Also - in terms of your lady parts ... I found with my first that it was more psychological than truly tight or whatever down there afterwards. I think I sub consciously clenched up for months afterwards. Not so much this time around... The challenge this time is that I have been pissed off at DH for about - hmmm, how old is Kai? Yeah, about 9 weeks.
That plus the exhaustion make it hard to choose to dtd. I am still getting an IUD though, just in case he stops being annoying
I've been considering the merits of throwing caution to the wind and letting baby #2 come whenever god deems it so. Part of me is terrified of having *two* small babies at once if I get pregnant too soon, but the other part of me thinks that having 3-5 really intense years is better than spending the better part of a decade pregnant / in newborn mode. I know it would be an incredibly hard couple of years, but I also know we have the support network and finances to handle it.
Thankfully there aren't any signs of AF yet, so I'm not super worried. My husband and I are having a little trouble getting back to normal in that regard. I was worried my ladybits were going to be too "stretched out" after childbirth... but we're actually having the opposite problem.