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when are you telling/did you tell your older kids?

post #1 of 14
Thread Starter 

DD is 2.5 and SUPER aware. I'd love to hear about when and how you told your older kids either this time, or in the past!

post #2 of 14

DH and I took our boys (6.5 and 3.5) out to dinner and told them.  

The younger one has been wanting another sibling for a while now and a friend of ours recently had a baby so he has been around a new little one and was loving making silly faces at baby who smiled back at him.  He was super excited and wanted to pull my shirt up to see if he could see it growing yet.  :)

My older one, who already has a younger sibling to deal with, was more concerned about ANOTHER person to share his stuff with.  :)  But once my belly started showing he got really excited, too.

 

Honestly, I don't even remember how we told older DS when I got pregnant with his brother...

 

I didn't plan on waiting until I was in the "safe" time frame cause I know if something goes wrong I'm going to be a wreck and they'll need to know what's going on.  Plus, it's really a part of life that, if I have to experience it, they're going to be along for the ride.

post #3 of 14

we were waiting to tell the kids until we'd seen/heard a HB  - that was monday at 8 weeks, so we told them yesterday  - they are 6, 4, and 21 months.  obviously only the older 2 'get it' ..  they are both very excited. we took them out for ice cream and told them and then let them tell my parents .. the only thing i'm worried about with them is my 4 yr old really really wants a brother.. i'm going to have to work on explaining how we don't get to pick what we have .. 

 

Last time, when i had a 4 yr old and a 20-something month old, we told when i was about 14-15 weeks .. our oldest was in denial .. it was weird.. like she didn't believe us until my belly got big. 

post #4 of 14

We told ours immediately. They are incredibly excited!

post #5 of 14
Ee told the kids at about 6 weeks.... when we told my parents. Dd1 seems a little excited. Dd2 doesn't get it. It is funny because dd1 was a few months younger than dd2 is now when I got pregnant and she really seemed to understand. She would always touch my belly when we talked about the baby. Now dd2 just calls herself the baby.
post #6 of 14

We told them when we told the closest family members, at 7 weeks or so. We were spending time with my in-laws and DH can't keep a secret. They've been slightly excited and asking questions now and then, and very understanding about my tiredness and nausea, though DS2 (age 3) envies that I get to just eat cereal for dinner when my nausea gets bad, and says "me too cereal, belly hurts!"

post #7 of 14

We want to wait a because my oldest, who is 4, cries at everything these days so if something were to happen to the baby she would be devestated. She already loves being a big sister so we aren't worried about that. : ) I have a dating-ultrasound on the 13th so maybe we will tell them after that. DD1 is already suspicious I think - especially since I already look pregnant.

post #8 of 14
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odinsmama - i agree! we're waiting, not because we wouldn't want DD to know if something happened, but because i'm SURE she would tell everyone we meet. she LOVES babies and birth. we have a book called "my puppy is born" and she's obsessed with it. she's asked multiple pregnant friends if their baby will be "born in a thin sac" and if they will "chew the 'bilical cord and lick their baby clean." LOL, you should see their faces! so, it's not so much about waiting for a "safe" time and more about waiting until a point when we'd want everyone to know. :)

post #9 of 14
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Originally Posted by whoabethy View Post

odinsmama - i agree! we're waiting, not because we wouldn't want DD to know if something happened, but because i'm SURE she would tell everyone we meet. she LOVES babies and birth. we have a book called "my puppy is born" and she's obsessed with it. she's asked multiple pregnant friends if their baby will be "born in a thin sac" and if they will "chew the 'bilical cord and lick their baby clean." LOL, you should see their faces! so, it's not so much about waiting for a "safe" time and more about waiting until a point when we'd want everyone to know. :)

 

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post #10 of 14

Oh, that's great, whoabethy!!  So, so funny!

My youngest still showers with me most of the time and we've had conversations about how the baby is going to come out of my vagina.  I'm just waiting for that conversation with the next pregnant lady we see, or more questions about my vagina the next time we're in a public bathroom.  

post #11 of 14

My DD keeps saying that she's going to push on my belly button and the baby will come out my vagina ROTFLMAO.gif

post #12 of 14
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Originally Posted by whoabethy View Post
we have a book called "my puppy is born" and she's obsessed with it. she's asked multiple pregnant friends if their baby will be "born in a thin sac" and if they will "chew the 'bilical cord and lick their baby clean." LOL, you should see their faces! 

 

Our reproduction book is about chickens, so DD was thinking the baby was going to crack out of my tummy like a baby chick.  When DH told her it would come out of my vagina instead, the next day she was talking about it cracking out of my vagina! yikes2.gif Ouch! that sounded even more painful! 

post #13 of 14
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Cracking vagina! Worst image ever! LOL. We'he been watching a lot of animal birth videos on youtube. I think it clarified a few things. wink1.gif
post #14 of 14

We also told our kids right away!  I have no patience and also figured that if something went wrong, I'd prefer people to know and understand WHY I'm upset.  We pretty much told everyone right away.  ;)

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