I would check out ICAN (either a meeting or the forums) for finding a VBAC provider. I've heard the meetings would be the best if there's one in your area, more word of mouth info that way. http://ican-online.org/ Also, check Tribal Areas in Finding Your Tribe here, someone else on the boards may have some info for you.
Let's talk about it - JULY! - Page 3
I've been missing for a week or so as I've had the in-laws visiting, but I'm trying to catch up here! I'm 17 weeks today, and I can't believe it's not going to be long before we're halfway there. I'm feeling pretty good, aside from still having to eat every five minutes. My midwife will be here next Monday, and I'm excited about trying to hear the heartbeat with the fetoscope!
Pogo- I share the very same ultimate goal. My husband and I would absolutely love to have a small farm with greenhouses where we know exactly how fresh and healthy our food is. We've read some great books, but that's about as close as we we've gotten to that dream right now. Something about being in the Army just isn't conducive to putting down roots and buying acreage! So frustrating.
I'm trying to come to grips with our imperfect diet and my toddler's love of carbs. I still have come a long way since we don't eat non-foods anymore like we used to. My toddler isn't familiar with most pre-packaged snacks and foods, so I guess that's something, right?! I keep trying to see the positive side of things. For example, my daughter could probably eat half a loaf of bread in a day, but I'm telling myself, at least it's 100% Whole wheat, and she even eats the crusts! Oh well, I'll take what I can get, I guess :).
MamaBookworm, I'm no help when it comes to a provider or questions to ask about VBACs, but I did find what looked to me like a helpful thread on what books to read! It's here.
As for some great birthy books in general, I was excited to find a pretty thorough list from this site.
I figured I'd just post it here:
First official midwife appointment today! I think we get to meet the second midwife today too, so exciting :) I absolutely love the fact that we're "clients" and not "patients" and that all the appointments are right here at my home. That does mean we have to clean up (me and DH both are slightly neurotic about the house being clean when other people come over), but we don't have a ton of stuff so it's never too big a deal. Hopefully we'll hear the heartbeat with the fetascope, and talk about regular birth stuff I guess. I'll be 17 weeks on Sunday, and I've gained a total of about 10 pounds so far, so I think we're doing well :)
Oh, and my mom is coming to visit for a couple of weeks next Wednesday, and we're not going to tell her that I'm pregnant! As in, she's going to pull up to the house in her rental car, come in the door, and then see my pregnant belly! It should be fun :) After she's surprised we'll go ahead and iChat with DH's parents and surprise them too, and then make the general announcement (facebook/email/etc. I don't do "everyone gets their own phone call" because I hate the phone). Last time we told everyone when I was only like 7 weeks pregnant, so I was already bloated looking but definitely not obviously pregnant.
So excited to be approaching the halfway point, the weeks just keep flying by, I know this baby will be here before we know it!
That should be very fun to surprise your mom like that! I work with my mom, so she knew pretty early. There are still some people that don't know, like everyone that I "know" but am not very close with. Some of our friends want to get together at the end of August and go for lunch and they don't know, I don't really want to tell them either because they get upset when people get pregnant and its not them, so I don't really know what to do about telling them. I am over 17 weeks and I think if I told them today they would be upset, if I wait they will be upset, maybe I just wont tell them at all??? I don't know. We are not as close as we once were due to some disagreements. A lady asked me yesterday when I was due, I think she hesitated because she did not want to offend in case I wasn't actually pregnant lol. I have started to have some birth fears, so I am reading Birthing From Within right now, its really good so far. And my midwife said she would get some more books together and some videos also for my next appointment that she thinks will help. And I have decided to order the Pink Kit for this birth. I hope it helps. I am going to get lots and lots of free yarn today from a friend so I am pretty excited! This pregnancy is becoming real to me finally! Now I just need to finish getting ready for it. Only 22 weeks and a few days left.
I hope your midwife appointment goes well!!
Blood pressure was good, and the midwife was able to hear the baby kicking around in there but couldn't pin down a heartbeat with the fetoscope this time. Maybe next time! Apparently I have shy babies, DD ran away from all privacy invasions too
Pogo, I hope Birthing From Within helps you feel more confident about your birth! I've done the first birth art and am going to do the second one this weekend, it was actually a really good experience to do it.