help007, I mentioned it to my mom and she didn't understand at ALL until I got all emotional (unintentionally) and my voice cracked as I told her that I'm all alone here (women friends wise) and just wanted the beads from my women friends and family as a show of unity and sisterhood and support for me to mentally (and physically) bring to the birth with me. Then she was totally on board and starting listing who she thought should be on my list of bead suppliers :) She and her best friend (who is also a close family friend of mine) have already picked out their beads.
I was going to have a close friend arrange it, she offered when I mentioned it, but that is turning into a nightmare because her idea of how it should work is SO different than mine. She keeps asking where we're registered for gifts and what my paypal account is for people who want to send money - I'm thinking, thank you for everything, really, but I want BEADS and blessings or positive thoughts or nice birthing stories, or stories of sisterhood or whatever . . . not money and gifts and I really don't want people to have the impression that that's what this is about. I especially don't want people to have the added expense of shipping gifts overseas. Then she wanted to have it be a big online skype party with games and things, host events on her blog related to it, omg I was dying inside at the thought. I'm camera-shy, don't like big groups, and half the people on the list are much older and really can't even hack regular skype much less a group video :( but she is so loyal and great that it's hard to just shut it down. Still deciding how to deal with this, in the meantime I have not sent my list of 'participants' - eeeeh. any ideas on how to politely get out of this pickle?
So I'm thinking I will just get in touch with the ladies on my list (about 12-15 people) and tell them myself, and ask that because I live far away and won't be having a babyshower, would they be willing to participate and please send me a little bead, stone, or trinket that symbolized something special to them as a woman or a mother. Then explain that I will string them together and wear them while I'm in labor and then keep the necklace or bracelet as a treasure afterwards.
this makes more sense in my head and i need to clarify it a bit before i move forward with it . . . ykwim? wanted to get this out but it's late here and DH is pressuring me to wrap up and get to bed.