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[TeamGR]

Hey,

I'm dealing with a new problem and it's making me sad. 

My lovely son wants to be held/ tickled/ kissed/ touched a lot. It makes him laugh and happy, it calms him down, it's how he wants to explore the world.  That's fine. I'm happy to hold him, wear him, kiss him a lot. And of course breast fed on demand.

The problem then is that by 8pm, when he goes to sleep. My husband wants to snuggle with me, and kiss and touch. And I want not have anything warm or skin or lips or wet or anything near me.  It's difficult. 

Anyone else dealing with this? Any hints to not touch myself "out" with the baby so I still have touch left for my husband?  Our relationship is stronger than it's ever been before and I want to make sure it stays that way.  Touch has been major for both of us- not sex per se, but touching- always in our relationship. I don't want it to go away. 

[Keria]

I have no advice but  yeah I can definitely relate. I have one or two babies on me all day at the end of the day if I manage to get both of them sleeping (not on me) the last thing that I want is to snuggle. I tolerate it for a minute or two because I don't want to hurt DH's feelings but all I really  want is to get away to the other side of the bed as fast as possible. It's funny because I used to be the huggy kissy one in the relationship  but now DH is the one that is looking for affection all the time and I just can't.

[Kaydove]

I cannot stand DH to touch me while I'm nursing! I usually side lie nurse in bed and DH likes to put his arm on my back because I'm cooler to the touch than he is, but I can't handle it. It makes my skin crawl! I've told him so - please do not touch me while I'm nursing, makes me feel claustophobic. I find me spooning him after baby is asleep in the co-sleeper, is a touch thats not too much for me and he loves it.