or Connect
Mothering › Groups › March 2013 Due Date Club › Discussions › Appointments?

Appointments? - Page 4

post #61 of 168

Betsey.. I am 37, the high rate of false positives in those test was one of the big reasons I didn't want to do any. My sister had a false positive and needed an amnio, the amount of stress she was under was unreal. And on top of all that anmio's are dangerous too, our midwife said 1 in 3 women end up miscarrying after, yikes! 

 

We are getting an u/s at 20-21 weeks, I feel as though our family history (no abnormalities on either side) and our healthy lifestyles will give us a healthy bouncy baby... This I have no doubts in.

 

Mayday.. Thank you so much for the info! DP has been driving me crazy with this. I understand that he cares, and wants the best, and I do struggle to eat more than I think is necessary, but I think it's just a matter of time, I will get the hang of it. I am going to print off the Brewer Diet check list, and I read about the portions. I think this will be very helpful to remind me to get in enough protein and calories a day to not only feed me, but my baby too. 

 

I understand why DP is getting on my case, and I feel okay sharing it with you ladies (I have learned that sharing is very good therapy.). I found out that my (ex-)husband was cheating on me. Eight months later I left him, but before I left, the damage to my self esteem had already wrecked havoc. I thought it was my fault he had cheated, I turned on my self and became anorexic. I wanted to be perfect and beautiful, and it felt good to punish myself for eating too much, it's a very dark and slippery slope. I don't know if anyone here has ever battled eating disorders before, but it is very hard to understand unless you have lived through it. Even after I left, and went through the divorce, I was so addicted to the lifestyle I was living that I was unable to stop the with-holding of food. The lowest I ever got was 104 pounds (I am 5"6). My father was very worried about me, and even cried while trying to get me to understand that I was killing myself. 

 

When I met Jason I had pretty much gotten on a regular food intake schedule. I had been doing pretty well and was staying steady at about 122 pounds. He never saw me at my worst, but he knows about my past and my tendencies, and has been around when major stressful things happen in my life and I immediately stop eating. Stress for me makes me feel sick to my stomach and I am unable to eat, it just sounds, feels, smells, and tastes gross. It's one of my big triggers.

 

Although I am a far cry from those dark days, and being in a blissful relationship is my saving grace, I think he worries that I still tend to restrict, especially when he's not around me all day. He begged me last night to make my muffin quiches (egg whites with chopped veggies, any kind, in a muffin pans, toss in the oven for 15 minutes at 350, delish!) and eat a couple for breakfast. I will, and I do not feel as though I am being restrictive at all. I am eating when I am hungry, but I guess I need to eat when I am not hungry, and that will be hard to do.

 

Thanks for listening to my dark and scary past! Like I said, sharing is actually very therapeutic, and I have talked to many young girls about how to keep themselves from getting near that slope, and hopefully helped them in some way.

 

Okay... Time to make my quiches

post #62 of 168

Babytoes - Sounds like you've been through an awful time. I am glad you're in a good place right now. The Brewer's List is a nice checklist to ensure you're getting what you need. I was very concerned for a while because with the m/s, I just could not handle eating any type of protein. Just the thought of any type of meat made me gag. My OB said not to worry about it - the baby will take what it needs from mom's body, especially in the early stages. She suggested alternative protein sources like eggs, cottage cheese, peanut butter, and beans until the m/s improves. 

 

Just want to clarify one thing in your post - it looks like you wrote that the risk of miscarriage following an amnio is 1 in 3. That is absolutely NOT accurate at all. The risk of miscarriage following an amnio ranges from 1 in 400 to 1 in 200. See http://www.americanpregnancy.org/prenataltesting/amniocentesis.html/ and http://www.parents.com/pregnancy/stages/amniocentesis/risk-of-miscarriage-from-amnio-low/

 

Also, in terms of the urine dipstick: It is done to test for the presence of sugar (an early indicator of gestational diabetes), protein (can signal a urinary tract infection or in late pregnancy, pre-eclampsia), ketones (can mean you are not getting enough carbohydrates), and/or the presence of blood or bacteria (urinary tract infection). If you are prone to gestational diabetes, UTIs or preeclampsia. you could buy the test strips by the bottle and test your urine at home. It's very easy and accurate.You can click here to find them on Amazon.com $12 for 100.

post #63 of 168

we had an US on Monday at 6w3d and baby measured a day ahead, and a HB of 118.  The US doc has been through our MCs with us and was very happy with the measurements, HB and all my symptoms.  Looks like we have a sticky one finally!

post #64 of 168

Update to my previous post... just had our second u/s and still couldn't find a heartbeat. I was a little pissed off at the OB though, because what told us was the fetus last week (which was measuring ahead a week by the way), he said is the "funky shaped" placenta this week, and then pointed out the actual fetal pole and yolk sac. It seemed like he was giving me conflicting information. He gave me the options - D&C or waiting it out, and wrote me a prescription for painkillers. I decided almost immediately to get a second opinion. Fortunately I was able to get an appt that same afternoon. That OB, while a lot nicer & with a better bedside manner, said the same thing - there should be a HB by now, and that my placenta looked abnormal. Thankfully this office actually took my blood to measure levels... which I will know on Monday. By my calculations I was 7w5d, but the fetus measured 6w6d. 

 

I am not getting my hopes up, completely prepared for a loss, but I am obviously hoping the hormone levels are in the normal range and if so, that maybe they will go up in a day or so. Maybe I just conceived way later than I thought? Either way I will likely wait to see what happens. If it turns out I am waiting a long time, and there is clearly no hope, I might consider a D&C, however I have no idea what this entails and what risks there are. Anyone have any experience or knowledge with this? 

post #65 of 168
Quote:
Originally Posted by sarahl918 View Post

Update to my previous post... just had our second u/s and still couldn't find a heartbeat. I was a little pissed off at the OB though, because what told us was the fetus last week (which was measuring ahead a week by the way), he said is the "funky shaped" placenta this week, and then pointed out the actual fetal pole and yolk sac. It seemed like he was giving me conflicting information. He gave me the options - D&C or waiting it out, and wrote me a prescription for painkillers. I decided almost immediately to get a second opinion. Fortunately I was able to get an appt that same afternoon. That OB, while a lot nicer & with a better bedside manner, said the same thing - there should be a HB by now, and that my placenta looked abnormal. Thankfully this office actually took my blood to measure levels... which I will know on Monday. By my calculations I was 7w5d, but the fetus measured 6w6d. 

 

I am not getting my hopes up, completely prepared for a loss, but I am obviously hoping the hormone levels are in the normal range and if so, that maybe they will go up in a day or so. Maybe I just conceived way later than I thought? Either way I will likely wait to see what happens. If it turns out I am waiting a long time, and there is clearly no hope, I might consider a D&C, however I have no idea what this entails and what risks there are. Anyone have any experience or knowledge with this? 

I am so sorry that you are going through this! My understanding is that if you are less than 10 weeks, a D&C is optional. Here is some good information about it: http://www.americanpregnancy.org/pregnancycomplications/dandc.html

 

I don't know what you're personal history is - whether this is your first pregnancy or if you have other children. I had a D&C done after I miscarried at 8 weeks. I had no idea what to expect and it was an awful experience. If you've never had a child before, they will have to forcefully dilate your cervix in order to get inside the uterus. Because I had it done in a doctor's office, rather than a clinic or hospital, they did not give me anything to sedate me or relieve the pain during the procedure. (Just gave me an Ativan pill to take an hour before the appointment, which did NOTHING). I thought it was excruciatingly painful and I cried, screamed and kept begging them to stop the whole time. I apologize - I am NOT trying to scare or upset you, just relaying my own personal experience. Hopefully others will reply with there experiences too. Other people that I've talked to have told me that they were either knocked out or heavily sedated when they had it done and they barely remember a thing. My advice is if you must have it done, make sure they can/will give you pain medicine and sedation if necessary. Again, so sorry that you are going through this! hug2.gif

post #66 of 168
Quote:
Originally Posted by JessNP View Post

I am so sorry that you are going through this! My understanding is that if you are less than 10 weeks, a D&C is optional. Here is some good information about it: http://www.americanpregnancy.org/pregnancycomplications/dandc.html

 

I don't know what you're personal history is - whether this is your first pregnancy or if you have other children. I had a D&C done after I miscarried at 8 weeks. I had no idea what to expect and it was an awful experience. If you've never had a child before, they will have to forcefully dilate your cervix in order to get inside the uterus. Because I had it done in a doctor's office, rather than a clinic or hospital, they did not give me anything to sedate me or relieve the pain during the procedure. (Just gave me an Ativan pill to take an hour before the appointment, which did NOTHING). I thought it was excruciatingly painful and I cried, screamed and kept begging them to stop the whole time. I apologize - I am NOT trying to scare or upset you, just relaying my own personal experience. Hopefully others will reply with there experiences too. Other people that I've talked to have told me that they were either knocked out or heavily sedated when they had it done and they barely remember a thing. My advice is if you must have it done, make sure they can/will give you pain medicine and sedation if necessary. Again, so sorry that you are going through this! hug2.gif

 

Thank you so much... don't worry, you're not scaring me! I would rather know what to expect. This is my first pregnancy, no previous births so I'm sure if I were in your shoes it would be a similar experience for me - I'm so sorry you had to go through that!! I did ask the 2nd OB what it would look like and he told me that they will give general anesthesia via an IV so I would be asleep. So while I think it would be relatively quick & painless, I am worried about complications as I've read a couple people reference this... though I'm not sure what they are. I am definitely going to check out that link, thank you! My first choice (behind a miracle heartbeat, obviously), would be to have nature take care of it. I'm sure it would still be horrific. 

post #67 of 168
Quote:
Originally Posted by JessNP View Post

 

Just want to clarify one thing in your post - it looks like you wrote that the risk of miscarriage following an amnio is 1 in 3. That is absolutely NOT accurate at all. The risk of miscarriage following an amnio ranges from 1 in 400 to 1 in 200. See http://www.americanpregnancy.org/prenataltesting/amniocentesis.html/ and http://www.parents.com/pregnancy/stages/amniocentesis/risk-of-miscarriage-from-amnio-low/

 

The number 1 in 3 is what my midwives told us. That did seem a bit high, but it doesnt really matter anyway, amnio risk is not why we opted out of gen testing, it has everything to do with the false positives of the screens, and our low risk of having a problem.

 

I do wonder too though if the medical community has made the miscarriage numbers low to make it seem lower risk than it is. That would not surprise me in the least. 

post #68 of 168

PS...

 

Sorry if I have made anyone here uncomfortable with my post. That was not my intention. I seem to talk about it when I feel like it pertains to something going on in my life. I also seem to forget that that subject tends to make others very uncomfortable.

 

I apologize.

 

If anyone feels it is too much to have on here, please PM me and I will remove it. 

post #69 of 168
Quote:
Originally Posted by BeantownBaby9 View Post

we had an US on Monday at 6w3d and baby measured a day ahead, and a HB of 118.  The US doc has been through our MCs with us and was very happy with the measurements, HB and all my symptoms.  Looks like we have a sticky one finally!

joy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gif
post #70 of 168
Quote:
Originally Posted by sarahl918 View Post

Thank you so much... don't worry, you're not scaring me! I would rather know what to expect. This is my first pregnancy, no previous births so I'm sure if I were in your shoes it would be a similar experience for me - I'm so sorry you had to go through that!! I did ask the 2nd OB what it would look like and he told me that they will give general anesthesia via an IV so I would be asleep. So while I think it would be relatively quick & painless, I am worried about complications as I've read a couple people reference this... though I'm not sure what they are. I am definitely going to check out that link, thank you! My first choice (behind a miracle heartbeat, obviously), would be to have nature take care of it. I'm sure it would still be horrific. 

Oh sweetish I hope you get that miracle heartbeat but if you don't I would suggest waiting it out for a little bit. I naturally miscarried both mu angels declining the D&C. Obviously, the procedure is there if you need it but I found ot more comforting to know mu body had made the decision. hug.gif
post #71 of 168
Quote:
Originally Posted by babytoes View Post

PS...

Sorry if I have made anyone here uncomfortable with my post. That was not my intention. I seem to talk about it when I feel like it pertains to something going on in my life. I also seem to forget that that subject tends to make others very uncomfortable.

I apologize.

If anyone feels it is too much to have on here, please PM me and I will remove it. 

I hope no one feels uncomfortable including you! My first ex was abusive so I understand a bit how it feels having past relationships still effect your life so heavily. I am happy to hear you have a supportive and caring partner now! My DP and I are both 'damaged' tron previous relationships and it has actually helped us make our relationship honest and strong. I hope the Brewer's diet works for you!
post #72 of 168
Two days!! AHHH!! I am so excited. I hope we're able to hear the heartbeat as part of the u/s. And we get to find out of it J's twins. There has been some suggestion that there may be two but we will know for sure Tuesday!
post #73 of 168
Quote:
Originally Posted by GranolaMama09 View Post

And we get to find out of it J's twins. There has been some suggestion that there may be two but we will know for sure Tuesday!

You must be popping with excitement! My father is a twin, and because I am 37 I have a higher possibility of dropping more than one egg during ovulation. With these combined there is a lot of speculation we could be carrying twins as well.

 

I think there is only one mama on our board that is confirmed to be having twins, it will be fun to see how many pop up over the next month. 

 

I do have to say, I'm extremely nervous that I am carrying twins. In the state of Vermont midwives are not allowed to do twin HB, and I am so scared that something will mess up my beautiful HB... bawling.gif So although having twins would be a ball! I don't want to do this in a hospital... especially the huge, student/teaching hospital near me. I can only imagine I will spend my entire labor yelling at them to get their interventions away from me! Not looking forward to that kind of birth!!

post #74 of 168
Quote:
Originally Posted by babytoes View Post

You must be popping with excitement! My father is a twin, and because I am 37 I have a higher possibility of dropping more than one egg during ovulation. With these combined there is a lot of speculation we could be carrying twins as well.

I think there is only one mama on our board that is confirmed to be having twins, it will be fun to see how many pop up over the next month. 

I do have to say, I'm extremely nervous that I am carrying twins. In the state of Vermont midwives are not allowed to do twin HB, and I am so scared that something will mess up my beautiful HB... bawling.gif  So although having twins would be a ball! I don't want to do this in a hospital... especially the huge, student/teaching hospital near me. I can only imagine I will spend my entire labor yelling at them to get their interventions away from me! Not looking forward to that kind of birth!!


I can imagine! I am popping, Lol. This is my last baby so it would be awesome to have twins! I am in a hospital either way for birth and probably won't get my VBAC as it is but I am fairly certain twins would definitely knock a VBAC off the table for me. We made it past my 'normal' miscarry date but still, it will be so comforting to see baby unicorn measuring as he/she should be and hear a heartbeat!
post #75 of 168
Quote:
Originally Posted by GranolaMama09 View Post

Two days!! AHHH!! I am so excited. I hope we're able to hear the heartbeat as part of the u/s. And we get to find out of it J's twins. There has been some suggestion that there may be two but we will know for sure Tuesday!

Excited to hear what you find. Twins?? The idea of twins excites me and scared me to death. I'm pretty sure that's not the case for me, but I am 38 so who knows. 

 

AFM - we have an appointment on Friday where we'll try to hear the heartbeat. I'm so excited. Then next Friday we go in for the NT scan. I'm really more excited for the u/s than anything. I'm starting to feel better & have my appetite back. Although now some indigestion is settling in - boo. I need to remember to focus on small, frequent meals!

post #76 of 168
Quote:
Originally Posted by GranolaMama09 View Post


Oh sweetish I hope you get that miracle heartbeat but if you don't I would suggest waiting it out for a little bit. I naturally miscarried both mu angels declining the D&C. Obviously, the procedure is there if you need it but I found ot more comforting to know mu body had made the decision. hug.gif

 

Thank you so much! I am definitely in the 'wait it out' camp. The only way I would consider D&C is if things looked absolutely grim (low hormone levels, no growth, no hb still!) and a miscarriage wasn't happening naturally within a couple of weeks. I am scared of the pain and hemorrhaging if I got closer to the 10 week mark. 

 

One of my best friends had this same diagnosis on the exact same day of pregnancy (7w4d) but now she is 4 months along... her baby girl just took longer to develop. I am not going to pretend that just because it happened to her, it will happen to me, but it does give me slight hope! 

post #77 of 168
Quote:
Originally Posted by sarahl918 View Post

 

Thank you so much... don't worry, you're not scaring me! I would rather know what to expect. This is my first pregnancy, no previous births so I'm sure if I were in your shoes it would be a similar experience for me - I'm so sorry you had to go through that!! I did ask the 2nd OB what it would look like and he told me that they will give general anesthesia via an IV so I would be asleep. So while I think it would be relatively quick & painless, I am worried about complications as I've read a couple people reference this... though I'm not sure what they are. I am definitely going to check out that link, thank you! My first choice (behind a miracle heartbeat, obviously), would be to have nature take care of it. I'm sure it would still be horrific. 

 

I am so sorry you are going through this.  I just wanted to chime in that I had a d&c back in march, and it was painless and easy.  In fact, for me (i emphasise this because every one's experience is different, of course), it was the best course of action.  I did have it done in a day surgery unit at the hospital, and was fully sedated, and in that I think it makes my experience much different than JessNP's.  I should also add that I did bleed naturally but still retained some tissue after a week...I won't go into the details here, but like I said, everyone's experience is different and I wanted to reassure you that there are ways to have a "more pleasant"  d&c, (physically that is)  and that you don't have to be scared or worried about one if you do need one in the end.

 

Of course,I hope things work out for you!

 

I also found that the loss forum on MDC was a huge confort for those horrible weeks for me!

 

hugs!

post #78 of 168

I just wanted to say again...I really hope I didn't freak anyone out. I would be happy to remove my post if it offends or bothers anyone. I am so glad to hear that my experience is not a common one! 

post #79 of 168
Quote:
Originally Posted by Bena View Post

 

I am so sorry you are going through this.  I just wanted to chime in that I had a d&c back in march, and it was painless and easy.  In fact, for me (i emphasise this because every one's experience is different, of course), it was the best course of action.  I did have it done in a day surgery unit at the hospital, and was fully sedated, and in that I think it makes my experience much different than JessNP's.  I should also add that I did bleed naturally but still retained some tissue after a week...I won't go into the details here, but like I said, everyone's experience is different and I wanted to reassure you that there are ways to have a "more pleasant"  d&c, (physically that is)  and that you don't have to be scared or worried about one if you do need one in the end.

 

Of course,I hope things work out for you!

 

I also found that the loss forum on MDC was a huge confort for those horrible weeks for me!

 

hugs!

 

Thank you so much for sharing your experience... even though I really don't know what will happen (still waiting to find out my hormone levels), it does bring me comfort knowing what to expect should things not work out. I hope this isn't a downer for anyone, I know this should be a happy place!!

 

Will keep you all updated with what I find out... good luck to us all!

post #80 of 168
Saw the midwife tonight. Baby is measuring 9w4d and we heard the heartbeat joy.gif

Like usual I'm all overwhelmed seeing the baby and forget my questions.. Oh well all my bloodwork was good and no anemia
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: March 2013 Due Date Club
Mothering › Groups › March 2013 Due Date Club › Discussions › Appointments?