I guess our bedtime "routine" has been dictated by DD's fussiness...she's 7 weeks old now and there were a few days last week where I thought maybe we were seeing light at the end of the tunnel, but no. Still colicky. So...our routine at night is something like this: 5:30 I start looking at the clock PRAYING it's time for the older kids to go to bed because it's just enough already and I'm over being a mom, okay? (and I adore these children with every fiber of my being, for real) Around that time I'm also making dinner which means DD is being worn in the Moby or sitting in the kitchen in her bouncy seat (the point here is that I am never out of her field of vision and definitely that no one else is holding her). Dinner around 6:30-7:30 depending on how efficient I am, older kids are generally in bed by 8:30 or 9. Almost every night at 8:00 or soon after, DD3's fussy time really kicks in, so she's always in the Moby at that point. I wear her through the night time routine with the older kids and frequently she sleeps through that part (if i try to put her down though, she'll immediately kick the fussing into high gear). After that I usually take a shower with her. This is her happiest time of day - none of my kids have loved being in the water as much as she does. Seriously, I wish I could get a really good photograph of her adorable, peaceful little face in the shower. Followed by the intense grief of the water being turned off, compounded by the extreme outrage of being dried off, diapered and dressed. Mixed in there somewhere is gas and pooping. She's generally resistant to nursing around this time too - another first for me as a mom, she's my first where the boob hasn't been the font of all consolation. If she's worked up, she wants nothing to do with that. Oh well. After shower, usually there's another hour of half-hearted fussiness (sometimes it's full blown screaming, but thankfully, not as often), followed by her giving up and nursing and then she finally drifts off to sleep around 10:30/11. (As I'm typing this she's sleeping in the moby, but if I put her down, she'll be awake and angry)
Once she actually goes to sleep, she does quite well through the night - sleeps about 3-4 hours at a time, usually nurses quickly on one side and then goes back to sleep. Our sleeping arrangements suck right now. DH is on the futon in our living room and usually I'm out there with him the first half of the night, until one of the older ones wakes me up to come and sleep in the bedroom (that's usually around 3:30am...from then on I'll sleep in the big bed in the bedroom with DD2 and DD3 and DD1 in her toddler bed next to me...basically our house is all beds these days. I don't love it, but that's what it is). She walks up around 8:30or 9am for a big feed and diaper change and then usually goes back to sleep for another hr or two.
If it weren't for the colic, she'd actually be a really easy sleeper...it's just the lead-in to bedtime that leaves me wasted. And again, it's only a "routine" by virtue of the fact that it's the only thing that works for us right now.
(I haven't been on here in a long time! I miss this DDC)