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post #141 of 293
I say don't include it but if people ask you for ideas, point them to the list. I'm considering for Ava's parties going forward to ask people to bring a new unwrapped toy to donate to the hospital if they really feel the need to buy a present. Have to think it through some more but Ava gets all of the toys from my sister's girls when they outgrow them. Plus, when Ava was in the hospital the ast time, it was a big bright spot in her recovery when the volunteer brought in this beautiful Gund Tigger that someone had donated. I would like to be able to pay it forward, you know?
post #142 of 293
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JJ ~ Since we'll be waiting about 3 years to go on our tropical vacation, maybe your dh won't be invited anyway. winky.gif We could make it a Mama's getaway and leave the kids with the Dads.

Carrie ~ By wish list, you mean gift suggestions for Finn? No, I wouldn't send something like that in the invitations. I only give people gift suggestions if they ask.

There was something else but now I don't remember what it was. Probably because I was interrupted like 5 times before I finally got back on here to post it. lol.gif
post #143 of 293

I don't think I'd print it out in full, but maybe include a sidenote that if you are inclined to get a gift, list the link for his wishlist for ideas. It's perfectly kosher to include it in shower invites, I don't see why it would be different for birthday parties.

 

The nice thing about the museum is that it includes admission for 15 kids and unlimited adults - so it's no $$ outlay for anyone. I am considering doing a weekday party for 2 reasons: 1) all people get a pass to come back for free on another day (and some people aren't members, so it would be a real treat for them  - those of us that are members, don't need one. 2) if I do during the week, it's a reason to not have older, school age sibs come (so I don't need to purposefully exclude anyone - and some of our friends have 3-6 kids, and obviously I can't invite them all)

 

We have done both DITY and MC moves. i would choose the MC. less stress.

post #144 of 293
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Annie ~ That's a very cool idea!
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Oh Lauri I like that idea a whole lot!!! love.gif

 

We're just going to do word of mouth.  Once ppl get the invites, if they ask what he wants, I'll direct them to the list.  Easy enough.  

 

Doing it during the week sounds like the perfect thing, Kat.  Seriously.

post #146 of 293

Yeah, just need to convince DH . . . and see if I can get the day off . . .LOL (his birthday would have to fall during Thanksgviving week this year)

 

And Lauri - awesome idea <3

post #147 of 293

Enh. DH is unconvinced about a weekday party. So I guess a Saturday it is! I am going to email them and see about available dates soon. He loves the idea of a donation in lieu of gift.

 

Morning sickness sucks. I had it so good with Norah. only decreased appetite!

 

oh, and I got a whole 4 oz this morning's pump! woot! it's no where near the 7 or more I used to get, but it's the bare minimum Norah needs from that session. I ordered some More Milk 2 today from Amazon, it's got great reviews (designed esp for pregnant women. The only negative review was from a woman who wasn't pregnant when using it, and eventually she switched to fenugreek which did work for her :facepalm: why wouldn't you do fenugreek first if you could???)

 

How is everybody? Awake? busy?

post #148 of 293
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We went to bowling this morning. We hadn't been since before we went to VA so the boys had a lot of fun. I was hoping to give the Mama the baby girl set I knitted but she didn't come today. greensad.gif I was disappointed. I thought we might go to the pool afterward but they wanted to come home.

Boo to morning sickness. Hopefully, it goes away soon. Hm, much milder m/s with Norah. Maybe another boy this time. Did I say it was time for a boy for our group? No, I think it was girl. I think we have one more boy.
post #149 of 293

We haven't been bowling in forever, and we have our own balls, bags and shoes! LOL too busy. Need to take Gabe on a cheap night, I think he's old enough now to enjoy it.

 

Some days the nausea is very strong, others it's kind of mild. Today is a mild day. I have a friend due in Jan that's on IV fluids at home, and Zofran, and is just miserable. I am so glad I have never had it that bad. I am feeling boy . . .it's the first time I have felt strongly about the gender. We will see in October if I'm proven right!

 

Even though it's my 3rd baby, a friend still wants to throw me a shower :love: that's so sweet of her. I'm going to let her LOL. why not?

 

The boys didn't want to do the pool? are they feeling ok?

post #150 of 293
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The boys didn't want to do the pool? are they feeling ok?

I didn't tell them about the pool because I wasn't sure if anyone else was going. We did end up going a little later but only stayed about an hour. Ethan got hungry. My fault because I didn't plan well and either bring snacks or have them eat something real quick before we left. I thought they had a snack machine at the pool but they don't.

Yeah, have another shower is someone wants to throw one for you. Fun! People don't have to get you gifts if you don't need anything. You all can just celebrate another baby.
post #151 of 293

This same friend said she's sad  - she had her 2nd two months ago - that he would probably be her last - her husband is older and they own a restaurant that takes up a lot of time and energy. She didn't have a shower or mama blessing for him. I am kind of wondering if it might be kosher to throw her a post-baby shower/blessing? as a surprise? Thoughts on that? They don't need anything I know of (gift wise) but we could do some of the things I've seen done at mama blessings anyway. (like write down thoughts/blessings and put in a pretty box, or on fabric) Just something I was thinking.

 

I don't always plan well either. I need to get better at that. I am thinking of growing my hair out . . . I wonder if it's just the pregnancy hormones?

post #152 of 293
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This same friend said she's sad  - she had her 2nd two months ago - that he would probably be her last - her husband is older and they own a restaurant that takes up a lot of time and energy. She didn't have a shower or mama blessing for him. I am kind of wondering if it might be kosher to throw her a post-baby shower/blessing? as a surprise? Thoughts on that? They don't need anything I know of (gift wise) but we could do some of the things I've seen done at mama blessings anyway. (like write down thoughts/blessings and put in a pretty box, or on fabric) Just something I was thinking.

I think that would be a wonderful thing to do for her. My friends in Hawaii threw me a shower for Ethan a couple of months after he was born because I didn't find out his gender beforehand. No one knew how to do a gender neutral baby shower. lol.gif
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I don't always plan well either. I need to get better at that.

I try to keep water and snacks (granola bars and stuff like that) in my car so I always have something. It's a habit from when I was pg and would get sick hungry suddenly. I needed something to eat right away or I felt like I would vomit and then pass out. Not good while driving. Anyway, dh does the grocery shopping now and he keeps getting the wrong stuff. No one likes it.

We're having some issues with that. He's trying to make everyone eat healthy, which is fine. I understand he's doing it because he cares. But, it's wasteful and useless if he buys a bunch of stuff that no one eats because no one likes it. And, he's stingy with desserts. I like dessert. I like to have something for dessert every night after dinner. So do the kids. We have 6 people in this house. A half a cake isn't going to last very long. He gets upset because it's gone in 2 days. Well, if everyone has a piece (including him), that's how fast it should go. eyesroll.gif
post #153 of 293

Healthy is good, as long as it gets eaten. Our issue more is due to toddler's wavering appetite. Somedays he could eat his weight in bananas, or grapes, and others he won't touch them. Hard to keep that stuff in the house, when it's a toss up as to whether it will be eaten. I don't really snack, other than granola bars (and they are healthy, right?)  Can he take one of the boys with him, or sit down with them and make a shopping list? That way the kids get input too?

 

Cake. . . is a treat here. I really don't eat much of it. Now ice cream. That I can and do have nearly every day. But only once the kids are in bed, because I don't want to share. Gabe gets a treat after dinner if he eats. His appetite has been minimal lately. So has his naps.

 

Potty training . . . on the way to bed last night, he wanted to sit on the potty, so I let him, and he gets a treat for sitting. He talked about poop out (that's what both pee and poop are to him) but nada. Then once I was headed to bed, a little after midnight, he starts crying about poop, and DH said he didn't really  have a poop or anything, but changed his diaper. I wonder if a)he peed and didn't like it, or needed to do one or the other and DH didn't figure that out. *sigh* I guess I need to get in the habit of sitting him on the potty every time he talks about it. Just in case.

 

I am going to get together with some of our mutual friends and see what we can come up with for our friend. i think it would be best if we can keep it a surprise. It's hard enough keeping my pregnancy from my parents . . . but DH really wants to surprise people at Norah's birthday.

post #154 of 293
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Yes, healthy is good but what is and is not healthy is very subjective. Most people would probably say that granola bars are relatively healthy. Most people probably think they are more healthy than cookies or candy. But, some people would say they are not healthy at all. Then there's the issue of the different kinds and brands of granola bars. For example, I asked dh to get the Nature Valley Fruit & Nut bars. Those are the one I and the boys like. He got Kashi ones. I can't stand Kashi. All of their products that I've tried taste like cardboard to me. My thing is that I try to eat as much whole, natural food as possible but there are certain things or brands that I know I don't like so when I ask for something specific I want only that thing. Don't try to get a substitute. I have told dh this over and over but he still doesn't get it. eyesroll.gif

Also, it's not good when it becomes a control thing or a power struggle. DH isn't home during the day so he doesn't what the boys eat throughout the day or how active they are. He's stuck in that conventional everyone works and/or goes to school so sits on his butt and eats who knows what all day so we have to make sure they eat only "healthy" stuff for dinner at night when we are home. Our life isn't like that. Since my boys can eat whatever they want whenever they want throughout the day and move around as much as they want whenever they want, that's not much of an issue. When it's just us and they have access to all kinds of choices they choose healthy stuff most of the time. They know when they don't feel good because they haven't eaten healthy and will tell me what they need. But since dh tries to control what they eat, they are more likely to gorge on the "treat" stuff in front of him for fear that he'll take it away. I can't seem to get dh to understand that and it's causing problems in his relationship with the boys.

I think he's getting better, though. Last night after we had all gotten into bed and dh was doing the dishes, Ethan said he was hungry so was going to try to find something to eat. Kellen soon followed. DH gave them each a brownie and they came to bed happy.
post #155 of 293

Playing catchup again... MW you asked about sidecarring her crib. We've looked into it a few times, but a/ it would mean buying another crib, since ours may not come apart, and b/ We pretty much would not be able to walk around the room. At all. The crib is wider than the p&p was, and even with that, we had to kind of scooch, and couldn't access our closet properly. The only way we could do it, would be to get rid of our dresser, which we need, and don't have anywhere else to put. I keep considering it anyways, but realistically, it'll just lead to a mess. 

 

She's back in her bed though. We did the few days, and other than the one, she was sleeping no better than in her crib, but we were sleeping worse. And she started doing all the typical co-sleeping antics of spinning and pushing, and punching and kicking, and it was just too much for my tired brain to deal with. I was getting so angry with her. So, back in the crib again, and just coming into bed with us around 6am instead. 

 

That said-- Started NCSS seriously again on Sunday night. We've been here and there using some of the tactics, but not really putting our all into it. It was time to try again. So-- Sunday was 12 hours total (not counting the time she was awake during those 12 hours), and woke up 8 separate times (some requiring several tries before I could put her down again). Monday she slept 11 hours, and only had 5 wakeups, none of which required several tries. Last night she slept 12 hours again, only woke up THREE times, and even slept for 6 hours once! I nursed her at around 730, and she fell asleep (not intending to, we hadn't done any bed stuff yet). So I let her sleep and she woke up about 8pm. We went and had a quiet bath together, and then got pjs on, and read books and cuddled for a bit. She was fussy, but it was so obvious that she had to go potty, and was having trouble. I took her, and she tried like mad, but nothing. So I redressed her, and went back into the room, and she settled anyways. Then we nursed again, and after 4 minutes or so she stopped sucking altogether, but had her eyes wide open. So I popped her off, and cuddled her, and she fell asleep around 910pm.  Slept until 1015, woke and I nursed her, but again she stopped after only 2 minutes or so, and just cuddled into me big time. Then she slept until 4am! We got a really big nurse in, and then she popped off, and went back to sleep, and then slept until 620- I brought her into bed with us, and she nursed a bit, and then dozed until about 730, when I latched her on again, (she was still 'sleeping' but fussy) and she actually fell into a deep sleep, and slept until 830. I even got out of bed around 810, and she kept sleeping.   *Cheers!!!*

 

I know there's as good a chance of her waking up 10 times tonight as there is that she'll have another night like that... but oh my! If we could bottle that night, I think I could sell it as perfection! I didn't go to sleep until too late (around 12:30), so I missed out on a bunch of the good sleep I could have gotten, but DH and I ordered pizza nad talked and spent time together, so that was nice too. And obviously if I knew on a regular basis that she was going to sleep 10-4, then I'd haul my butt to bed right at 10!

 

It's such a good day for it too! My friend if coming over today, and it'll be nice to actually be rested for it!

 

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Some days the nausea is very strong, others it's kind of mild. Today is a mild day. I have a friend due in Jan that's on IV fluids at home, and Zofran, and is just miserable. I am so glad I have never had it that bad. I am feeling boy . . .it's the first time I have felt strongly about the gender. We will see in October if I'm proven right!

 

Even though it's my 3rd baby, a friend still wants to throw me a shower :love: that's so sweet of her. I'm going to let her LOL. why not?

:( Hopefully it'll pass soon! My 'ms' really wasn't bad compared to others, but even then I know by like 14 weeks when it hadn't passed, I was getting nervous. I can't imagine going through a whole pregnancy sick like you hear of people doing!

 

I think boy too. Not sure why. 

 

And I think that's adorable! Every baby should be celebrated!

 

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This same friend said she's sad  - she had her 2nd two months ago - that he would probably be her last - her husband is older and they own a restaurant that takes up a lot of time and energy. She didn't have a shower or mama blessing for him. I am kind of wondering if it might be kosher to throw her a post-baby shower/blessing? as a surprise? Thoughts on that? They don't need anything I know of (gift wise) but we could do some of the things I've seen done at mama blessings anyway. (like write down thoughts/blessings and put in a pretty box, or on fabric) Just something I was thinking.

I think that would be really nice. My IL's typically do showers after the baby, so that people can meet the little one. You could totally come up with enough activities and fun things. And it would be so nice for her :)

 

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I try to keep water and snacks (granola bars and stuff like that) in my car so I always have something. It's a habit from when I was pg and would get sick hungry suddenly. I needed something to eat right away or I felt like I would vomit and then pass out.

I started the same! I was carrying practically a whole lunch kit worth of snacks with me to work every day on the bus! Chocolate covered almonds became my savior! lol.  Now I've just got a couple granola bars stuffed on the bottom of the diaper bag, and then T has gerber puffs (she loves them! :/  ) and a dried fruit mix, that I could steal if I really needed. 

 

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Healthy is good, as long as it gets eaten. Our issue more is due to toddler's wavering appetite. Somedays he could eat his weight in bananas, or grapes, and others he won't touch them. Hard to keep that stuff in the house, when it's a toss up as to whether it will be eaten. I don't really snack, other than granola bars (and they are healthy, right?)  Can he take one of the boys with him, or sit down with them and make a shopping list? That way the kids get input too?

 

Cake. . . is a treat here. I really don't eat much of it. Now ice cream. That I can and do have nearly every day. But only once the kids are in bed, because I don't want to share. Gabe gets a treat after dinner if he eats. His appetite has been minimal lately. So has his naps.

 

Potty training . . . on the way to bed last night, he wanted to sit on the potty, so I let him, and he gets a treat for sitting. He talked about poop out (that's what both pee and poop are to him) but nada. Then once I was headed to bed, a little after midnight, he starts crying about poop, and DH said he didn't really  have a poop or anything, but changed his diaper. I wonder if a)he peed and didn't like it, or needed to do one or the other and DH didn't figure that out. *sigh* I guess I need to get in the habit of sitting him on the potty every time he talks about it. Just in case.

 

I snack too much, and I'm trying to get in the habit now that Ten is eating, to have the healthy stuff on hand, and actually make an effort to prepare and eat it, rather than grabbing a handful of chocolate or such. A lot of it I just never developed a taste for, so now I find myself trying to adjust to it. (Things like cantelope and sugar snap pees, etc). 

 

No cake or 'desserts' here either- We're the type that if it's here, we'll just inhale the whole freaking thing, and I really don't need any more help eating junk! lol. But we do have ice cream in the freezer all the time, like you Kat. 

 

Ok... time to go motor through the rest of my computer stuff and then get to cleaning up for the visit today!

post #156 of 293
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I know she's back in her crib so this doesn't really apply to you anymore, JJ, but just as a general FYI. When we had a small bedroom and needed more bed space we moved one of our dressers into the other bedroom. That worked well for dh because he could get dressed in there when he got up early for work and wouldn't disturb the rest of us sleeping.

I'm terrible about bringing food for D to munch on while we are out. I'm still not fully used to him eating solids so I don't think to take food for him with me. Yesterday he had french fries at the bowling alley because we all got lunch. He was screaming because we were all eating in front of him and they don't have anything good for babies there. I need to plan better for that.
post #157 of 293

OMG - I don't know how you mamma's do it greensad.gif

 

Ugh - the past 2 out of 3 nights A has been up for an hour to an hour and a half at a time!! I try to just go in there and sleep in the bed with her (we have a spare that is pushed against the wall) but it has been suuuuuucking! 
I have no idea what is going on...........she has broken through teeth, been evacuated, and STILL slept soundly all night. 

 

She did have runny poop for about 3 days, but that seems to have passed. Who knows! Oh yeah, she did wake up a couple times when she went poop in the middle of the night, but I would change her and she would go right back to bed.

 

Kat - I hope your MS goes away soon. Mine has always been pretty mild, but pretty annoying. It would be more of a "I'm hungry, I'm sick, I'm hungry, I'm sick"  Also, I craved the warm comfort food in the beginning. No salads or veggie's or sandwhiches. The last trimester I would crave icecream! I would have it almost every single night orngtongue.gif

 

I know I am forgetting a bunch of stuff, but blaaaah. I don't feel so great. 

 

I think the situation has been worse since I have been going to bed later, I'll have to go to bed early tonight JIC. 

post #158 of 293
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I woke up last night and couldn't find D. He had scooched himself down to the bottom of the bed and was upside down! Scared the crap out of me. lol.gif

He was up from about 2:30 to 3:30 either last night or the night before (maybe both) alternatively squirming and nursing in addition to his other night nursings but I still feel ok. Maybe not quite as rested as if I had slept straight through the night but not completely exhausted, either.

I had zombie nightmares from watching the first episode of The Walking Dead. I don't think I'll watch anymore of that. Zombies really freak me out.
post #159 of 293
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I know she's back in her crib so this doesn't really apply to you anymore, JJ, but just as a general FYI. When we had a small bedroom and needed more bed space we moved one of our dressers into the other bedroom. That worked well for dh because he could get dressed in there when he got up early for work and wouldn't disturb the rest of us sleeping.
I'm terrible about bringing food for D to munch on while we are out. I'm still not fully used to him eating solids so I don't think to take food for him with me. Yesterday he had french fries at the bowling alley because we all got lunch. He was screaming because we were all eating in front of him and they don't have anything good for babies there. I need to plan better for that.

We thought about that, but it's one of the long and low dressers, so we'd have to take furniture out of ten's room too! lol It's one of those pieces that I -love- but is really not practical for a small home at all. 

 

My father and his new girlfriend are building a house together, and I got to go see it on Sunday. I am so jealous now. And even more tempted to build when we have to move. It's out of our price range, but then I go and look at theirs, and how it's coming together, and I'm like hmm... we could make it work! lol.  It's only 1400 sq ft, but it's got 10 foot ceilings throughout, so seems so much bigger, and it has a full basement, so it's really more like 2600 square feet, after you take out the utility room.  Upstairs they've got a huge open concept living/dining/kitchen with a breaskfast bar, and a walk in pantry, and a fireplace, and then a walk out to the massive covered deck (they're going to also put in a hot tub and a pool, and possibly an outdoor changehouse and shower). And then there's two smallish bedrooms, and a bath with a soaker tub. Then the master has it's own bath, and they're putting in a two person walk in shower (my idea, they were going to have two tubs, which seemed silly for two old people with no kids!), and also a walk in closet, with a hidden door into one of the other bedrooms, that is acting as a separate office/dressing room for his gf. 

 

Like I said... jealous!  

 

Ten LOVES french fries, much more than she should, so that's always a good bet when we're out!

 

 

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OMG - I don't know how you mamma's do it greensad.gif

 

Ugh - the past 2 out of 3 nights A has been up for an hour to an hour and a half at a time!! I try to just go in there and sleep in the bed with her (we have a spare that is pushed against the wall) but it has been suuuuuucking! 

 

I think the situation has been worse since I have been going to bed later, I'll have to go to bed early tonight JIC. 

See at least with Ten though, usually, she goes right back to sleep as soon as I nurse her. It is 10x worse when they actually wake up up, like A is doing! At least with Ten, I can latch her on, and then zone out in the rocking chair while she nurses. (Next time, I will totally splurge for the luxury rocker though!)  And it's so hard to go to bed earlier, even when you know you should!!

 

 

Got dressed nice today, and even put on makeup, and straightened my hair. I feel so much better, I don't know why I don't take the time to do this more often!

post #160 of 293

JJ: could you sidecar a small crib? Not like IKEA, but the portable sort of size, which is hardly bigger than a PNP? I hate having baby in a separate room from me, it feels lonely. (but that's just me)

 

OB appointment this morning in just a little bit! need to go get ready!

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