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post #81 of 293

Cupcakes make me a bit batty too because you have to put icing on all of them. But easier at the actual party because you don't have to cut a cake. I'm so excited to see what Ava's cake looks like. I hope I'm not disappointed.

 

I'm trying to not go overboard with the decorations. I didn't do all matchy-matchy plates, I'm just doing red plates, green silverware and probably orange napkins. I have some decorations and told my mom to not buy more.

 

I'm getting jealous that all the other babies are walking and Ava isn't! I know it will take time but boo!
 

post #82 of 293
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Annie ~ The average age for babies to walk is actually 12-15 months, so she's not behind. She'll get there! And she's talking. I'm jealous that you guys have talking babies. I've been trying to get Dylan to say, "Mama," but no luck. Although, he smiles like crazy when I say it. love.gif He doesn't even really babble, just makes randoms sounds and screams a lot. lol.gif

Yeah, cupcakes are easier to serve but individually frosting all of them gets me. And, I like frosting. I wouldn't eat cake if it weren't for frosting. So, I want frosting all over my piece in every bite. Sheepish.gif Can't really get that with a cupcake unless you spread the frosting around while eating it.
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Annie ~ The average age for babies to walk is actually 12-15 months, so she's not behind. She'll get there! And she's talking. I'm jealous that you guys have talking babies. I've been trying to get Dylan to say, "Mama," but no luck. Although, he smiles like crazy when I say it. love.gif He doesn't even really babble, just makes randoms sounds and screams a lot. lol.gif

 

Yep - my other two girls both started walking about 14/15ish months. I was surprised when Arianna started walking about 12 months! I guess she needed to keep up with the big kids orngtongue.gif

 

MW - A won't say mama either!!!!! I can count on one hand the amount of times she has said it. She said it once randomly when she was younger (and whining of course) and just recently on a long car trip. She says dada and da to most things. She tried to say kitty when we got them, but it is mostly just the K sound. Oh, and she said "bobble" earlier. All of my kids have called their water bottle's etc. Bobble's. I have been purposefully saying boTTle to A so she wouldn't pick up the bad habit. Guess it is just genetic!!! lol.gif

 

Oh, and it didn't help that at a family reunion on Saturday, a baby who was almost her exact age (her great aunt couldn't remember if she was born the 7th or the 4th) pointed to A and said "baby!" PERFECTLY. Showoff wink1.gif

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That's true MW. All perspective. And I know it may be awhile before Ava walks. DSD 13 didn't walk until she was 14 months old. So it may be a while. She doesn't have any problems getting to where she wants to go though!
 

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Haha! Gotta love those show off babies!

I didn't answer you about Dylan and stares. He can go up and down them himself. Kellen only helped him bust out. Do you think that means I can stop worrying about it? IDK. He still doesn't always get that there's an edge he can fall off. Sometimes when he stops and decides to sit he's right on the edge and would topple if I didn't catch him. He has only done that once on the stairs and he was only up 1 or 2 steps so it wasn't a big fall but he does it on the couch all the time.

Carrie ~ Do you remember that yarn I posted about on FB that I had finally gotten after something like 2 years of waiting? It's called Pieced of Eight. hehe The colors don't really make me think pirates so I'm not sure why it was named that but I thought it was cool. I'll be making a pair of pants for Dylan out of it.
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Ugh! DH is really pissing me off. I asked him to empty the trash can so that I could clean up our trash from lunch. He did that but then just sat in the kitchen doing whatever. I had Dylan so I couldn't get up and do anything. When he got up and started doing stuff I asked him to come spend time with his family. He said he was going to clean. I asked him again to please come spend some time with his family. His response was, "Ok, I'll trade you." In other words, he would take Dylan so I could clean up. Um, that's not what I said. I wanted him to actually spend some time with us, sitting, talking, laughing, enjoying each other instead of always doing something else. I did not get up and clean right that second. I said I'd get it when I get it. He got mad and started passive/aggressively insulting me about the house being dirty implying that we are slobs or something, I guess. Finally, I told him to go clean it then. We don't need to be here if we bother him so much. Now he's stomping around the house "picking up" as he calls it while holding Dylan. I'm mad so I'm not going to do anything. I'm going to leave my trash on the table and see how much it bothers him. mischievous.gif

I get like that. If you try to tell me what to do and when to do it, I'm for sure not going to do it even if it's something I said I would do. Why doesn't he understand that I wanted him to pay attention to us instead of his stuff? (And, yes, I know I'm probably a little crazy for complaining that my dh is cleaning.)
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Ugh! DH is really pissing me off. I asked him to empty the trash can so that I could clean up our trash from lunch. He did that but then just sat in the kitchen doing whatever. I had Dylan so I couldn't get up and do anything. When he got up and started doing stuff I asked him to come spend time with his family. He said he was going to clean. I asked him again to please come spend some time with his family. His response was, "Ok, I'll trade you." In other words, he would take Dylan so I could clean up. Um, that's not what I said. I wanted him to actually spend some time with us, sitting, talking, laughing, enjoying each other instead of always doing something else. I did not get up and clean right that second. I said I'd get it when I get it. He got mad and started passive/aggressively insulting me about the house being dirty implying that we are slobs or something, I guess. Finally, I told him to go clean it then. We don't need to be here if we bother him so much. Now he's stomping around the house "picking up" as he calls it while holding Dylan. I'm mad so I'm not going to do anything. I'm going to leave my trash on the table and see how much it bothers him. mischievous.gif
I get like that. If you try to tell me what to do and when to do it, I'm for sure not going to do it even if it's something I said I would do. Why doesn't he understand that I wanted him to pay attention to us instead of his stuff? (And, yes, I know I'm probably a little crazy for complaining that my dh is cleaning.)

 

Yeah, my husband is an OCD neat freak. When other women complain that their husbands don't clean, I just imagine a husband who doesn't clean lol.gif He goes around all day picking up stuff while I would rather just do one BIG cleanup once a day and maybe deep clean once a week. 

 

I think all us ladies need to go on a REAL vacation. Somewhere tropical champagne.gif Of course now we will have to wait for Kat to have the baby and said baby get older........sooooo, like 3ish years? LOL

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I think all us ladies need to go on a REAL vacation. Somewhere tropical champagne.gif Of course now we will have to wait for Kat to have the baby and said baby get older........sooooo, like 3ish years? LOL

 

AGREED! I saw a deal come through my email a few weeks ago from Travelzoo that was a 6 night cruise to Bermuda for $399 on Royal Carribean with a $100 onboard credit. Oh man! How I would love to be on a cruise with you ladies!

post #89 of 293

So much happening here today guys!! lol  I'm following along, but had a busy day (even though I didn't leave the house... lol) I might get a chance to come back and do personals tomorrow. 

 

For the past week or so, T has been waking up every 45 minutes during the night. *headspin* I know a lot of it is teething, but knowing why doesn't help the fact that when I get up, I'm so tired that I'm dizzy. It sucks. so much.  Anyways, we've been trying everything, and last night we brought her into bed with us at the start. I've been noticing that the alst few times she's been in bed with us, for various reasons (teething, sick, random cuddle night), she's --finally-- cuddling with me/us without wanting to nurse all night! It used to be if she was in bed, she was nursing. Period. I couldn't have her in bed without her wanting to nurse all night long- which kept me up. But she seems to be growing out of that, which is so nice!  Anywho, so we brought her into bed last night, and she slept for almost 4 hours straight!! It was such a dream! And then she did I think 2 hours and then went back to every 40 minutes, but still!!

 

So... I told DH that for one week, I'm going to put her to bed in her crib, and then whenever her first wakeup is after we go to bed, I'll bring her in with us for the rest of the night. After a week, if she's sleeping better like that, well... significantly better I guess I should amend to... then we're going to look at getting a king size bed. I don't know how we'll fit it in the room and still be able to move, but it would be worth it. If she will sleep with us without nursing, then that's wonderful. But we don't fit, not even close, in the queen. I wake up feeling like I slept on a park bench, I'm so cramped and squished. So a bigger bed would be needed. 

 

So that's our big news! We may turn into a co-sleeping family after all!

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JJ: Hooray for Co-sleeping!

 

MW: Stairs . . . once DS could go up and down them well on his own, I stopped worrying. That was around 2, but he didn't have stairs until then either (like inside the house stairs). Norah has gone up one step, freaked out, and went back down again.

 

A cruise without kids?! OMG yeah . . .  probably 3 years :(

 

Ultrasound later this morning . . . . woot!

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Oh, I've always wanted to go on a cruise. I even booked one for us once. Then I got scared of tidal waves and cancelled it. lol.gif

I can always tell when my dh is mad at me because he doesn't make my coffee in the morning. The thing about his cleaning is that it never really is. All he does is "pick up." He goes around the house and creates neat little stacks of various stuff. He doesn't actually sweep or vacuum or mop or a scrub a toilet. I've been asking him since he came home from that one deployment to this house to pick up and move the couch so I can clean underneath it. The way it's built, if you slide it, it drags everything underneath with it. He has still not done that.

The issue isn't that he does this. It's the attitude he has about it. He thinks he has to do it or it will never get done and then he expects me to thank him for it. Um, not gonna happen. If you want something done, then do it and feel good about it but don't go around trying to make everyone else feel bad about it. It's not a gift if it comes with strings attached. KWIM?

JJ ~ joy.gif for some sleep! Hopefully, this will work for you guys. When we had the queen with Ethan we put a twin mattress next to it rather than getting a king because we figured he'd use the twin eventually when he got older. We're still waiting on that and have gotten a king mattress in the meantime. lol.gif
post #92 of 293
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Ultrasound later this morning . . . . woot!

Can't wait to read the news!
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MW: Stairs . . . once DS could go up and down them well on his own, I stopped worrying.

Yeah, that's my thing. What is being able to do it well? He's been able to go up for several months now and he's been climbing down off the bed and couch for a while, too. I watched him go up and down the stairs several times yesterday. He didn't slip or fall once. I'm still not 100% confident with him doing it without someone there. It sure would be nice to not have to worry about him going upstairs, though.

That's another thing that's been bugging me about dh. I like to give the kids as much freedom to roam as is safe. I don't worry about them pulling cans out of the cupboard or whatever. DH is the opposite. He likes to contain them as much as possible. For example, he took D upstairs but shut him in the playroom and then wondered why he was fussing the whole time and got annoyed. Well, geez, he wanted to explore. When I asked dh said he did that so that D couldn't get into the bedrooms but there's nothing in the bedrooms that are dangerous. I let him wander everywhere upstairs. I only shut the bathroom doors because I never know when someone might leave the toilet seat up and he likes to unroll all the toilet paper.

It's like we're coming at things from opposite directions. I can't seem to get him to understand that it's better to give the kids as much freedom as possible and that he doesn't have to thwart them at every turn. It reminds of me people who think they are supposed to not let kids do anything. It's like he thinks he has to control their every move. Do you all know what I'm talking about?
post #93 of 293
Yes MW, my mom and sister are like that. It drives me crazy. It's stifling to the kids and more work for them! My mom put my nieces in the stroller to walk ten steps across the street in to the park. My big girls were there and could have helped with holding hands ect but she took ten mins to set up the double stroller, made the girls sit down and buckle to walk literally 30 seconds. So strange! I'm always the parent getting the stink eye at the park because I have Ava stripped down to her diaper splashing and playing in the water wall and the other parents want their kids to keep their shoes, sun hats, shirts, etc on. The kids look at Ava and are like WTF? Hahaha!
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Yay for cosleeping babies who sleep better!!  Good luck, JJ.  I hope your DH comes around and doesn't mind.  I know DH loves waking up to snuggles from the kids. I really wish he didn't snore so badly so he could come back in bed with me and Finn.  I'm kind of already dreading sleeping together with just him once finn is out in his own bed!  But I guess at that point I can use ear plugs!

 

MW - I totally see what you're saying.  I wonder if it's b/c he needs to feel in control, and you just don't.  You know things will work out and you see no point in controlling children.  His job might have a lot to do with that.  He is always under someone's thumb, or someone is under his, and he sees/knows that is the only way to avoid chaos.  He believes in that the same way you believe in what you are doing.

I don't know what you can do to reach a middle ground.

And I do know what you mean about the huffy attitude while picking up.  DH does the same thing with making little piles!!  Ugh, it's infuriating.

 

My DH also decided he doesn't like the look of the trash can in front of the house.  So.  He put it in the back yard all the way around in the back where it can't be seen.  Makes it about 30 times more difficult for me not only to take the trash out from the kitchen, but now I can't just drag it to the curb from the front by the garage.  I need to pull it all the way around the whole house (and this thing is HEAVY, it's the kind the machine picks up and dumps).  I gave him some crap about it.  He was also watering the lawn and complaining that the garbage can was leaving tracks from where it's killing his precious grass from dragging it around.  I looked at him and said, "Are you serious? You care more about the look in front of the house than the fact it's killing the grass you worked so hard on back here!?"  It needs to go back where it was.  Maybe I can bedazzle it so it isn't so hideous.  winky.gif  Or maybe knit a cover for it!  Haha! 

 

Kat - yay for u/s!!  Ready to hear when this baby is coming!!

 

MW - stairs - he's bound to fall now and then, but if he's got it, then I wouldn't worry too much.  Trust your gut.  If you think a few more weeks could guarantee less accidents, then wait.

 

I would love a tropical beach vacation w/you ladies!!  Tho - I'm not into cruises.  My ILs are trying to talk us into the Disney cruise in a few years and we are just hesistant to do it.  Food aside, we like to explore, and is there really that much to do on a ship?  I'd rather be in a country or location that I could have more freedom and possibilities.  Ykwim?

 

Ahhh - going to get some more coffee and wake Nora up.  BBL!

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I'm always getting the looks for letting my kids play outside without shoes. I go without shoes most of the time myself. One more reason why Ryan calls me a hippy.

Carrie ~ My dh does stuff like that without thinking about how it will affect me. He put a magnetic lock on the pantry of our house in Hawaii to keep Ethan out of it. As soon as he left I pulled it off. It may not have been a pain if you only need to get into the pantry once or twice a day like he did but when you need to get into it 100 times a day like I did it was a major pita! Once he also locked all of his tools up before leaving on deployment and didn't leave me a key or tell me where to find it or anything else. I could not do any home repairs while he was gone. There are so many little things that he's oblivious to because he's not here. I tell him over and over to not undo anything I have done. If I have done it, it's for a reason. I don't do things without thinking about them like he does.

I think that's why he does the containment thing with the kids. It's just what he had always heard and seen growing up and he hasn't thought beyond it. What's the true purpose? Is it really necessary? Are there other ways to handle the situation?
post #96 of 293
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That's a lot of cool pirate stuff. Are you going to do all of it? How did your friend make those bottle labels?
Funny that you think cupcakes are easier than cakes. I'm the opposite. I think cupcakes are a pain and cakes are so much easier.

 

Pretty much all of it, I think.  It's not really that much, and not much extra stuff.  I'm going to have a Jolly Roger tattoo station and have a bunch of temporary pirate tattoos, eye patches, and maybe (maybe) foam swords for the kids to take home.  I don't want to do a "goody bag" but I might pick up a few more little things that the kids can take home with them.

 

I keep trying to sit down and come up with a guest list but I keep getting distracted!  I think there will be 5 little kids and a few babies, plus all their folks plus our family.  Did I tell you?  I think Diane is coming up from Maryland for it.  faint.gif

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All he does is "pick up." He goes around the house and creates neat little stacks of various stuff. He doesn't actually sweep or vacuum or mop or a scrub a toilet. I've been asking him since he came home from that one deployment to this house to pick up and move the couch so I can clean underneath it. The way it's built, if you slide it, it drags everything underneath with it. He has still not done that.
The issue isn't that he does this. It's the attitude he has about it. He thinks he has to do it or it will never get done and then he expects me to thank him for it. Um, not gonna happen. If you want something done, then do it and feel good about it but don't go around trying to make everyone else feel bad about it. It's not a gift if it comes with strings attached. KWIM?
JJ ~ joy.gif for some sleep! Hopefully, this will work for you guys. When we had the queen with Ethan we put a twin mattress next to it rather than getting a king because we figured he'd use the twin eventually when he got older. We're still waiting on that and have gotten a king mattress in the meantime. lol.gif

What is it with boys and cleaning? DH doesn't "pick up" like that, he's more the type that I'll say "Ok, let's clean today. Can you take that small pile of tools on the table and put them away downstairs?" And he'll take them down... and then come back 2 hours later, and be like "I installed the light switch!!"  and expect oodles and oodles of praise for this wonderful thing he did. Meanwhile I'm like uhhh yeah, thanks for helping me clean up. The main floor is done. *sigh* Why do they feel like if they pick up one toy they need a parade? lol

 

A queen and a twin definitely wouldn't fit in the room! lol Although I have heard some families that set that up perfectly. 

 

And she slept horribly last night. That's not good for my experiment! lol. She wasn't nursing, but she would latch, and then just bite, or start playing. She spent most of the night kicking herself in circles around the bed, and waving her arms around-- but not sleeping. All three of us slept horribly, and she's been melting down this morning because she's exhausted. 

 

 

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Ultrasound later this morning . . . . woot!

Oooh exciting! I don't remember, are you guys going to find out gender with this pregnancy. I'm assuming it'll be too early at this ultrasound anyways though. Exciting none the less!

 

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That's another thing that's been bugging me about dh. I like to give the kids as much freedom to roam as is safe. I don't worry about them pulling cans out of the cupboard or whatever. DH is the opposite. He likes to contain them as much as possible. For example, he took D upstairs but shut him in the playroom and then wondered why he was fussing the whole time and got annoyed. Well, geez, he wanted to explore. When I asked dh said he did that so that D couldn't get into the bedrooms but there's nothing in the bedrooms that are dangerous. I let him wander everywhere upstairs. I only shut the bathroom doors because I never know when someone might leave the toilet seat up and he likes to unroll all the toilet paper.
It's like we're coming at things from opposite directions. I can't seem to get him to understand that it's better to give the kids as much freedom as possible and that he doesn't have to thwart them at every turn. It reminds of me people who think they are supposed to not let kids do anything. It's like he thinks he has to control their every move. Do you all know what I'm talking about?

DH and I were just talking about that this morning. One of the things that comes up in my AP group a lot is the idea of not restricting kids from things just because you're "supposed to". So yeah, if there's something non-toyish that she wants to play with, she can play with it as long as there's no good reason for her not to. So she plays in the cupboard, and she plays with the newspapers, and we allow her to play with the phone as long as she's not pressing buttons, etc etc. Too often we say no simply because we think we're supposed to, even though there's no real reason for them not to have the thing they want. 

 

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Yay for cosleeping babies who sleep better!!  Good luck, JJ.  I hope your DH comes around and doesn't mind.  I know DH loves waking up to snuggles from the kids. I really wish he didn't snore so badly so he could come back in bed with me and Finn.  I'm kind of already dreading sleeping together with just him once finn is out in his own bed!  But I guess at that point I can use ear plugs!

 

 

 

Maybe I can bedazzle it so it isn't so hideous.  winky.gif  Or maybe knit a cover for it!  Haha! 

Spray paint it tie dye or something!! lol

 

DH actually in theory is more of a push for co-sleeping than I am. Because she sleeps on my half of the bed entirely, DH still gets his (more than) half, so it doesn't disturb him at all. It's me that ends up huddling on the edge of the bed, trying not to fall off, and uncomfortable. He is not however, supportive of us buying a new bed. It sucks because our current queen is 4 years old, and still in great condition- it was a pillowtop bed, and quite a nice one, but from costco, AND on sale, so it was under $500. From what I've seen, a new king would be closer to $1000. I didn't realize costco didn't carry the same bed we have now in a king :( That could greatly effect our ability to buy a new one. I can't see us dropping $1000 on a new bed when we still have a basement waiting to be finished. But... we'll see. No decisions until the week is over. 

 

Oh, and I'm not a cruise person either. But I could totally do a hot destination! I want so badly to go back to Dominican or Cuba again. But DH prefers to travel alone (as in, he's never travelled with friends and family, and won't even try...) so we probably wouldn't go as a group. *pout*

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And she slept horribly last night. That's not good for my experiment! lol. She wasn't nursing, but she would latch, and then just bite, or start playing. She spent most of the night kicking herself in circles around the bed, and waving her arms around-- but not sleeping. All three of us slept horribly, and she's been melting down this morning because she's exhausted. 

 

I know it sucks but it's probably developmental.  You will get thru it!  We all just did!!  

 

I'm chalking up Finn's rough sleep to the whole walking thing.  I think right around this time, he's tranistioning to one nap, wanting to walk, talking up a storm, changing almost DAILY let alone weekly.  So.  I have to just suck it up.  I know this will pass!!

 

I thought of another one.  When he's eating, after every bite, he says, "Yum!"  it's the cutest thing.

 

We did OK last night.  I think only 3 wake ups and right back to sleep w/nursing!

 

Yes!  I'll spray paint that darn can!   LOL!

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Sounds like fun, Carrie. Who's Diane?

JJ ~ Tell your dh the trip would be very low pressure, if any, to socialize. We could all get our own rooms and no one would be expected to do anything with anyone else if he didn't want. I'm an introvert so I need a lot of down private time so I totally understand being hesitant to do anything like that.

Annie ~ I'm afraid your idea of a cruise has been voted down. greensad.gif Maybe you could take a cruise to our destination. smile.gif
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Too often we say no simply because we think we're supposed to, even though there's no real reason for them not to have the thing they want.

Exactly! I had a talk with dh the other day about how he always starts off with a long list of why we can't do something that the kids want to do. He never just says, "Yeah, let's do that." It's not that he doesn't like to do things because he'll do just about anything I come up with whenever I tell him to do it. If I got up Saturday morning and told him that I wanted to drive to the mountains, he'd do it without a second thought even if he had other plans. I don't understand why he's the opposite with the kids. Even if they come up with something kind of crazy or that is way too expensive for us to do, I think it would be better to say something like, "That's a tricky one. Let's see what we can come up with to make that happen."
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Oh my bad. Diane is my oldest friend, the one I've kind of grown away from over this past year. She did cio with her baby and we had some trouble reconciling our differences. I'm hoping they come, it'll be good to see her and her little girl, but I worry drama will ensue! And there's no way I can tell her her douchebag of a husband isn't allowed, lol!



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