July Pagan Family Thread - Page 2

[LionessMom]

i am posting and running. it hurts to sit on the puter right now. lol. and i want to spend my time later writing my birth story! 

Owen Lewis Brade was born July 6th at 1:49 am. a whole 9lb 6oz and 21 3/4 in long. Midwife said it was one of the biggest heads she ever measured! i had no tears or problems. he tried to come out with his hand by his head but the midwife moved it out of the way for me. it was intense and moved along real quick. i will post the link to my blog after i get around to typing it out. in the meantime, here is a pic DH and I took!

[Maiasaura]

Aww! He is so cute! Congrats, mama, and family

M made it! A week off of alcohol. He's at his meeting right now. I'm not feeling all that well, but it's moontime and I didn't sleep really well last night. It's only 77 or so out, right now, but it's 87% humidity and I have the A/C cranked. I wanted to go out there, but no way. I'll enjoy the prettiness from in here. Dang.

[vydalea]

WELCOME TO THE WORLD, OWEN LEWIS!! 

He is adorable, Lioness!  I'm glad you are well.  YAYAYAY!! Congrats, Mama!!   

Originally Posted by Maiasaura 

Oh, vydalea... You poor thing! When can you touch people? You can touch your family, just not kiss them, right? Man...that would so stink if I couldn't slobber all over my boy.

M made it! A week off of alcohol. He's at his meeting right now. I'm not feeling all that well, but it's moontime and I didn't sleep really well last night. It's only 77 or so out, right now, but it's 87% humidity and I have the A/C cranked. I wanted to go out there, but no way. I'll enjoy the prettiness from in here. Dang.

 

 

Thanks for the hugs...Z has it now so at least I can kiss all over her now and DH has come down with it, too.  My blisters are all healing so I'm hoping that Z's get better soon.  She spent all night last night crying this sad, pathetic cry.  poor boo! 

 

YAY, M!  Keep it up!  

 

I took Z outback this morning and let her loose with finger paints.  She ended up covered, of course, but had the best time.  She said "mama, I'm covered in scunseen and ready for the beach" hahaha.  It got her mind off her pain for a bit so it was great.  I'm hoping we can make it to 1 when she can get more ibuprofen.  *ommmmmm*  

[revolting]

Originally Posted by vydalea 

Does anyone here have a bike that they travel around town on?  I'm thinking of getting one and wondering what you mamas think or if you have any experience with them.  They have the kid carrier for the front of the bike now and I think DD would love it.  

My bike was stolen a few weeks ago , but I had been traveling on a Mountain bike with an iBert in front for my two year old. Both of my kids really loved the iBert. I'm not comfortable traveling with the kids in a trailer after someone hit my kids in the trailer (they were fine).

Originally Posted by Maiasaura 

Unless we move. I really, REALLY want to be moving. Please send vibes for people to look at this house! Can't sell it w/o people looking

Praying for your house to sell!

Originally Posted by LionessMom 

i am posting and running. it hurts to sit on the puter right now. lol. and i want to spend my time later writing my birth story! 

Owen Lewis Brade was born July 6th at 1:49 am. a whole 9lb 6oz and 21 3/4 in long. Midwife said it was one of the biggest heads she ever measured! i had no tears or problems. he tried to come out with his hand by his head but the midwife moved it out of the way for me. it was intense and moved along real quick. i will post the link to my blog after i get around to typing it out. in the meantime, here is a pic DH and I took!

Happy Birth Day, baby! And congrats to you, Lioness! What a beautiful little baby. I'm glad to hear the birth went well. How is life with yet another kid in the home? How are you recovering?

Poor Z. Sending prayers for a speedy recovery!

Well mamas, we made an offer on the house. And now my five year old is talking about not wanting to go to school after all. Oh, the fickleness of five year olds! I know nothing about the homeschooling community out there at all, but I have to say, the idea of leaving my five year old with strangers terrifies me, so maybe it's all for the best. We offered a LOT less than they listed, but with how crappy the market is, we'll take the gamble. Part of me would love to skip the next few months of my life: to know how this pregnancy will turn out; to know where we will be living; to know what I'm going to do about my eldest's education, at least for this year... Lots of change!

[mary3mama]

Originally Posted by LionessMom 

Owen Lewis Brade was born July 6th at 1:49 am. 

        

Congratulations! What a cutie!!

[LionessMom]

Originally Posted by revolting 

Happy Birth Day, baby! And congrats to you, Lioness! What a beautiful little baby. I'm glad to hear the birth went well. How is life with yet another kid in the home? How are you recovering?

life isnt much different except for the new member. i get the same amount of sleep and do the same amount of work. lol. except i get to play with cute newborn dipes and clothes and babywearing and breastfeeding. :) the girls cant keep their hnds off of him so he spends lots of time awake and nursing during the day. 

i am healing well. faster than last time even. by the end of the day on the 6th i was folding laundry. i am still not doing heavy stuff or dishes or anything. and DH has been cooking awesome dinners for me. but i am back to cleaning stuff again. i couldnt sit still and not do it. DH has to tell me to sit down and rest bc everytime the baby falls asleep i am doing light cleaning. i should be napping but i feel good and get good sleep at night. 

i had my placenta encapsulated. it is too early to tell if it is helping. i am doing the same work this time as i was doing last time. but i quit bleeding almost right away this time. and my milk came in a day earlier. i am using a belly binder. it makes everything inside feel more supported. i love it. i wish i had known about it last time. 

[revolting]

Originally Posted by LionessMom 

life isnt much different except for the new member. i get the same amount of sleep and do the same amount of work. lol. except i get to play with cute newborn dipes and clothes and babywearing and breastfeeding. :) the girls cant keep their hnds off of him so he spends lots of time awake and nursing during the day. 

i am healing well. faster than last time even. by the end of the day on the 6th i was folding laundry. i am still not doing heavy stuff or dishes or anything. and DH has been cooking awesome dinners for me. but i am back to cleaning stuff again. i couldnt sit still and not do it. DH has to tell me to sit down and rest bc everytime the baby falls asleep i am doing light cleaning. i should be napping but i feel good and get good sleep at night. 

i had my placenta encapsulated. it is too early to tell if it is helping. i am doing the same work this time as i was doing last time. but i quit bleeding almost right away this time. and my milk came in a day earlier. i am using a belly binder. it makes everything inside feel more supported. i love it. i wish i had known about it last time. 

Which belly binder did you use? Thinking about doing that this time around, if I make it all the way.

[Valerie.Qc]

I'm exhausted!

Today, we celebrated DD2's birthday with some of her friends. Tomorrow, we're heading to the city to get her ears pierced. She's very proud!

[LionessMom]

Originally Posted by revolting 

Which belly binder did you use? Thinking about doing that this time around, if I make it all the way.

i bought it at gordman's in the maternity section. it says loving comfort on it. says latex free. it could be wider and it rolls on the edges sometimes but i have rolls still. 

[Maiasaura]

What are you guys having for Lammas feast?

Y'all know I am grain free and sugar free and starch free (which means no corn or potatoes or starchy veggies). I don't eat too many veggies at all, just the minimal for vitamins and low carb-- I think I keep to about under 25mg a day. No fruit, or very little. I can have maybe a 1/4c of berries in one sitting/one day.

Any ideas for me?

[vydalea]

Originally Posted by revolting 

Well mamas, we made an offer on the house. And now my five year old is talking about not wanting to go to school after all. Oh, the fickleness of five year olds! I know nothing about the homeschooling community out there at all, but I have to say, the idea of leaving my five year old with strangers terrifies me, so maybe it's all for the best. We offered a LOT less than they listed, but with how crappy the market is, we'll take the gamble. Part of me would love to skip the next few months of my life: to know how this pregnancy will turn out; to know where we will be living; to know what I'm going to do about my eldest's education, at least for this year... Lots of change!

Oh, revolting!   I wish I could give you a big ol' hug.  It is so yucky when so many gigantic life *things* are so unsure.  I will be lighting a candle for you.  It seems like these times are the ones where you have to have the most faith that everything will work out the way it's supposed to.  And hold on, little zygote (or whatever it is at this stage, I can't remember)!!!!  Keep us posted on the house!  

Originally Posted by LionessMom 

life isnt much different except for the new member. i get the same amount of sleep and do the same amount of work. lol. except i get to play with cute newborn dipes and clothes and babywearing and breastfeeding. :) the girls cant keep their hnds off of him so he spends lots of time awake and nursing during the day. 

i am healing well. faster than last time even. by the end of the day on the 6th i was folding laundry. i am still not doing heavy stuff or dishes or anything. and DH has been cooking awesome dinners for me. but i am back to cleaning stuff again. i couldnt sit still and not do it. DH has to tell me to sit down and rest bc everytime the baby falls asleep i am doing light cleaning. i should be napping but i feel good and get good sleep at night. 

i had my placenta encapsulated. it is too early to tell if it is helping. i am doing the same work this time as i was doing last time. but i quit bleeding almost right away this time. and my milk came in a day earlier. i am using a belly binder. it makes everything inside feel more supported. i love it. i wish i had known about it last time. 

You are amazing.  okay?  I have one kid and I am a whirlwind of wild.  So glad you are healing well and that things seem to be moving right along.  HOORAY!  

Originally Posted by Valerie.Qc 

I'm exhausted!

Today, we celebrated DD2's birthday with some of her friends. Tomorrow, we're heading to the city to get her ears pierced. She's very proud!

Happy birthday to her!  Okay, now I can ask: how did the piercing go?  

Originally Posted by Maiasaura 

What are you guys having for Lammas feast?

Y'all know I am grain free and sugar free and starch free (which means no corn or potatoes or starchy veggies). I don't eat too many veggies at all, just the minimal for vitamins and low carb-- I think I keep to about under 25mg a day. No fruit, or very little. I can have maybe a 1/4c of berries in one sitting/one day.

Any ideas for me?

I think Z and I will make a loaf of bread and then do a special harvest in the garden for dinner veggies to grill.  August 1 is also the anniversary of the first night DH and I hung out.  I wouldn't say it was a "date" but we went with some friends to see a local band play and then ended up sitting up all night talking (yes, just talking) *sigh*  So, it's an extra special day for us.  Somehow I consider it more important than our wedding anniversary.   The night the Universe gave me one of the best gifts of my life.  

Update: Z is feeling so much better today with the HFMD.  The last 2 days were helacious - she was in so much pain barely even drinking anything but she spend most of yesterday sleeping and I think we have turned a good corner here! hooray! 

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[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by vydalea I have one kid and I am a whirlwind of wild.

August 1 is also the anniversary of the first night DH and I hung out.  I wouldn't say it was a "date" but we went with some friends to see a local band play and then ended up sitting up all night talking (yes, just talking) *sigh*  So, it's an extra special day for us.  Somehow I consider it more important than our wedding anniversary.

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YAY that y'all are feeling better!

Yeah, what you said. I have one kid and I am just up to my ears in whirlwind

I have my diary from back in high school, and April 4th 1974 is the first day M and I declared ourselves a couple. Then his older dd had the audacity to get herself born on that day in '80, so it's her  day now, and M will never even consider getting married on that day because his dd has taken it over. Dang.

[revolting]

Originally Posted by Maiasaura 

What are you guys having for Lammas feast?

Y'all know I am grain free and sugar free and starch free (which means no corn or potatoes or starchy veggies). I don't eat too many veggies at all, just the minimal for vitamins and low carb-- I think I keep to about under 25mg a day. No fruit, or very little. I can have maybe a 1/4c of berries in one sitting/one day.

Any ideas for me?

If we do Lammas, which is a big if, I'm going to ignore the grain aspect, since I don't think that makes sense for us regionally, and focus instead on trying to create an exclusively seasonal meal from our CSA box and Farmers market. But...I've been so nauseous lately that all I've really wanted to eat are things like pancakes and other quick breads, so I'm not sure if I'm going to do this.

Originally Posted by vydalea 

Oh, revolting!   I wish I could give you a big ol' hug.  It is so yucky when so many gigantic life *things* are so unsure.  I will be lighting a candle for you.  It seems like these times are the ones where you have to have the most faith that everything will work out the way it's supposed to.  And hold on, little zygote (or whatever it is at this stage, I can't remember)!!!!  Keep us posted on the house!  

Update: Z is feeling so much better today with the HFMD.  The last 2 days were helacious - she was in so much pain barely even drinking anything but she spend most of yesterday sleeping and I think we have turned a good corner here! hooray! 

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Thank you!

And yay for her feeling better. It must have been hard seeing your little so sick. What a relief!

Originally Posted by Maiasaura 

YAY that y'all are feeling better!

Yeah, what you said. I have one kid and I am just up to my ears in whirlwind

I have my diary from back in high school, and April 4th 1974 is the first day M and I declared ourselves a couple. Then his older dd had the audacity to get herself born on that day in '80, so it's her  day now, and M will never even consider getting married on that day because his dd has taken it over. Dang.

I don't have any of my old diaries from high school, I don't think. I think reading that stuff would make me cringe! That said, my partner and I celebrate our anniversary of when we first considered ourselves committed every year, too. We didn't get married on that date mostly because I got married for insurance and wanted to get on his insurance ASAP.

Well, we agreed on a price with the seller for the house. Yesterday, the seller called and said that they had gotten a higher offer but that the sellers had an FHA loan, so they still preferred to work with us, since we'd take the house "as-is," but that their final offer was higher now with this other offer on the table than it had been yesterday. I had no idea what I wanted to do, so we told our agent to tell them that we'd get back to them tomorrow despite my realtor thought waiting was a bad idea if we still wanted the house. Well, the seller apparently really didn't want to do the FHA loan and got nervous we'd back out, so they decided to take our last offer (which was lower than I really expected them to go, I was just trying to negotiate them down). So, we still have a home inspection, but mamas, I think we've really bought a house! Yay!

[vydalea]

Originally Posted by Maiasaura 
YAY that y'all are feeling better!

Yeah, what you said. I have one kid and I am just up to my ears in whirlwind

I have my diary from back in high school, and April 4th 1974 is the first day M and I declared ourselves a couple. Then his older dd had the audacity to get herself born on that day in '80, so it's her  day now, and M will never even consider getting married on that day because his dd has taken it over. Dang.

Thanks, mama!  She ate some very small broccoli florets from the garden this morning (and let me weed for an hour, which is awesome!) and then she just ate a cheese slice.  WAHHOOOO!!  that's the first she's eaten in 4 days.  don't worry, she's been having water and milk... but I have never been so happy to see her eat a slice of cheese. hahaha.  

4/4/74!   I love it!!!  I'm a number nerd sometimes.  Like I was born on 10-10 and Z was born on 5-10-10 and I think that's super cool.  I have a gigantic box of old diaries and journals from 4th grade on.  I wish I journaled more now so that someday I could look back on all this craziness!  It's always fun to see how far you've come or the things that are so "you" that just never change and you wouldn't want them to.  If that makes sense. 

Originally Posted by revolting 

And yay for her feeling better. It must have been hard seeing your little so sick. What a relief!

I don't have any of my old diaries from high school, I don't think. I think reading that stuff would make me cringe! That said, my partner and I celebrate our anniversary of when we first considered ourselves committed every year, too. We didn't get married on that date mostly because I got married for insurance and wanted to get on his insurance ASAP.

Well, we agreed on a price with the seller for the house. Yesterday, the seller called and said that they had gotten a higher offer but that the sellers had an FHA loan, so they still preferred to work with us, since we'd take the house "as-is," but that their final offer was higher now with this other offer on the table than it had been yesterday. I had no idea what I wanted to do, so we told our agent to tell them that we'd get back to them tomorrow despite my realtor thought waiting was a bad idea if we still wanted the house. Well, the seller apparently really didn't want to do the FHA loan and got nervous we'd back out, so they decided to take our last offer (which was lower than I really expected them to go, I was just trying to negotiate them down). So, we still have a home inspection, but mamas, I think we've really bought a house! Yay!I

I think it's nice to have a date that is just for you two as a couple.  I feel like DH and I officially got married mostly for everyone else (and to have a big party celebrating LOVE with everyone we love there, and truly it was a 4 day party) but it wasn't like I felt some big change after that day.  Like *wow, NOW I really finally feel committed* haha. also, i'm not one of those people that has lived for the day they were married. You know what I mean?  I cherish it and I am so glad that I our family and friends were able to bear witness but i am also glad that we have our special day where we just acknowledge how far we've come. hahaha.  

HOOORAY and CONGRATS on the house!!!  Good for you for going with your gut and taking the time to figure out what you wanted!  WAHOO!!!   How exciting!  Will you post pictures when/if you take some?  It just sounds so wonderful!!!!!!!! 

Anyone have any fun plans for the weekend??

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by revolting I don't have any of my old diaries from high school, I don't think. I think reading that stuff would make me cringe! That said, my partner and I celebrate our anniversary of when we first considered ourselves committed every year, too. We didn't get married on that date mostly because I got married for insurance and wanted to get on his insurance ASAP.

Well, we agreed on a price with the seller for the house. Yesterday, the seller called and said that they had gotten a higher offer but that the sellers had an FHA loan, so they still preferred to work with us, since we'd take the house "as-is," but that their final offer was higher now with this other offer on the table than it had been yesterday. I had no idea what I wanted to do, so we told our agent to tell them that we'd get back to them tomorrow despite my realtor thought waiting was a bad idea if we still wanted the house. Well, the seller apparently really didn't want to do the FHA loan and got nervous we'd back out, so they decided to take our last offer (which was lower than I really expected them to go, I was just trying to negotiate them down). So, we still have a home inspection, but mamas, I think we've really bought a house! Yay!

Awesome about the house! YAY you!

I didn't realize I had the diary, either, till a couple years ago when I started The Big Declutter in preparation for getting the house ready for sale. Pretty cool, though, huh? I only wrote a page a day back then, and omg it is so obvious I have ADD Every sentence is not remotely connected to the one prior.

Well, our current wedding date choices are these:

October 9th, because that's the day we reconnected by phone, back in '09. We talked for three hours that first phone call, he called me back at 10am the next day (the only reason I got off the phone was cause it was so freaking way past my bedtime). We already knew, though it would have been incredulous to say, that we were head over heels and that that had never gone away in 35 years.

Beltane (May 1st), just because. It's close to April 4th but it's a love-holiday for Pagans and he's down with that

April 22 (or 23, I forgot) because that's....well, because he is free to marry then. In 2015. And that's close to April 4th, too.

March 7th, because it's the anniversary of our handfasting in 2010, but the date itself has no meaning whatever. It was just what day was available, when I was visiting that time.

I like October 9th best, I think, followed by May 1st. Things may change over the next 2-1/2 years. We shall see! I don't think he cares, but he is good at remembering dates, so it won't matter-- I'll still get flowers, maybe

[Maiasaura]

Mamas....I am so freaked. I'm relieved, but freaked.

Last night, M was going through some kind of severe psychotic episode and I hung with him on the cam and the phone. He stayed on the cam while he called his dd and tried to call his counselor. He did up his dose of the Thorazine, I think-- he was supposed to be on the higher dose, but had lowered it by half a good while ago, because he thought he didn't have the money, and now he does, so he upped again. He is paranoid schizophrenic and was hearing stuff again. Bad stuff. Voices telling him to hurt himself.

He kept saying things like "It's really bad and I know I am going to hurt myself", and wanted to walk to the hospital, but around 9pm he started yawning and I thought he was in the clear to go to bed.

Well, this morning, I thought I would let him sleep in because of the meds, and so didn't call till 9am. No answer. I called every half hour until like 11:30 when I started to freak and I contacted his dd, and a friend, both through FB messaging. His dd finally called me back and she said she wasn't worried, this happens all the time. Well, no it bloody well does not-- he ALWAYS calls me, no matter what. She'd called 911 and they came and broke down his door--- and he was not there. Not there!

I was like OMG he wandered off in a Thorazine stupor and got hurt or killed.

Long story short, it's 2pm and she just found him. He's at the hospital, in the mental ward, and they are not letting him have visitors or contact for a couple of days. He does not have his phone with him. Which, the bill is due tomorrow anyway and it will get cut off.

His dd talked to him and he said he'll call me tonight *cross fingers*-- apparently he thinks he's just going to get up and walk on out of there. He was drinking. I don't know if he lied about the Thorazine or not, or if he drank ON it, but I'm just relieved he's alive.
 

And here I have tix to go see him on the 26th.

I don't know what to do-- I guess there's nothing I can do, but I am breathing again. I didn't realize how much I have been holding my breath all day.

Jesum Crow. Please light candles for him, or say prayers, or whatever you are led to do. I love him so freaking much.

I really, really hope he calls me tonight. I really really do. I have had such horrid thoughts running through my head. Funeral thoughts. We're not legally married. I have no legal rights to him whatever. Not in NC, anyway, because of that stupid amendment that passed...I wonder about MA.

[Maiasaura]

Here is the update:

I talked to him! He is in a terrible way It was his counselor that brought him there. And just dropped him off and took off! I don't know how long he will be there. His phone is with him, but he's not allowed to use it, or can't get a signal, or something. He slept in the hallway in a chair-- does not have a room.

I said, to the hospital people, I am his wife and I am out of town and just found out through his daughter, about him, and they just put me on through!

He said "That's what I get for listening to people"-- referring to me, and his dd, about calling his counselor. "That's what I get when people try to 'help'". You know-- perhaps, M, you oughtta look at this as a wake-up call. Think? People aren't trying to ruin your life. They really are trying to HELP you.

So he has no idea when he can get out. He is so afraid he will lose his job if he can't show up on Monday. I told him his dd will walk over there (she's half a minute up the road) on Monday and let them know he is in the hospital if he's not out by then.

He's going to be livid when he finds out that 911 was there. Unless his dd already told him. Oh f**king well. People really do love you, M, do you not get this yet???

I am just so relieved.

[Aubergine68]

I am so rarely on MDC anymore, but I could not pop by without saying Hi - and hugs, Maia - that is a lot to deal with. Holding M. in my thoughts, wishing him healing.  I know you have a lot of experience with AA, so this is not a new idea to you, but - don't forget,  ya gotta  take care of *yourself *first, eh, Maia?  Or you will not be of any use to anyone that you love Lots of people care about YOU, too, Lady.

[LionessMom]

yes Maia- take care of yourself! you have been such a huge help to him already! keep taking care of yourself as well. i hope he sees how much people care about him. sometimes it takes a while for it to sink in when people are stuck in a one way of thinking. 

[vydalea]

Maiasaura!!!!  WOW.  What a wild 24 hours.  How are you doing?  How is M?  I am sending lots of healing energy both his way and yours.  I don't even know what else to say - it seems like it should be a big wake up call for him and I hope that he is where he needs to be.   

We are totally healed from our HFM now.  This weekend I bought a bike - it's a cruiser that's a dark aquamarine color.  I'm madly in love with it.  I also went to a stand up paddling class that one of my close friends was running.  It was awesome.  After a week cooped up in the house I think I just went crazy with needing to get out and DO SOMETHING.  ha!  

This week is the music festival we've attended for the last 13 years.  Lots of bluegrass.  Z is staying with her grandparents on Friday night so I can see my favorite band, John Brown's Body (reggae) whom I haven't seen in almost 3 years!  I used to seek them out and see them at least 3 times a year.  I'm so excited!  I hope I can make it to 1130pm at night, though! hahaha.  I've already been planning my nap/coffee regimen for the day!  ha!