here!

Also, I didn't make i through my 12 hour fast. I got so achy and couldn't sleep I had to have protein. So I have to try that again soon for that bloodwork.

UGH the stupid exam table paper always sticks to my butt SO badly. I am not THAT sweaty, but leave me sitting on a vinyl table for a few minutes in July...I swear I actually had it falling off my legs out of my pants (thought I got it all off, oops). Embarrassing, I hope there wasn't too much in the lobby! Like a trail of breadcrumbs.

 

OH and I've got an U/S order to do within the next week or so to check position, fluid levels, etc. Anyone else having a late u/s?

 

I definitely feel my BHs getting stronger and stronger, and it's really noticeable. My nurse talked to me today about dealing with them as they start to get a little more uncomfortable.

post #32 of 82

I feel like I'm posting in fits and starts here.  I had a partial mental breakdown last night and DH talked me through it (really was not expecting him to be that helpful, actually).  I had done a hard workout and then was doing baby laundry all night and was just exhausted and frustrated that my writing wasn't going well.  We basically worked out a clear writing plan that makes room for workouts (one of the things I've been struggling to schedule in with this heat, my sleeping schedule, and my writing/work schedule) and on days that I do afternoon workouts I can next afterward.  It sounds kind of trite writing it out now, but for whatever reason I was mentally exhausted trying to balance all this stuff.

 

At any rate, I am now as caught up as I can be on baby stuff.  I bought a load of used cloth dipes off of a friend of a friend and just got them in the mail today ($75 bucks for like 10 covers, 10 prefolds, 2 snappies, a bunch of fitteds, and three trainers), so I made up some cloth diaper detergent from a friend's recipe and got them all washed up.  That's the last of the baby laundry until this next (and last shower) and then I'm just waiting around until the crib arrives from Ikea and the bassinet and other stuff from my SIL.  I spent today going over the last chapter of the book and working out a strategy for what needs to get done, when, and how, and also worked out a strategy for contacting the editor who has been ignoring me for four months.  I also met with my doctor, went over my birth plan and hospital bag checklist, and learned that I should start chafing my nipples (nice, right?) in anticipation of the big day.  I'm feeling much more in control now than I was 24 hours ago.

 

All in all, a good day with a lot of mental cleansing.  I totally agree with everyone who has mentioned how much more fragile emotionally we are in the third trimester.  I was overwhelmed at the grocery store today and came close to crying.  Totally weird.  I'll just have to follow DH's advice and start making really manageable little lists for the next three weeks to get everything done that needs to get done.  We also strategized some ways to get writing in once the baby arrives, but I think we'll just have to play that one mostly by ear since there are so many crazy variables involved.  Otherwise, good day! 

 

ithappened, I am sooooooooooooooo happy you found someone to help out!  I've been worried about you (not as worried as you are, of course), and it will be awesome to have a little relief. 

 

Boots, dying laughing over here from the paper/butt thing.  I was horribly embarrassed today that we did the GBS test and I didn't even think about what underwear I was wearing, and of course they were the gross cotton period undies that are super comfortable but not even fit for DHs eyes and my doctor got to get a load of them while doing the swab.  I'm sure she's seen worse, but can't pregnancy leave us with a little shred of dignity?  Please?  Good luck working through the due date chaos and fasting.  I hope you get a break soon.  Ugh.  (And I don't think it's weird at all to be excited that the baby is squashing my cervix!  My doc tried to quash my hopes of an early bun, but I dunno.... it's pretty much fully engaged at this point.  Ack!)

post #33 of 82

Jumping in here for a moment real quick - Boots I had a late ultrasound, but it was due to for a specific reason of measuring behind.  Even though I am ahead of you mine is not measuring where yours is LilyTiger.  <<Glad you are feeling more in control btw, that is wonderful!>> I guess I just carry that way because I am gaining the recommended weight and fluid levels and the babe was perfect.  The baby still hasn't dropped so that could be some of it too.  Ithappened - glad to hear about the help!  Andaluza, I can't even imagine that being dropped on me, I am very sorry to hear about that.  I hope all goes well with your new doctor.  Seems like so many people are having doctor problems in this DDC...so stressful!  And totally agree on the lush products, they smell so great.  

Random: I have been stockpiling food lately for my nightstand.  Nuts, dried fruit, granola, health bars, stuff like that.  


Edited by Sol_y_Paz - 7/3/12 at 7:41pm
post #34 of 82

I'll double check, LeAnn, but I'm pretty sure the Safety Surround Myrides are the same shell as the old Myrides, just souped up.  If that's the case, they would fit an average size newborn nicely.  For a preemie or an unusually small baby it could be iffy, but almost no convertible suits those babies.  If it's the airway you're concerned about, Myrides are very reclined, and you just have to make sure they are reclined enough for the baby.  You want 45 degrees - there is a little ball indicator on the side that can help you out there.  Are you expecting a preemie?  As far as I know, most hospitals only do carseat tests on babies coming out of the NICU, not non-complicated ones.

 

Holy cow, guys, my nesting is getting crazy.  I don't remember being like this with Elsa at all.  I remember being lazy and laying around all the time at the end.  The past few days I've been scrubbing everything I can reach with vinegar and a toothbrush.  I didn't know my shower or kitchen sink could actually be as clean as they are, and suddenly everything in this house just looks disgusting to me.  I feel like I need to be doing something constantly.

post #35 of 82

Ah ha! Finally figured out the multi-quote function :)

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Tizzy, what do you do about posterior? I am almost certain he is head down, but also pretty sure he is posterior, given where I hear his hb on the fetoscope.

 

I did get mine turned around, mostly by positioning myself on my elbows and knees to read e-mail. I find that by tilting down to shift them up, then gravity pulls their spine around. Although then it was directly anterior which was super uncomfortable LOL  can't win!  Well now I have, a nice LOA position which works for both of us.  Back labour/posterior baby is not something I would look forward to :-/

 

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Originally Posted by bootsvalentine View PostOH and I've got an U/S order to do within the next week or so to check position, fluid levels, etc. Anyone else having a late u/s?

Oh! Thanks for the reminder, I'm supposed to book one for next week or so haha   My midwife is "concerned" about a marginal/low lying placenta at my 18wk ultrasound. I told her I'd get another around 36 weeks, she countered that I should get one sooner because if I need to have an OB consult, they don't like to see patients for the first time at 36 weeks. I told her that's their problem, not mine :p 

 

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Originally Posted by ithappened View PostJust dropping in.. I found a college student who is going to come 3 times a week in the afternoons to help with the twins and DS1.. joy.gifand on top of that, I made a ton of progress on all my projects the last 2 days.. feeling a big sense of relief!

 

 

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Holy cow, guys, my nesting is getting crazy.  I don't remember being like this with Elsa at all.  I remember being lazy and laying around all the time at the end.  The past few days I've been scrubbing everything I can reach with vinegar and a toothbrush.  I didn't know my shower or kitchen sink could actually be as clean as they are, and suddenly everything in this house just looks disgusting to me.  I feel like I need to be doing something constantly.

 

I'm slowly getting there! DH caught me washing windows a couple days ago....we like to joke that DH likes me to have a baby every 2 years so the windows get washed at least every 2yrs. It's the only time I ever want to do them! Another week or so and I'll be scrubbing out the toilet tank, not the toilet, but the tank. All that lime scale build up drives me batty when I'm nesting LOL   I'll also get a butter knife out with the vacuum and pick out all the cracks in the kitchen floor.   The hands and knees part is good for positioning baby haha

post #36 of 82
Ithappened - AWESOME news finding some extra help! Gah! FINALLY!!! So happy for you. Lily Tiger - Why do you have to chafe your nipples beforehand? Whatever that entails, it doesn't sound fun. Recently, I've been really sensitive there and it's like nails on chalkboard when my 2 1/2 year old touches my breasts :) (which she LOVES to do - she's been weaned since 16 months, but still loves the 'nursies'). Anyway, I can't imagine chafing them on purpose just now. Hey Boots - I'm having a late ultrasound or two I think. I've only had one so far at 11 weeks, but I'm having one at 34 1/2 weeks and then I bet, once I hit the ground in the US, they'll want to do another. I don't really mind, since we're probably just having an unassisted homebirth - I like to get that late-term confirmation on position and placenta, heads up about cord around the neck, etc. so we can be prepared. I did find a great, insurance-covered back-up hospital and I've got an appointment with an OB a week after we get back. It's a relief to know that if we need a hospital - we're now connected with one, and I can go there for any necessary follow up care, etc. Thanks to many of you for the tips on how to find a hospital - I found it through the tribal areas on this forum.
post #37 of 82

Yay, Ithappened, I'm so glad you found some help!

 

Boots, I'm cracking up over the image of the paper breadcrumb trail.  I hate those paper covers, I feel like they always stick too...and sometimes make butt prints on the paper, I don't want to see my own butt print, or have everyone else see it. bag.gif

 

Lily,  so great that your husband is helping you to deal with those little stresses.  I'm much like you in that as long as I feel I have some sort of plan, I'm more able to deal with things.  But chaffing your nipples!  I know I've heard from some people that it helps to prepare them for breastfeeding, but then I've heard from other people that it doesn't make a difference.  I just can't imagine doing that to them right now.  I can't stand if B tries to touch them right now, it is like LizBiz said, nails on a chalkboard at this point.

 

Tizzy, I wish I had some of your nesting instincts.  Mine comes in spurts, but lately I've just been tired and not wanting to do anything.

 

Sol, I'm glad the baby is looking great!

 

Liz, glad you got things sorted out with backup hospitals/doctors for when you get back to the US.

 

AFM, once we got my mom a little more settled into her apartment and she was able to rest up a bit she is doing much better.  She LOVES her new place, says it is the nicest place she has lived in almost two decades and that all of her stuff fits like the apartment was made for her.  As a result of her good mood, she is excited and proactively accomplishing things for herself.  So I think the whole idea of her having less stress financially and physically making her happier is going to work itself out.

 

My sister also sent up some NB/small clothes and a TON of NB/small diapers that her daughter already outgrew, so we're definitely set for diapers for a while I think.  I'll have to update my registry to reflect that.  I can't believe how many she had, I don't think she could have used them all, but both she and my BIL assured me I would likely go through them all.  It makes me think my planned stash might be a little minimalist, so I'm off to take inventory of what I have/am getting and try to determine if I need to reconsider adding more.  At the same time, maybe I should just move forward with the minimalist stash so I can try out some different things and see what I like. Off to fold some cute little baby clothes.

post #38 of 82

Ninetales - Thank you for your help! We're not expecting a preemie, I'd just read that about the Combi. The My Ride Surround has extra infant padding, passed Euro side-impact testing and has a sliding head support. So its supposed to fit an infant well. I think we'll be good either way...noe wto choose. :P

 

Lilytiger - Just wanted to chime in here. You don't need to chaf your nipples. That's one of those old school ideas that is no longer considered helpful. It can actually cause contractions late in pregnancy (nipple stimulation) and other difficulty later. All you have to do is try to avoid using soap on your nipples, basically just take really good care of them and avoid anything that dries out or irritates the skin too much. Pretty much the opposite of pre-chaffing. :) No rough towel necessary!

post #39 of 82

Hmmm.  I'll have to ask my doc about it again then.  She's pretty up to date on current research.  She wasn't talking anything dramatic, just a little towel rub after a shower.  But I should do a little more research if opinions are mixed.  Thanks for the heads up!

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Lilytiger - Just wanted to chime in here. You don't need to chaf your nipples. That's one of those old school ideas that is no longer considered helpful. It can actually cause contractions late in pregnancy (nipple stimulation) and other difficulty later. All you have to do is try to avoid using soap on your nipples, basically just take really good care of them and avoid anything that dries out or irritates the skin too much. Pretty much the opposite of pre-chaffing. :) No rough towel necessary!

post #40 of 82

Lily, mine were getting sore and sensitive awhile ago because I started using my coconut oil scrub on them lightly in the shower but then putting my belly oil on them after the shower.  I just figured why not, maybe they could use the moisture like my belly.   I wasn't chafing at all but was slathering on the 2 products (minimal ingredients, mostly oil, all organic).  I didn't make the connection until after reading all my BF books that say don't use anything on them.  Leaving them alone is the best thing for them, even avoiding too much soap was something all the books agreed on.  After I stopped my showering routine with them, the sore/sensitive feeling went away and hasn't returned.  

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