Betsey.. I am 37, the high rate of false positives in those test was one of the big reasons I didn't want to do any. My sister had a false positive and needed an amnio, the amount of stress she was under was unreal. And on top of all that anmio's are dangerous too, our midwife said 1 in 3 women end up miscarrying after, yikes!
We are getting an u/s at 20-21 weeks, I feel as though our family history (no abnormalities on either side) and our healthy lifestyles will give us a healthy bouncy baby... This I have no doubts in.
Mayday.. Thank you so much for the info! DP has been driving me crazy with this. I understand that he cares, and wants the best, and I do struggle to eat more than I think is necessary, but I think it's just a matter of time, I will get the hang of it. I am going to print off the Brewer Diet check list, and I read about the portions. I think this will be very helpful to remind me to get in enough protein and calories a day to not only feed me, but my baby too.
I understand why DP is getting on my case, and I feel okay sharing it with you ladies (I have learned that sharing is very good therapy.). I found out that my (ex-)husband was cheating on me. Eight months later I left him, but before I left, the damage to my self esteem had already wrecked havoc. I thought it was my fault he had cheated, I turned on my self and became anorexic. I wanted to be perfect and beautiful, and it felt good to punish myself for eating too much, it's a very dark and slippery slope. I don't know if anyone here has ever battled eating disorders before, but it is very hard to understand unless you have lived through it. Even after I left, and went through the divorce, I was so addicted to the lifestyle I was living that I was unable to stop the with-holding of food. The lowest I ever got was 104 pounds (I am 5"6). My father was very worried about me, and even cried while trying to get me to understand that I was killing myself.
When I met Jason I had pretty much gotten on a regular food intake schedule. I had been doing pretty well and was staying steady at about 122 pounds. He never saw me at my worst, but he knows about my past and my tendencies, and has been around when major stressful things happen in my life and I immediately stop eating. Stress for me makes me feel sick to my stomach and I am unable to eat, it just sounds, feels, smells, and tastes gross. It's one of my big triggers.
Although I am a far cry from those dark days, and being in a blissful relationship is my saving grace, I think he worries that I still tend to restrict, especially when he's not around me all day. He begged me last night to make my muffin quiches (egg whites with chopped veggies, any kind, in a muffin pans, toss in the oven for 15 minutes at 350, delish!) and eat a couple for breakfast. I will, and I do not feel as though I am being restrictive at all. I am eating when I am hungry, but I guess I need to eat when I am not hungry, and that will be hard to do.
Thanks for listening to my dark and scary past! Like I said, sharing is actually very therapeutic, and I have talked to many young girls about how to keep themselves from getting near that slope, and hopefully helped them in some way.
Okay... Time to make my quiches