I find the ongoing discussion of risk about VBAC very interesting. There are risks in trying for a VBAC, but the medical side of risks are only a fraction greater than the normal risks faced by any pregnant mama. The caregiver side is where the variation seems so great. At most birth centers or at home, your risks are limited mostly to the medical side, and for many women who go for an HBAC, the overall results show a lower than average risk for major problems. But at the hospital, your risks are associated with the stats of whoever is on duty when you show up. If they happen to be the doc with a 46% CS rate who finds the ACOG guidelines on VBAC restrictive, your odds of having a problem go much higher because that doc will intervene as much as possible (and each intervention ups the risk factor).
Having a vaginal birth is not about the experience. Birth is something that a woman's body is fundamentally designed by G_d to do. Of course its not perfect (other bodily functions go wrong or are made harder for some as well), but its a design feature that, if left largely alone and helped as needed, works very well. So, yes, a vaginal birth is an easier experience on the mom- not just emotionally but physically as well, and I think its healthier (assuming that the CS is not medically necessary, and arguably a large part of them are not). I want a health baby and a healthy me, and the healthiest mom and baby combo is when a normal, uncomplicated pregnancy is allowed to come to a normal, uncomplicated birth process with breastfeeding at the end of the day. Unless you ahve some rare, hard, thing happen, there is no reason not to see this as a normal, uncomplicated pregnancy.
Also, healthy mom, healthy baby, is the stated goal of every CS. A healthy woman's body is designed to give birth normally (barring other circumstances). The only difference is a tiny risk that a) the hospital did technically cause and b) is going to involve more red tape if I want to go back there again. Why should I submit to things that put my body and my baby at higher risk, so that the doctor can feel safer about litigation? I won't. Its my body, my health, and I won't compromise it for someone else's convenience even if that someone is a doctor (who I happen to like and respect, btw). You can feel differently, and that's your choice, but for me its about picking the most reasonable option.