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post #81 of 123
KM- I know that my close friends who had the support network etc did just that - never bothered with protection and ended up with two beautiful daughters 23 months apart - who are now 4+ and 2+ and my friends are exiting the fog and really seem great as a couple. I'm a bit jealous. We don't have good support networks though and personally I was not ready to be pregnant until DS1 was about 2.8 so it is better this way (3.5 years apart) but I TOTALLY see the benefit of two littles close in age - kind of tearing off the band aid quickly lol.

Also - in terms of your lady parts ... I found with my first that it was more psychological than truly tight or whatever down there afterwards. I think I sub consciously clenched up for months afterwards. Not so much this time around... The challenge this time is that I have been pissed off at DH for about - hmmm, how old is Kai? Yeah, about 9 weeks. eyesroll.gif
That plus the exhaustion make it hard to choose to dtd. I am still getting an IUD though, just in case he stops being annoying smile.gif
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I've been considering the merits of throwing caution to the wind and letting baby #2 come whenever god deems it so. Part of me is terrified of having *two* small babies at once if I get pregnant too soon, but the other part of me thinks that having 3-5 really intense years is better than spending the better part of a decade pregnant / in newborn mode. I know it would be an incredibly hard couple of years, but I also know we have the support network and finances to handle it.

Thankfully there aren't any signs of AF yet, so I'm not super worried. My husband and I are having a little trouble getting back to normal in that regard. I was worried my ladybits were going to be too "stretched out" after childbirth... but we're actually having the opposite problem. blush.gif
post #82 of 123
Grace, why do you think Everett has Muscular Dystrophy? Maybe I missed something in this thread? greensad.gif
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Although it suddenly occurred to me that if Everett DOES have Muscular Dystrophy... and we don't know, we haven't started the testing yet- hopefully as soon as i can get to a walk in clinic with Everett we can get that ball rolling- but maybe if he does, then 3 kids will be plenty since Everett will need more assistance as a teenager and adult and maybe fewer kids = more money to help him out. Not sure. We'll see.
post #83 of 123
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Grace, why do you think Everett has Muscular Dystrophy? Maybe I missed something in this thread? greensad.gif

 

I'm a confirmed carrier. My dad has it. Our options at this point had included not having kids, doing invitro and genetic diagnosis (to a price tag of $60K!) or having babies and keeping our fingers crossed. So far we've gone with option 3, but Quebec recently announced funding for people with X-linked genetic diseases (like Muscular Dystrophy) and it will pay the $60K for people who want children. We might see if we can do that next time, or look into other possible options to increase our chances of having a girl (since only boys can have this particular form).

post #84 of 123

So, I might be getting a full time job.  It's all happening so fast.  Yesterday a friend casually mentioned that the Montessori school she works at is hiring.  On a whim, I sent my resume.  Even though I wasn't really looking for anything full-time.  Well, I got a call back yesterday afternoon and had an interview today.  I go back for another interview tomorrow.  I'm kind of freaking out about the idea of leaving Layla with someone while I work.  They do have an infant program, but it's full at the moment.  I don't know what to do.  I kind of thought I'd go today and hate the school or something, but I don't.  It's awesome.  But every time I think about leaving Layla for 8+ hrs a day I cry.  :(  I never had to leave DD1.  I stayed home with her until she was 3, then I worked at the preschool she went to.  How do you working mommies do it?! 

post #85 of 123

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 How do you working mommies do it?! 

I really don't know how I'm going to do it come the end of August.  Right now I'm working part time and bringing DS with me.  When I'm actually teaching classes (2.5 hours max at a time) and not working the office a trusted studio parent or my MIL comes to watch him.  In the fall I will be dropping DS off at the in laws house Tues-Fri  in the early afternoon and then DH will pick him up by 6:00pm.  I'll get home around 9:30pm most nights.  On Saturdays DH will be home with DS from morning until late afternoon.

 

My MIL overwhelms me and I am still uncomfortable with the thought of leaving DS with her.  It's not like she would ever do anything to harm DS.  She'll just do things differently and I'm having trouble with that.  DH has to remind me often that different does not mean worse.  (One time he even tried to tell me that different can sometimes be better... boy did he have to back pedal out of that one quickly.)  I like to be in control.  That's why I own my dance studio, rather than teach for someone else which would be a heck of a lot easier and I'd get paid better!  Anyway, now I'm just rambling.

 

All this to say... I am not looking forward to the end of August and it's going to be hard, but I guess we just do what we have to do.

 

Regarding having more kids... I was adamantly against having kids at all for several years and was just starting to warm up to the idea when I got pregnant.  Then I insisted it was "one and done".  Now... I totally dream about having another one.  We talked about DH getting a V, and me getting an IUD, but for now we're just using the good old pull and pray (for the all of one time we've DTD since DS was born.)

 

Oh so many more thoughts, but I've got to get DS to wake up and eat before my classes start!

post #86 of 123

I turned down the job.  I may regret it, but I think I'll regret not spending this time with Layla even more.  I'm so thankful to have a partner that's supportive and understanding.  Love him!!  <3

post #87 of 123
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I turned down the job.  I may regret it, but I think I'll regret not spending this time with Layla even more.  I'm so thankful to have a partner that's supportive and understanding.  Love him!!  <3


It's awesome that you got the job and were able to take it or leave it.  Sounds like your partner is great!

 

greensad.gif I am so sad that DS is growing out of his newborn GMD prefolds.  Now I have to decide whether to invest in larger GMD sizes or use the tons of other prefolds we have.

post #88 of 123
MLog- We are switching DD to the GMD yellows, it is kinda sad greensad.gif
post #89 of 123

meh. honestly, a prefold is a prefold. Save your dough for fancy cloth training pants or fitteds. ;)

 

working and motherhood is so hard in the US. I didn't like having my oldest in daycare full time. I didn't like how our DCP did things differently, although I loved her as a person and knew that she loved our son and did the best for him.

 

In the end I just didn't want to leave my kids with someone else all day... Part of that has to do with the way I was raised with 2 full time working parents.

 

I love working and feel so lucky to have work at home and do things that I am in control of... but there is a lot of sacrifice involved with being self employed vs. having someone else be your employer... Mlog I hear you there! 

 

BubbleMa, you didn't have a job when they offered you that one... ;) so you will be in the same situation when you are ready to return to work when Layla is bigger.

post #90 of 123
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meh. honestly, a prefold is a prefold. Save your dough for fancy cloth training pants or fitteds. ;)

 

Yeah, that's kind of what I was thinking since we really don't need more prefolds.  There are so many other things to spend the money on.

 

I'm going to try and take a ballet class tonight.  We'll see how that goes!  I was totally leaking through my shirt this afternoon while I was teaching.  Luckily it was an adult class so I didn't worry too much.  I figure moms understand. orngtongue.gif

 

Tomorrow night I'll be going out without DS for the first time.  It's one of my best friend's bachelorette party and I'm the matron of honor so I think it would be really bad if I skipped it and stayed home.  We've got some pumped milk ready and DH and DS practiced this week with the bottle.  Of course I'll have to head back to the car every couple of hours to pump.  It is definitely going to be an adventure and I really hope I don't end up out too late.  I'm going to be exhausted on Sunday! 

post #91 of 123
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Yeah, that's kind of what I was thinking since we really don't need more prefolds.  There are so many other things to spend the money on.

 

I'm going to try and take a ballet class tonight.  We'll see how that goes!  I was totally leaking through my shirt this afternoon while I was teaching.  Luckily it was an adult class so I didn't worry too much.  I figure moms understand. orngtongue.gif

 

Tomorrow night I'll be going out without DS for the first time.  It's one of my best friend's bachelorette party and I'm the matron of honor so I think it would be really bad if I skipped it and stayed home.  We've got some pumped milk ready and DH and DS practiced this week with the bottle.  Of course I'll have to head back to the car every couple of hours to pump.  It is definitely going to be an adventure and I really hope I don't end up out too late.  I'm going to be exhausted on Sunday! 


I did the same thing today where I looked at diapers online for awhile and then decided -- meh. I have prefolds. LOL I will get some fitteds for the very busy crawling walking stage if and only if we are doing a lot of wool... but otherwiseI'm saving the money!

 

Batchlorette party sounds fun!

post #92 of 123

our kid must be a real chunker, we're phasing out yellow and moving onto red blush.gif we only switched from orange a month ago.

 

related to this, does anyone else's kid seem to have constant growth spurts? my husband and I (and the baby!) are so exhausted.

post #93 of 123

Maryam, sometimes I wake up in the morning and look at Layla and I can tell she grew literally over night.  It's so crazy!  Luckily she isn't super fussy or anything though. 

 

DD1 is coming home Aug. 9th and I'm so excited!  She left when Layla was just 2 weeks old!  I miss my sweet, kind, gentle, loving girl!

 

Also, SO's kids are going home tomorrow so we'll have a couple weeks in between with just the 3 of us.  I'm really looking forward to that.  It's been really tense around here for the last 6 weeks.  The constant physical fighting, back talk, and whining are so exhausting.  And despite our best efforts, there has been zero progress.  :(

post #94 of 123
It's weird how growth spurts work. One day I tried to put on a diaper cover I had used the day before and it didn't fit...just over night! Has your boy been fussy Maryam? DD still cluster feeds in the evening, which I thought would be over at this point (9weeks). It's at least not until midnight like before...something around 5-9 or so, instead of 5-12, but it's still tiring at times! She gets fussy when she's fighting sleep. I think she would rather snack all night instead of sleep. I'm surprised she's only at the 40th percentile for weight the way she eats.
post #95 of 123

Ambrose is fitting his regular sized (infant size, I guess) prefolds very well these days.  I've had the same thing with diaper covers, too, Casmer! Ambrose has been spitting up a ton lately and seems to have a umbilical hernia :( I need to take him in to have it check out. I don't think the two have anything to do with each other... he is a pretty happy little guy most of the time.  Some fussiness but overall he is a happy little one.
 

post #96 of 123
We never had the orange edge prefoLds--I have the yellows and some osocozy smalls (those haven't fit for awhile). The yellows still fit, tho I expect orryn might grow out of them in a month or so. I have a dozen red edge, plus lots of pockets and I'm kind of loving flats smile.gif not sure what he weighs now; at his 2 month appointment he weighed 11 lbs--he's 12 weeks old on Monday! Not fussy at all, nursing great, lots of smiles and stuffing his hands/a soft giraffe rattle in his mouth. Last night he slept from 12am til 6 am! I need to get a breast pump to relieve engorgement and build a stash--when I was at the dentist last week it took longer than I thought and he was upset greensad.gif it would be nice to have some saved for situations like that.
post #97 of 123
Forest - DD started spitting up more often a couple of weeks ago. The nurse practitioner didn't seemed concerned since it didn't sound like it was excessive. I'm ready for that to end soon!
post #98 of 123

yep, he's super fussy most of the time! he'll have 3-4 very fussy days in a row, then a couple days off, and then it starts again. lately, he hasn't been sleeping for more than 45 minutes at a time during the day and wants to be fed every time he wakes up, but he's sleeping pretty well at night (two 4 hour stretches). maybe he's pre-teething or something?

 

he's 14.5 pounds and he turned two months on Wednesday!

 

also, he's showing a clear preference for me nowadays, he pretty much only wants to be held, worn, or comforted by me. it's frustrating to my husband because he used to do most of that before, and he really enjoys doing it too. I wonder if the fact that I feed him makes him prefer me so much more? because seriously, my husband is the more engaged parent. 

post #99 of 123
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yep, he's super fussy most of the time! he'll have 3-4 very fussy days in a row, then a couple days off, and then it starts again. lately, he hasn't been sleeping for more than 45 minutes at a time during the day and wants to be fed every time he wakes up, but he's sleeping pretty well at night (two 4 hour stretches). maybe he's pre-teething or something?

 

he's 14.5 pounds and he turned two months on Wednesday!

 

also, he's showing a clear preference for me nowadays, he pretty much only wants to be held, worn, or comforted by me. it's frustrating to my husband because he used to do most of that before, and he really enjoys doing it too. I wonder if the fact that I feed him makes him prefer me so much more? because seriously, my husband is the more engaged parent. 


Its probably a lot of things, but it is very common for babies to prefer their mamas. If you can have a special big shirt that you wear for a new days-- without deoderent so it smells like you and don't wash it (I know, sounds like of gross).  But that will get your smell on it and then have DH wear the shirt when he comforts DS. pheromones are powerful!

 

Perseph, I am so loving flats with this baby! I love how easy they are to wash and dry, too! flats rock!

 

Casmer, good to know about the split up! it is gross!

post #100 of 123

good idea, we'll try that! it's strange because he preferred hid dad until a week or so ago, and now he's all about me.

 

I want to try flats now :)

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