Our kids are now 3 1/2 and almost 9 and dh is *ready* to have them in their own room. If it were up to me alone, I would maybe give them a gentle push toward falling asleep in their own room, but I'm okay with them staying in our bed and I think my little guy is even a bit too young to make any kind of issue out of it. I really want them to feel welcome and comfortable with us in our bed anytime they need or want to be in there. But dh doesn't feel that way. He wants our bed back just for us. And he's not happy with them just falling asleep in their room and coming in whenever they feel like it after that.
I think it's been around six weeks now that they've fallen asleep in their room every night, but there are some nights that they are in our room by midnight, more typically they come in between 2 and 4 and a handful of times they've come in some time after dawn. To me, this seems like a sea change for them and I feel no need to push them further and I assume that as they come to terms more with the new arrangement, they'll sleep better in there and last a little longer. My little guy is still nursing, so that may be a factor, too.
Anyhow, I'm curious about how kids transition on their own or with just small nudges. I think dh is afraid that they'll just never move into their own room if we don't put our foot down. And, truthfully, it's hard for me to imagine my older one wanting to sleep in his own room ever. I still have to lay down with him for him to fall asleep and he fights hard against the idea of falling asleep alone. (That is actually an issue that I would love to resolve, much more so than where he's sleeping, if anyone has any tips for that.) So, I was wondering about others' experience with this. Or if anyone has even lasted long enough to let the kids move into their own rooms on their own initiative.